Do you forgive when your friend makes a mistake or cut off ties immediately?

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NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

that would greatly depend on what kind of "mistake" but still... a mistake usually means that there is no intention to do harm, or as they call it "honest mistake"

my friends, the best and close ones have been there for 12, and 16 and even 20 years... and they have never ever do anything to intentionally hurt me or do any wrong to me, not intentionally not by mistake either so... 12 to 20 years is a LONG time, and I would never throw that away just over a "mistake"

in fact, if someone has done wrong a couple of times, it was me... lol, and they understood that it was "just a mistake" zero intention to do any wrong to them

now if they were intentionally doing wrong, then I would take them to a hospital because they would clearly be out of their minds, or their beings would have been kidnapped by some alien creature or ungodly thing

they just don't do that kind of stuff... my best and close friends, they're all, better people than I am... lol

SnowedIn · Accepted Answer

Forgive, usually. Like so many others have said, it really depends on the mistake. Cut my grass too low? Not even an issue. Cheat on my wife with me or hurt my kids? Friendship is probably done. Take my tiramisu and coffee? Not another word. But, here's the thing: i make mistakes. Gazillions of them. Never intending to hurt people but mistakes/bad decisions nonetheless. I want forgiveness. I don't like non-resolution between friends. I give the same as I want.

misfittoy · Accepted Answer

depends what exactly was done, had a friend or what i thought was a friend months ago helped her with all she needed help with, got her all settled then at the end to accuse another male friend of mine of messaging her with sexual things via facebook. she said he is good-looking but i would never, i asked for the messages and continued to let her hang herself, finally i said i know he never message you anything like that because he is gay. that told me a lot about trailer park type of people, stay away from them. so i cut her off asap, i have no time for that in my life especially to start up and lie for zero reason but to make drama? i ain't got time for it. so again depends but in that instance totally cut her foo, blocked etc

Bethany22 · Accepted Answer

Depends on what the mistake is. I usually forgive them if they complete tasks incorrectly at work. If they forget to pay me back for coffee they asked me to pick up for them, then that's a different story

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Depending on what it is, you have to wonder if they were ever really your friend. I can think of at least two toxic narcissists I'd sooner cast into the sea than take back.

I'd like to think most of my other ancient enemies have seen the error of their ways, and become somebody decent. Doesn't mean I'd immediately trust them.

Summeroflove · Answer

A mistake is almost always able to work through. Someone deliberately pulling something can be another story.

But it depends on the situation and the totality of the circumstances. I can almost always forgive. But it doesn’t mean I will let someone walk on me. Doesn’t mean I will always forget.

alexses · Answer

It depends on various things. We can all make mistakes, the real problem is lack of respect and the kind of consequences.
Then you also have to consider the person’s way of being, the situations in which a mistake happens. It is useless to forgive a mistake if the person is toxic, does not understand what he is doing and will systematically continue to make mistakes with us and with other people.

slatyb · Answer

A mistake? Like what? Some are deal breakers, most are forgivable.

For example, we had a woman who lent her car to someone who promised not to smoke in her car. They did anyway. That's a deal breaker.

Failing to show up somewhere as promised -- mostly forgivable but if it happens more than twice I will put them in the "unreliable" column and stop making plans that depend on their appearance.

libsaretards · Answer

I forgive them. Forgiving them is independent of whether or not the friendship continues though. I can forgive someone but also cut them off if they are toxic. However, it is very rare for me to cut a friend off because I take a long time to open up and I am very loyal once you earn my trust and friendship. I've literally taken bullets for friends before.

Tenebrae_mentis · Answer

Depends on the severity of the mistake and how often they make them. I like to think I'm pretty reasonable and forgiving, but everyone has their limits.

aquamarine321 · Answer

I’m not even sure as I think about it, because I have forgiven certain friends, while I haven’t for some………………………. I’m actually the forgive type of person as I think about it, if you did me wrong I will stay my distance for a while it all depends could be seconds to years

WhitneySnow · Answer

Depends how bad the mistake is I’m glad you like tennis 🙂

Kori1236 · Answer

Depends on what they’ve done. But if I cut off my friends every time they fucked up, or if they cut me off every time I fucked up. I would have no friends. Mistakes are apart of life.

petitedollbabee · Answer

Depends on the mistake and whether it was actually a mistake that they learn from, or a “mistake” that they keep repeating.

Noahzaid · Answer

I have cut a lot of friends out of my life because I didn’t like their way of life so I can’t imagine what would happen If they did me wrong.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

If my friends upset me - I avoid them for days or weeks or months or years and then give them another chance.

Raiden93 · Answer

I can forgive a mistake. Its harder to forgive intentional.

lottiebannotie · Answer

I forgive but I don't forget so if they keep doing the same treatment then bye bye

melisaaa · Answer

If he or she did this for once, it is okay to forgive, but if this happened so many times, i wouldn't forgive

bolverk · Answer

Forgive - after a few well chosen epithets are thrown at them, true friends are hard to find.

TroyDT2 · Answer

Too vague. I messed up your dinner mistake or I killed your dog mistake?

AdithyaR · Answer

Depends on the mistake. Some can be forgiven, some warrant an immediate cut.

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely because the garage is very heavy to carry and I always figure that they’re trying to establish a boundary for their own life and I can respect that 100%

LivingExample · Answer

If depends on if they are willing to Admit their mistake!

DrBanana · Answer

It’s really depends on what they did

LavLavLuv · Answer

It depends on what they did

dustybiker · Answer

Friends come and go. That is natural.

Agape93 · Answer

Depends on the mistake

OddBeMe · Answer

We all make mistakes everyday. Depends on how big.

In_Trance · Answer

what kind of mistake?

Minahh · Answer

Depends how big the mistake is

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

What's the mistake?

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