Should I give up on trying to make friends?

[BlackElph]

I have generalized anxiety disorder and it's especially bad in social situations. Every now and then I try to put myself out there to make a friend but it's hard to let people close. I thought I met someone that I could call friend but she ghosted me after I quit my last job. I know I'm still young but I'm tired of putting myself out there.

[Jeansnowstarkbastard]

I have had social anxiety and still do to some extent.
But at a certain stage in my life it was a paralyzing fear of speaking to someone
So i went to therapy for about 6 weeks and then after that continued the sessions for a further 4 months.

But i still dont make friends easily.
But one thing to remember is that people like you and me make friendships that are deeply meaningful.
Because we struggle so much to make friends, we forge bonds that are much deeper and we treasure them.
I know you will have the chance to make some friends one day, and they will be lucky to have you.

[BlackElph]

I really appreciate you saying that.

[Jeansnowstarkbastard]

No problem.
If it was in a debate with real people i would have either frozen completely or walked out.

[humanearth]

Hey never give up making friends. I used to be shy person.

Till a friend of mine got me a CB Radio

Then I became a CB Radio star

I used to be really famous in the 80s and 90s on the CB

Try a CB Radio. I like to call it the Redneck Internet

Here is what my old radio gear looked like

[BlackElph]

That's really cool

[humanearth]

Now I hold every radio class license there is. I could even run a professional radio station if I wanted to.

But I choice to be the weirld cross dressing farmer that does impersonations of my uncle Tony from Brooklyn, while break dancing in the corn field and at the same time I have to stay hidden from the cows with guns

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=FQMbXvn2RNI

[Msputiton]

No. You seem like a potential good friend.

I would say don't give up because you are interested in making friends, so keep in mind there are people who will love you for you. They are not always easy to find, because of how many people there are in the world, but when you do. It's worth it.

If possible seek therapy, they are really good at figuring out these things. They can help explore what causes your anxiety, and help you find what works best for you to overcome it.

[BlackElph]

I started this spring actually. I need to start going more often but It's helped some tbh. but it especially helped me through a hard time this summer. and I'll try and keep that in mind

[Msputiton]

I'm glad it has helped.
Keep it up, and I hope it works out for you

[BlackElph]

I will and thank you

[Anonymous]

Honestly, if you have a boyfriend, you do not need a sack full of shit, best friends. I only have one friend, and I don't want any more fake friends.

[BlackElph]

Yeah that's true

[Pot8o]

What are some traits you don't and do want in a friend?

[BlackElph]

A friend who won't gossip behind my back. Someone kind, someone genuine. Also, we should have something in common whether God, marvel, or something else.

[Pot8o]

That sounds good, do you go to religious events or comic events/stores/conventions/whatever?

[NathanDavis]

have you tried therapy before...

[BlackElph]

I started this pass spring

[NathanDavis]

and... is it helping? any progress?

[BlackElph]

yes, i've managed to open up to my boyfriend a lot. and It has helped with some other things

[NathanDavis]

then I think you should focus on that instead... for now

your progress, your relationship with your boyfriend... and not quit on making friends, just some sort of pause... till you find yourself in a much better situation to try again

[BlackElph]

I think you are right. thanks