My mom just grabbed my arm really hard and now its red , is this abuse?

[Anonymous]

Am i overreacting? She has done things like this in the past. I am crying for some reason,

[Socket]

I wouldn't call it abuse, but that's just me. Growing up, my parents/grandparents/aunts/uncles did far worse physically to me than grab my arm really hard and I don't consider myself to have been abused by them.

If you are truly being abused then seek help from a teacher or other trusted adult. But I caution against crying wolf, the ramifications of a child abuse investigation, whether it be warranted or not, can and will profoundly change your life and the lives of those involved. Again, I reiterate that if you are being abused then seek help as soon as possible, but don't think that allegations of abuse can or should be levied against someone as retaliation for disagreements or the normal reward/punishment disciplinary relationship that's exsist between parent and child.

[wo_ah]

Heh, my mom used to grab me by the face when I was little, and do the exact same thing. 8 would freak out in the moment, but in the long run, I feel like it's made me a better and stronger person. An experience like this shouldn't call for a reaction close to the extremes. If she becomes a common repeat offender, it may be child abuse. Just don't take it too seriously.

[Paris13]

If mom has had some Reason of her own Season to Do anything Such as this Here, dear, She knows her Limits, although no Excuse to Lay her Hands on Anyone, hun. Bu tI am sure we have had some Moms who have used a Hand or even a Fly Swatter.
As long as she is Not Leaving Huge Marks on you Nor has Broken an Arm, no Huge Harm. However, it might not Hurt you to sit her Down, get on the Same Page with No.. Rage.
Good Luck. xx

[Paris13]

Thank you for the Like, hun. xx

[Paris13]

Thank you for the Vote of Confidence. xx

[MimiMin]

No need to cry. Shit happens and people do things they shouldn't, if she does it again tell her firmly that u don't appreciate being grabbed.

[VickyRed]

I wouldn't can that abuse, she probably hasn't realise she'd been that hard. Was she angry with you by any chance?

[Mofunfour20]

Depends on weather or not her intent on grabbing your arm was to hurt you. Did you ask? Tears might be streaming because you don't know the reason why

[Asker]

I can ask her she is locked in her room

[Asker]

Can't* but she was angry when she grabbed me i think its because i am up this late when i have school . I have a bruise now

[Mofunfour20]

School on Martin Luther King day, really?

[Mofunfour20]

That's exactly what he was against, violence. Make a peaceful approach when the tension fades

[Asker]

Sorry i dont live in the us

[Mofunfour20]

Wow, that's my bad. Apologize and see what direction her feedback goes to, if it's her home it's her rules. we only get two parents in life so just be respectful

[Asker]

Ok i'll try thanks. If i'm gonna be honest i called her a liar so maybe thats what also got her angry

[Mofunfour20]

Yeah you should apologize but hey no one's perfect but that's what makes life unpredictable. How else would we learn from mistakes without admitting we mess up

[Soniant]

if you consider that abuse, you should see what i do to my siblings hahaha
karate, tae kwan do... you name it, i did it...
lol, but yr over reacting.

[CapnHawk]

My dad used to beat me with a bamboo switch. That's abuse, not what you're crying about.

[Asker]

Oh wow im so sorry you were mistreated like that, no one deserves. I just feel violated

[iamdesperate]

I don't think it is abuse. She must be upset. You should show respect.

[vnon123]

Thats nothin but some discipline. Just because you were hurt doesn't mean its abuse. Now if she hite you in the face then yea thats bad.

[SovereignessofVamps]

Sounds like it could be abuse, like she has anger issues.

[ThisDudeHere]

I wouldn't say it is. Grabbing an arm is a far cry from spanking or something of the sort.

[martyfellow]

She just got carried away with affection for you, I think

[martyfellow]

Calling her a liar is disrespectful, that provoked her.

[Decentguy]

you are over reacting
dont worry
im sure she didn't had any intentions for that

[Asker]

:( im crying. I feel unloved

[Decentguy]

oh dont cry, its all right
im pretty sure your mom loves you very much, she done that by mistakenly, im sure
so dont cry, just go to your mom and tell her that you are hurt because of her and that you feel very sad

[HookedOnSalt]

Having grown up under an Indian mom, I call your situation light petting.

[Soniant]

I have grown up in an arab household, i think both r similar😂😂😂😂 you raced me to it

[Wwwyzzerdd]

Needs more detail to get an honest answer that isn't presumptive.

[colbylane_]

I don't think that is considered abuse. It was probably unintentionally.

[Dousj]

No its not, you're just frail

[peachblossomluck]

Why did she grab your arm?

[Iraqveteran666]

Yes you should leave home and support yourself.

[vnon123]

you must be trolling

[Iraqveteran666]

@vnon123 says she's 17. Your an adult at 16

[cupidkisses]

you have a sensitive skin.

[2shredded]

It'l be okay, things get better

[ElissaDido]

overreacting

[Asker]

Have you ever been grabbed by your mom really hard that it left red marks and a bruise? Just curious. I want to know if this is a normal thing or if i should report her because i feel so sad. she's actually a nice person she was very angry during the attack

[ElissaDido]

I don't remember being grabbed but I was spanked for sure! Why was she angry at you if I may ask? How often does it happen?

[Ayshea]

Very dramatic.

[Asker]

Why?

[reixun]

Lmfao

[Asker]

How is this funny :( ?

[reixun]

Abuse means it's repetitive excessive violence. An arm grab isn't abuse.

[Asker]

Still doesn't make it funny though. Im sitting here crying and all you can say is "lmfao" ? :(

[reixun]

K sry

oafmL

I took it back see^

[reptocarl]

You're over reacting

[Asker]

Ok. She grabbed realy hard and there is a bruise now

[reptocarl]

You're still overreacting

[Anonymous]

No abuse. Not even close.

[babeeeone]

That's not abuse..

[Asker]

At the very least isn't it violent to do so? I know that when i become a mom i will never lay a finger on my kids. So this just shocks me

[babeeeone]

What was the situation, why did she grab you like that?

[Asker]

Cause it's 1 am where i live, im still up. She doesn't like it when i stay up. and i called her a liar over something. She got very angry tried to prove me wrong and grabbed me to show that she wasn't lying

[JustinTheGreat]

You're overreacting

[Anonymous]

What did you do?

[Shane00]

No its not.

[mikey112]

no it's not an abuse

[Anonymous]

yes! you should kill your mom

[wo_ah]

Wtf no

[Asker]

@wo_ah

[Asker]

I would never kill my mom ! Even if she kept hurting me i love her , she gave me life

[Opinion Owner]

just kidding -.- , your mom still loves you even if she hurts you sometimes.. so no need to ask this question:)