Is this abuse or am I overreacting?

Question

I told my husband I wanted to move to Alabama and he said that I could feel free to move there without him. I said that I want us to move there together. After another conversation to which he was dismissive about a subject I was excited about I told him again that I wanted to move to Alabama. He repeated that he would not go but that I could. I told him as I have before that marriage is about compromise and that it was my turn to have something that I want. He said he wasn’t having this conversation anymore and proceeded to walk about while I called out to him that it was my turn. He ignored me and plugged his ear so I said “screw you”. He immediately turned around and marched over to the couch where I was sitting, lifted up my leg and hit me. It hurt and continued to sting. He said he didn’t mean to hit me that hard. I was surprised that he hit me at all. I told him to go away and not to touch me. I started to ignore him. He kept speaking to me sternly and I refused to look at him. He punched the couch next to me and grabbed my phone and threatened to break it. I told him he would have to buy me a new one because he does not pay for my phone and it is not his. He handed it back to me and proceeded to stand in front of me while i attempted to watch my show and ignore him. When I refused to look at him or listen he grabbed my face with both hands and shook me. I kept ignoring him. He grabbed my wrist hard and took the remote and turned off the tv. It hurt. I cried out in pain and he said if I was going to be immature and treat him that we that he wanted to be with someone else. I said that if he touched me again that I would leave. I proceeded to ignore him and he continued to yell at me. He finally gave up and threw the remote at me and walked away. He said I better not show up to his basketball game that it was the only thing that made him happy. I turned on the tv and kept watching and pulled out my phone to write this.

Lionman95 · Accepted Answer

I think you´re both overreacting since you both talk at each other but not with each other.
A relationship and a marriage should include making a compromise but him moving with you to Alamba just because you want to move there isn´t a compromise. It means that he has to give up his social life to give you your will.
That´s what made him angry. That´s when overreacted because he probably like his social life where you live. You over reacted because you keep insisting on moving without giving the opportunity to share his opinion. I think the best way is that you both come together to talk about it and apologise to each other because you messed it together.

TallAnon · Accepted Answer

Yeap, he hurt you; It's pretty simple. You weren't touching him, he did hurt you. If we're talking about laws and sueing him etc. It comes down to whether you have proof he did this.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Y’all need to stop playing tug-of-war in your marriage. It’s obviously over. You’re not happy being in Kansas, and he has no problem letting you go. No reason to provoke him to anger and then turn to the internet when he slaps you around. Your marriage is over. There is no indication anywhere in your post that either of you still love each other.

Paris13 · Accepted Answer

**I Wrote a Play That Was Published on Domestic Violence and Abuse and Then Some... Yes, You are Being Abused. He may Do More in Store Down the No Fine Line so Make a Move to Relocate to Alabama. Get Far From Him and Hide. He is a Control Freak and Needs Help. xxoo

Anonymous · Answer

There was no reason to drown us in unnecessary details. All you had to say was he broke your phone and hit you. What lead up to the abuse is irrelevant. Hitting = abuse.