My friend said I'm an over thinker. How do I know if what she said is true?

[Anonymous]

My friend said the other day that I am an "overthinker." Usually I trust her judgement but I don't really think I'm overthink things. How do I know if it's true or not?

[Effably]

Overthinking does not neccessitate being overly analytical or always considering things in too much depth. Rather the contextual meaning tends to be that sometimes you can take things as face value and just accept them as they are.

Thinking is a positive trait. Learning to assess things fairly and realizing that the most reasonable and obvious answer is often the right one helps.

But to overthink a little, because it can be fun, what context was it said in? Very realistically your friend felt you were taking a line of thought too far and missing the obvious. Perhaps someone cute introduced themselves? What was the situation at hand?

[Asker]

Thank you. She said it because I was explaining to her that she hurt my feelings because of something she said. She said I have a tendency to overthink. So who's right? I don't know.

[Effably]

I would guess that her intention was to convey that it was not meant as a thought-through opinion that you should take to heart but rather just something that came up in the moment.

Not everyone speaks with intent or even means half the things they say. Really as an overthinker myself it sounds more like a pretty feeble attempt at her saying sorry.

[Asker]

This sounds about right. Thank you so much. :)

[Wise4myage]

Do you ever get stuck on one thing someone said? And can’t let it go?

[Asker]

Hmm, occasionally but only if that thing said hurt in some way. I will think about it until I bring it up with the person (which is only a short time tbh.)

[Wise4myage]

That’s not over thinking

[WhitneySnow]

Analyze the way you think. See if it’s true or not.

[Asker]

I don't think so honestly?

[WhitneySnow]

Then I guess it’s not true. You’re the best judge of how you think.

[exitseven]

Because you are overthinkin this.

[Asker]

This isn't overthinking.

[Anonymous]

You’re literally doing it right now lol

[Asker]

Asking a question and reflecting when someone claims you're something you're not isn't "overthinking". It's just self-reflection.

[Opinion Owner]

You said usually you trust her judgment but basically not sure if this is correct, you didn’t make a snap decision and have dwelled on her opinion enough to ask this question. Overthinking.

[Asker]

It's not though, I will just agree to disagree with you. Sorry.

[Opinion Owner]

Don’t apologize to me, it’s your brain lol

[Asker]

I know I was being polite. lol

[Opinion Owner]

Alright☺️