Do you turn to others when you’re going through heavy stuff?

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I hate stressing people out with my drama. When I’m going through things I need everyone I love to be super fine 😂. The last thing I need is my shit… and then then feeling shit too!

Novacane · Accepted Answer

Thinking about it now, I have never really turned to someone when it comes to heavy personal stuff. I guess I have always been the kind of person that just deals with things on their own and rely on myself to figure it out or to experience that pain alone. I always tend to be a private person. The only times I have spoken to friends/people about personal stuff is usually if it just happens to come up in conversation. I know I said I am a private person but I am also an open book. See the reason for that is that I do tend to keep things to myself that is more because I just assume people dont care and they have their own problems going on so I never bother to let people know, I rather hear from them and I consolidate them and even offer some advice. But if you ask the right question I will give you answers, nothing is off-limit with me.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

I also hate to bring my difficulties to other but I still do it when absolutely necessary and it with is truly heavy stuff... if I come to you in need, is because I'm already beyond my limits which, are not short at all... lol

fortunately though... the people in my life are the kind of people that will keep an eye on me, and will always reach even or before I go to them and then, I do not close on them either

TenderFantasy · Accepted Answer

I think for me it would depend on what it is. Unfortunately life's not that easy, and it's pretty damn complicated and sometimes downright cruel or strict so I think it's best to, access the situation. If you think there is something someone could do to help you, especially a loved one/family member or friend, then, I wouldn't think it would be too bad, especially if they didn't mind. Otherwise, yeah, it would be a good idea to probably just law low for the time being and feel things out first before proceeding with something.

Nomina · Accepted Answer

I turn to a specific few. Go back and forth between figuring things out on my own and getting their input.
If all I need is venting, I know who I can vent to. If I need solutions, same thing.
And the same people can turn to me and do on occasion.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

I emotionally vomit on people all the time, guess that answers the question. At the same time I try to be helpful for others in tough times.

Only time I really get sick of it, is when it seems like someone is playing me for attention and doesn't really want to resolve the issues.

Anonymous · Answer

I.. get mostly out of the people's eyes. I deactivated my social media. I go out to eat alone, buy groceries, exercise, buy other stuff.

I am on the current boat now.

The only people I talk to now is co-workers, because I need my job.

SeriouslyFunny00 · Answer

No. I deal with those myself. 😂 but if it gets too heavy, I'm going to talk to someone. Sometimes just letting it out and knowing someone listens to you helps.

jshm2 · Answer

No. Mainly as I am organised and networked enough to never go through "heavy stuff". I tend to be the one who helps friends through their issues, though.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

My best friend has known me for 51 years and I trust his advice completely. He is the one to whom I turn.

BlueScorpio · Answer

If you always feel like you can't ever turn to friends and family when going through something rough in your life, then that's an issue and those relationships need to be reevaluated.

mstbooblover · Answer

Generally I tend to try and solve my problems without bothering other people uselessly. Maybe after things have cleared out, and depending on some particular friends and circumstances I may talk a bit about the involved difficulties.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

They've let me know that I am welcome to so I do :)

Anonymous · Answer

I am getting better about turning to others for help. Though through my life having support from others has not always been a reliable thing for me, so I learned to bury it - which really is not so healthy for my mental health, especially because I feel things so deeply. Thankfully, I have a few people these days who I can turn to (and they turn to me as well) when things are hard, and they help me process the situation rather than stuffing it away.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Everyone needs someone to turn to at times. I say as long as you don't constantly burden someone with your shit it's fine. Also be fine with people telling you the hell with your shit because they got their own shit to worry about.

Agape93 · Answer

For minor things sure, or if I'm just depressed. But if it's serious or pointless to discuss, I won't bother.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

No I turn to my family and friends and you should too just like you want them to be fine they want you to be fine as well

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I don't need emotional support most of the time but I do want attention to feel like I matter and they care.

Anonymous · Answer

I never involve others in my personal life. I always deal with things alone. I have no family nor close friends, so I don't really have a choice.

dustybiker · Answer

No. I write it down and burn it. Release the negative back into the universe.

Guardian45 · Answer

Compartmentalizing your pain is unhealthy and will take years off your life..

NightmarePanda · Answer

I usually turn to others, I've seen what happens when people keep to themselves, and I don't like it one bit. If I don't think other's can handle it, I'll usually self-decompress by writing it down for later, when I'm ready to talk.

dolemite89 · Answer

i don’t tell people about my problems that’s something a girl would do lol

DancingQueen16 · Answer

Yeah because when my grandpa died my best friend helped cheer me up

exitseven · Answer

I keep it all inside and deal with it on my own.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I lock it away in a box, encase the box in cement, take the boat five miles off the coast, and drop it in the ocean.

AmeerX · Answer

Very important decision and I might give subtle cues but others I am tight lipped and take things to the chin

Anonymous · Answer

no i tune out and disappear. been doing that a lot lately...

AdithyaR · Answer

I will try my maximum to not do so unless i really desperately need help.

TaureanBull81 · Answer

I may ask for some advice on the best course of action before acting upon it.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

I’ll tell someone what I’m going through if I want them to know me better but I don’t seek help because I know I won’t get it

AimeeKyle · Answer

I usually keep it to myself….. Occasionally I will take it to a very select few.

Jennz6 · Answer

I get some good advice from my friends here

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, you can't carry some burdens by yourself, so team lifting is best.

bean2k21 · Answer

I turn to the Incredible Hulk and we throw heavy objects.

Lexina · Answer

I find it difficult to open up but I muster up courage once a while and voice out to my brother or crush

Alexalex92 · Answer

Well I would talk to someone I trust but not telling my stuff all the time, I would tell what makes me sad or whatever and then talk about other things too.

loveslongnails · Answer

I consult my buddy Jack Daniels.

ChefPapiChulo · Answer

i just verbally abuse people on GaG.

Vinnygraphix · Answer

Honestly no reason being i have no one to turn too.

Lizardman64 · Answer

No, mostly due to not having anyone to turn too.

DavidRaul · Answer

No i just deal it with myself

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

I usually keep it to myself.

Andres77 · Answer

Seldom, if ever

douride2 · Answer

Most times I simply keep it to myself.

Cassie2002 · Answer

With my close friends and family yes.

Date_a_Snob · Answer

Yes friends and family

Likes2drive · Answer

I talk to others and it relieves the stress

collie22 · Answer

All the time

Anonymous · Answer

I turn to GAG

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