Do you find it easier to talk about your struggles with strangers or with people you’re close to?

[12karen]

Personally, it’s definitely easier to talk about my struggles with strangers than with someone close to me, like family or friends. When I speak to a stranger, even if they judge me or pity me, it doesn’t affect me as much. I might never meet them, so I don’t have to worry about them looking at me with pity or making things awkward later. But with family or friends, it’s different. I care about how they perceive me, and I know their reactions might linger, which can make me feel more vulnerable. I worry about them carrying that discomfort with them, and I don’t want that to change the way they see me.

That being said, it’s a completely different story when it comes to my partner. A partner, for me, should be someone I feel comfortable telling absolutely everything to, no matter how difficult or personal. It’s about trust and the sense that they’ll support me without judgment. They’re the one person I should feel safe opening up to about all my struggles, knowing they’ll understand and be there for me, rather than feeling like I'm burdening them.

Just to clarify, when I talk about struggles here, I mean personal problems, not relationship issues. Relationship problems, whether with a partner or anyone else, are a different matter; they’re conversations I would want to have within the relationship itself.

But personal struggles, the things I go through individually, are what I mean here.

[ohsheeT]

If you talk to your family or to your friends about your struggles then anytime something else happens they're going to know something about someone or whatever that's none of their business and then you're going to have to hear them judge you're going to have to hear them and their drama and their opinions and it's never going to be left alone again

Our struggles that we go through each and every day are our struggles... And it's only a struggle until we figure it out and once we figure it out and that light goes off in her head it becomes something beautiful most of the time if the light didn't go off in our head then something else will happen this kind of the same but a little bit different and we're going to go through that learning experience again

Struggles or struggles they're that simple

Failure is success is that simple

But you have to fail in order to succeed to understand failure it's the same with struggles you have to struggle to see the light to find the rhythm to understand the moment whatever it might be it's only a struggle for a moment but it's your struggle nobody else is and nobody else's business because once you allow them into your business they're always going to be in your business all the wrong times all the wrong moments and they not even going to know what they're even talking about half the time

Don't look at something like a struggle pain. look at it as a challenge. The struggle is here to hold me back this challenge is here to hold me back for a reason to teach me what to make me open my eyes for what reason to look at things different how..


I mean if you were struggling to get up in mountain because you knew there was water up there what would you do you would just keep going wouldn't you you would fight your way through it and you would know you needed to do it because you need water troubles are all put in all our lives to make us learn something to make us grow to make us understand and if we don't we do it again just in a little bit different way

So no matter what it is if you're going through. Take it on take a couple steps back and really look at it think about it and then hit it head on it's not that bad or big of a deal really we might think it is in that moment and sometimes it is but every struggle that you've been through and all the rest of your life you've made it through haven't you you're going to make it through this one too when you allow yourself to everything that we go through you have to allow yourself to beat it to understand it to become it grow with it

If you believe in yourself and if you believe in God if you believe in the universe well guess what they all have your back they're not going to let you struggle by yourself and try to remember this
Anytime you are down and out are you feel like you are remember this breathe in deep through your nose and out through your nose and every time you do that remember your breath is your friend think about it your breath is your friend your breath is what get you up in the morning your breath is what makes you walk makes you sing make you smile it is a part of you it is your friend is the closest thing to you it what makes you live your breath is your friend and think about that every time you breathe in because your breath will help you especially if you breathe into your nose and after your nose is you're feeding your body oxygen your brain oxygen your organs oxygen and that's what they all need to succeed and water good water your breath is your friend you get your parents and Friends involved they're always going to be involved and they're a big pain in the ass it's wrong times wrong places

[12karen]

Thank you for sharing such thoughtful insights!
I really appreciate your perspective on struggles and challenges. It’s true that when we face difficulties, it's easy to feel overwhelmed, but reframing them as opportunities for growth can really shift our mindset. I agree that it's important to handle personal matters privately to avoid external judgments. It’s comforting to remember that with faith in ourselves and a higher power, we’re never truly alone in our struggles. I also love the reminder about the importance of breathing, it’s such a simple yet powerful practice. I’ll definitely keep these ideas in mind as I navigate my own challenges

[Tarifa]

It's great to have a different view from someone else who is not prejudiced, so they can tell you exactly what they think, without fear of hurting your feelings. But at other times, a close relative or friend can be what you need at that particular time.

So I'd say both are valuable options.

[12karen]

I like your perspective

[Tarifa]

Thanks !!

