Does it come across as obsessive to try four times across two years to make peace with a former friend who actively spreads lies about you?

[Anonymous]

The person used to be your friend, but now they have some problem with you, the details of which you can't know. They are actively spreading lies about you and have poisoned other new friendships/relationships that you try to make as well.

You try to reach out to this person, at first to make peace, and then later to simply ask them to stop lying about you, a total of 4 times across 2.5 years.

Does that come across as obsessive?

Obsessive creeper status

Maybe a little weird, but I understand it

That doesn't seem weird at all to me

[Anonymous]

Yea mainly because accepting people are just not gonna give you an answer is a part of growing accepting that people are just not going to like you

[Asker]

Can you place a vote on the poll?

[Opinion Owner]

No because I’m in between 2 answers

[Asker]

Oh... well, which two?

[Opinion Owner]

A and B A because you’re not leaving the subject alone and B because I get why you aren’t leaving the subject alone because people aren’t always respectful of other people’s lives

[Asker]

Gotcha... yeah, it's really the continued antagonism that gets me. Like I understand that he doesn't like me anymore and I'm honestly pretty much fine with that, but what gives with the continued sabotage of other relationships? That shit just takes it to a whole other level.