My best friend calls me distant if I don’t text her every day. Am I being a bad friend or distant?

[Anonymous]

My best friend has some anxiety amongst other mental health struggles. I try to reassure her as much as possible that if I don’t message her for a day or two it doesn’t mean anything other than I’m busy. She texted me today asking if i’m okay and was concerned cause I was distant. It had been less than 24 hours since we’ve talked.

I don’t know what I can do here. I do my best, but I can’t keep up with the reassurance she needs.

Please if anyone has advice or comments please share!

[HollyK21]

What you have to do is start setting boundaries/limits, and don’t make yourself feel guilty about it. Friends like this are just too high maintenance, and it’s important for her to understand that you have a life outside of your friendship with her, and it’s ok not to talk every single day. It’s possible that she associates your absence with abandonment, but this isn’t the case at all, and if you have to explain that to her then do it. I know you have love for her and do your best to show support, but your mental health absolutely has to come first, because you can’t help anyone when you aren’t taking care of yourself.

[Biancam13]

Communicate with her what you said to us here. Just say in a gentle way, that you love and care for her and want to talk to her but you can't always find time in the day since you are working loads. She'll understand. I get that she's going through a tough time right now, and I hope she's ok, but even then she should understand that you work as well.

[savagewolf22]

Very well said...

[Anonymous]

Ma'am it's just take a sec to text if you care for her.. I'm definitely sure you're not busy as president of country.

Just text her good morning or have a nice day every morning.

You both are buddies. So ofc she miss you.

[Asker]

I work in aviation so that’s not possible. when i’m in the air I have no means of communication, when I’m on the ground I have employees to manage. I text her when I can when I get off. It still just doesn’t seem to be enough.

[Opinion Owner]

Ma'am don't overthink she just miss you as a friend lol it's a cute complaint. Relaxed. Tell her bro I'm busy in work but whenever I get free I text you always.

Seems you're good buddy.