[AI Opinion]

My aim here is to help navigate those complex relationship dynamics! 🤗 It can be fascinating how vulnerability works, right? It's like we want to protect our closest peeps from seeing us struggle but can be super open with a stranger. You nailed it with the partner part, though! Having someone who’s got your back no matter the chaos is pure gold. Trust is the ultimate magic glue. Remember, your personal journey and comfort zones are unique to you, and that’s perfectly okay. Gotta love the intricacies of human connections! 🌟

[DishLady]

When you say "strangers" do you mean just ANYONE or a therapist type person (in a confidential setting)?

It depends on the problem. If there's someone who would know what to do in a particular situation, then of course go talk to that person, but I'm more comfortable knowing that it's a reliable person than someone out of the blue (like a bartender or rando who sits next to me), you know?

[NathanDavis]

back in the days, when I had many more personal struggles and issues (childhood and early teens) I just had it difficult to talk with anyone about it, even to myself... it was not easy to face it... strangers or known people made no difference to me

but that changed as I turned 12 and made a friend in middle-school... it was my friend, the first one I ever opened to, with these things... it was never easy for me, but with her I felt at such ease when telling her about these things, she... was different, on that regard

after that, it became easier to me, to be more open with those who are close to me, and by this I mean friends and partners too, but not family... although I get along great and I am close enough with my family... I don't really talk with them about my deeper personal struggles from my early days, they didn't know most of it, and I just don't think it is needed for them to know

but my close friends know about it... they know about me and where I came from, how I came to be who I am today, nowadays though... the struggle is a lot less, and less intense too, things have gotten much better for the most part, and if anything happens... they're also able to tell and I have no problem in telling them about it, that's what good friends are for too...

on strangers though... I've been open about my struggles here on this site, where most people would classify as "strangers" but we all do it here somehow, share in "anonymity" to a point, so yes... I am part of that as well

[FreyaRed]

I don't like to complain, especially to people I'm close to. Why? I don't like showing any weakness. Of course such discussions are sometimes necessary to gain expertise of people I consider as some kind of mentors, but petty complaining isn't really necessary.

[Purpleronnie]

I talk to the person I think is in the best position or has the most relevant experience to give me guidance and or support. If someone close to me is the best person to help me or offer advice then that’s the person I will ask. It’s not supposed to be easy , the point is to seek help or at the very least to offload and gain a little perspective. Should easier mean I don’t get that what was the point?

[Valdemort]

That depends entirely on who I'm talking to.
Different levels of friendship.
I can tell my closest friends anything without judgement, but I'd be very selective. Talking to strangers (online) can actually be very helpful in that regard.

[jshm2]

I have no struggles to speak to anyone about. But I can tell you that people are not your free therapist.

They will give you shit advice, or wrong advice if you load onto them offline, as you are online. It's probably why you have struggles to begin with.

Keep good friends and a good network, you will have fewer struggles.

[AlinaJanowska18]

Yes , the fact is that strangers listen to us, and then disappear from our lives. And our acquaintances and relatives will see us in a bad light, which can change or worsen relationships

[gowildcats007]

This sounds crazy but sometimes strangers, but the best was when we kissed first. It opens up the heart if you can keep control.

[WhitneySnow]

I know exactly what you mean, and I can see why you might feel that way, but I’m the opposite. I find it easier to confide in friends.

[Lliam]

Only with people I know.
I don't dump my struggles on strangers.

[Chevy1_kb]

Both sometimes family do t really have time to listen to me strangers listen more

[DrPepper12]

ThetApists, strangers, bartenders, all three at once after I've REALLY been knockin em back and that triple vision takes over...

[Ms_Facesitter]

People I am close to. Strangers won't get any details.

[Crazzyyworld]

I try to open up with my sis and mom but it’s hard. Definitely strangers are better listeners.

[nawtee_me]

People close to me already know most of the things about me anyway. However I am an open book so strangers are good too.

[Anonymous]

Depends. Whoever I can grab and duct tape down. 😏

[Anonymous]

Depends, sometimes it's easier with strangers, but usually it's easier with people I'm close to.

[LiaRaven]

With the very close people for me, my parents

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Someone close to me who isn't associated with anyone who I'm struggling with.

[MotherEarth2020]

Depends on the topic

[Bklynbadboy12]

So message me lets talk about your struggles

[12karen]

I'm not struggling. I'm perfectly nice dwr. I was just curious but I'll keep it in mind thanks

[Bklynbadboy12]

Your welcome

[Phoenix98]

I don't talk about my struggles.

[ehatsham_hussain]

I personally find easier with my close friends.

[Rohaan2020]

With strangers it’s easier

[BLP11520]

Depends how personal it is

[sage2021]

People that I know

[MK1997]

Yes I do

[beefcakebradybatson]

The latter.