My sister and brother have not been present in my children’s lives due to their envy and jealousy towards my husband. My sister pretended to be okay and was interacting with my children until my husband bought me a car. She then began distancing herself from me and my children. No calls, no happy birthdays etc. then one my kids went to see their grandmother and saw her, my sister, there. My daughter said hello and went to greet her with a kiss. My sister then said “Oh so NOW you’re speaking to me?” which in turn confused my daughter. My sister continued to ignore her afterwards.
My brother never wanted me with anyone so he hated my husband from the get go. He never greeted, acknowledged or engaged with my children.
My kids continued to ask why were they treating them like that so I told them to ignore them and don’t say anything to them. I feel like they obviously don’t want nothing to do with my children so why make my children obligated to show respect to people who don’t even acknowledge let alone respect them in return?
My mother is telling me that I’m wrong for telling my children to ignore them. But she never reprimanded them for how they’ve treated my children all this time. AITA?
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If your sister is no more mature than to behave like a hurtful at her own family then I would distance from them. I would not have my children around them at all, period. Kids are priority not someone else hurt feelings.
This disrupt the feeling of safety and security then you have a problem with the health of the child that could have been avoided from my perspective. Your call of course.
Yeah your not the asshole, ditch them. Have you heard the quote "blood is thicker than water"? Or sum shit like that, the full quote is " the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb" which basically means choose your own family, sometimes the family chosen for you are toxic assholes
its a tough situation. It could be damaging to keep your kids from their aunt/uncle but it could be damaging to have your kids around them if they are so toxic. I really can't be more help without being in the situation
yes I agree it could be damaging to keep them from their aunt and uncle but when I think about it, it WILL be more damaging to have them still have access to them. During the plandemic, my sister bumped into my daughter at our mother’s house and instead of saying, “hello, how are you, good to see you” she said, “it looks like we have to speak in secret” . When & confronted her about it, she just hung the phone up on me. She was trying to be sneaky and make my child think that I was the one keeping them from speaking to each other when it was really her avoiding/ignoring my children the whole time.
She is liable to plant things into my children’s head and have them turn against me as if I was antagonist.