Why does it feel so weird to be bonding with my parents?

[Anonymous]

I've been into fishing lately and I know my dad is into it and I thought about asking him to go tomorrow. It feels so awkward to do things like that with either of my parents and I hate it because I love them and I know they dont (in a way) not have very much time left in life. Theyre not super old just hittinng their 50s one having a serious heart problem (Widow maker Hear Attack) and my mother having osteoporosis which isn't life threatning but still. i love my whole family and can't show it. I always seem ljke I dont give a shit even when I do. I don't know how to change the feeling?

[Rosexøxø]

Depends on how old you are. If you're independent- I can tell you right now, you won't feel bad about being close to them because you won't feel any shame or embarrassed.

Adult children who are mature and caring still have fun with their parents and help out.

If you're at a certain age where you're still somewhat dependent, or just transitioning into full independence- it may just be awkwardness from that.

My suggestion? Hurry and get yourself situated. DON'T be too hard on yourself.

Spend a decent amount of time with them, but not all of it because at some point they like all parents, will you know, "make their rounds" to pass on, and we don't want you to feel empty or ripped apart inside.

I relate to this because I am the youngest of 5. My parents had me late in their lives, and I experienced these very similar emotions of discomfort with them, but wanting to do better. To do right for them, and be there for them, while they're retiring comfortably.

Don't look for them to be proud of you. Be proud of YOURSELF. Love them regardless. Love yourself regardless. Welcome any fun opportunities along the way. Don't focus so much on their poor state. Just meet any needs for them, if those arise, and when they do, and if you are able. If you have siblings- talk about it with them.

seriously.. don't be so hard on yourself, okay? <: )

Share it with someone you trust: a sibling or friend.

[Guy13]

Dude, I bet they sense it. Express it verbally or in action, please. I feel it through a damn machine... Tell them... show them... BUT I am almost positive they sense your depth and caring. Some woman/Wifey will be quite lucky with you.