I never asked for strategies to get a boyfriend, but parent is repeatedly telling me to try going on a dating site because the social events I've been going to for the past two months haven't resulted in me meeting someone. Don't you think that there is a lot wrong with that comment? First of all, she's giving me unsolicited advice, two, that I should always be on the lookout for a boyfriend, and three, that I should be having a panic attack because I haven't found a boyfriend 'my way' within a short span of two months. At least that's the way I interpret that behavior. Any other interpretations?
Nobody in this world actually cares about you, except your parents!..
They have the right to give unsolicited advice!..
A boyfriend won't drop from sky for you.
Relationship needs to be made with time efforts and sacrifice
Your parents if not updated with the world might not give the exactly right advice but the essense of what they are trying to say , that you need to understand. . because worlds changing so fast! And our parents are getting old..
Filter out all negative translation and discard them, because your parents don't mean those and they won't help in any way..
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I don't know about toxic. Although constantly saying it could bring it to a toxic level. I think she is trying to say that she really loves you and wants you to find a guy that loves you too.
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Nobody likes unsolicited advice. Now as for giving advice I think most people who are looking should utilize dating apps, going out to try an meet people, etc. Everyone should have a balanced approach. Stop worrying about your parents and focus on what actually matters. Your parents make some good points so don't hate on them. You should get your face out of your phone when you are in line for coffee. You should be making eye contact when you see someone you like. In the end this isn't rocket science however most people focus on wrong shit... like bitching about their parents instead of actually taking good advice no matter who it comes from.
Oh dear, well this topic is always really mixed. My mom has never had any pressure on me and my sister what so ever. My sister is 8y older then I'm, she has since long found her husband. They have 3 children.
In this sense I'm the "dark sheep" in our family 😂 I've never been the "norm" person. I work and follow all these yadda yadda routines we all have. But other then that, no thank you.
Your parents are entitled to have their opinions, but things don't really work like when they were young in a lot of aspects. And you should be able to live your life the way you see fit. Take what you want from their advice then just put the deaf ear, if it becomes a personal problem for you.
Most of my friends has issues making their parents bornt in the 50-60s (like mine) understand, that times change.
And they should simply just trust the childrens judgement.
Are you happy? I mean that's more important then anything really 👍Ug. Way to water down the meaning of the word toxic. Having that view of your parent's act of concern is what is toxic.
Parents, which I am won, care more abut their children than anyone who has never had them will ever know. She cares about you and maybe the advice is bad, but it isn't "toxic."
I receive unsolicited opinion and advice on girlfriends from my parents almost every Sunday, however, I do not consider it Toxic. A Narcissist is toxic, although, unsolicited relational analysis can be an inconvenient reality.
For me, I know no others who posses a greater concern for my welfare than them. Thank God that I do not bruise easily 😎
Parent cares about daughter and is offering advice. You have the option of taking it or not, your choice. What difference does it make if it's unsolicited? Many people would love to be in your situation; instead they have parents who don't care.
I think that's just what parents do (specifically mom's) My mother insisted that I just hadn't found the right woman yet ad nauseum every family holiday. It wasn't till I turned 40 that she finally changed her tune and started going "I think he's going to stay a bachelor". It was funny to, because it was such and about face. 🤣
I think parents always want to give the kids advice, and often times it's not because they're trying to control you or degrade your choices. It may not be the best advice, sometimes you have to look elsewhere or internally.
Imagine thinking your parents somehow need permission or solicitation to give you advice. What planet do you live on? Your parents should not try to force you to find a boyfriend if you don't want one, however, given that you've been going to social events with the purpose of finding a boyfriend, giving you advice on how to fulfill that goal is not out of order.
Aren’t you 27? Can’t you just tactfully tell them you don’t need any advice on how to find a suitable partner?
In any event, they are probably traditional and think you need to be married off. I don’t feel like they mean any offence or malice.Definitely toxic. She should let you find one at your own pace. And istg if they think like "but her biological clock is ticking!" Like no shi, Suzanne, but your daughter needs to find a guy who sees her more than a breeder. SMH
Giving advice is part of parenting, so I don’t think it is toxic unless it is done with the aim of demeaning you. That said, it might not be good advice and you can make your own decision about it.
Unlews youve never had a boyfriend before this isn't nice/fair
It's really hard to say which behaviour is toxic anymore, it has just become an online buzzword being thrown around like confetti these days.
Yeah, I always worry if my parents would try to give me relationship advice, I couldn't handle it with my poor self-esteem.
Nobody should ever give a woman advice. You're 27. You know exactly how to find and keep a good man. Just keep being yourself and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
she's probably worried about you because you're 27? anyway, just say thanks and ignore the advice.
Since when is a parent giving their kid advice toxic? You think you're better than your own mother? If you don't agree, then at least it's just advice, don't follow it. But to accuse your mom of being toxic? Something's wrong with you.
I would call that, being helpful and caring about YOU.
I think your parents are worried about you that you don't have boyfriend. so they told you to visit dating site so that you can have one.
Unsolicited dating advice is at least annoying, and in your case could very well be toxic.
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