Should a broke 23 year old woman living with her Dad, and has a broke Boyfriend. Have a Baby?

[Anonymous]

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I’m gonna re-ask this question because nobody understood me in the previous one.

Here’s the background:
My sister lives under my dad’s roof. Her boyfriend lives under his own Dads roof. They both have DEAD-END-JOBS. Like McDonalds. She’s 23, He’s 23.

My Mom Knows, I know because of my Mom. And my Dad doesn’t know.

My mom wants her to keep the baby because she doesn’t like Abortion. So she hasn’t told Dad.

And I personally know that when my narcissistic sister has the Baby, she’s gonna dump it on my Old Ass Parents.

SHOULD I TELL DAD?

KEEP THE BABY

DONT KEEP THE BABY

Updates

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UPDATE: My sister is the most immature entitled being I’ve ever known. I want you to know that she doesn’t feed water to her pet lizard. Doesn’t clean her cats litter box. He room smells like cat-piss 24/7. And she always has a pyramid of clothes thrown about her room.
WOULD YOU WANT TO BE HER BABY RIGHT NOW? 🤡

[unknowngirl0232]

I feel the baby won't be safe and might have a miserable life.. I mean if either your sister or her boyfriend has the heart to care for the child, by all means keep the baby.. But if the little one is gonna be traumatized.. Then No..
I seriously don't like abortion because there I'd always a thought in my mind "what if the baby can go through all challenges and become the greatest and most sweetest kindest person in the world.. What if he/she can change the world into a better place"... On the other hand, thinking about the hardships, emotional pain the child will go through just because of irresponsible parents just make me sad and makes me think abortion is better.
I'm seriously as confused as you now. When I read the question, it was like easy answer.. but thinking more about.. its just too much to handle cause you are deciding between life and death. I hope you all have strength and do what feels right.. And please do tell dad about it. He might be helpful in this situation.

[Asker]

She’s only 2 weeks in. And she’s the most irresponsible mf I’ve known. She has a lizard that never has water. A cat who’s littler she doesn’t clean. And a pyramid of clothes thrown about her room. I could not live like that. It seems the baby is gonna crawl out of the pyramid of clothes. 😂

[unknowngirl0232]

Whoaa.. then no baby please.. I recently saw a documentary about health problems children could have due to poor lifestyle.. and all the blame was going to their parents. Just because the parents don't care, they buy unhealthy junk food for the kids.. now the kids end up having obesity, tooth decay, diabetes, fatty liver disease and many more. The poor little one had to go through pain, surgery, and all those things. No child should go through that.
Two weeks is good, the baby is not clearly developed yet.. OMG the image of a baby crawling out of a pyramid of clothes is cracking me up😂

[unknowngirl0232]

Anyway at the end of the day its your sister's choice whether or not to keep the day.. Its her life and her body.. Some people do change when situations like this comes. Maybe her mindset will change and become a wonderful mother.. Who knows.. miracles do happen.. Tell your sister to tell your dad about it cause she is the one carrying a baby.. If you tell your dad, you might get attacked. So let her handle it. Its okay to have an opinion but like I said.. at the end of the day.. Its her life and her choice. The doctor needs her consent for abortion not yours.

[DubiousIntentions]

A baby costs a lot of money to raise. You will probably spend $200,000 to raise a kid from infancy to age 18. So who is going to come up with the cash? Two deadbeats? I don't think so. She already has two pets she doesn't take care of. She doesn't need another.

[Asker]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[Asker]

They both work 9-5’s
You think they’ll make it?

[DubiousIntentions]

Who will take care of the baby while they work then?

[Sixgunsound]

This is what cheap casual sex and/or a hookup culture gets you. Men will rise to the standards women are willing to accept, nothing further. Thus, women need to start being a lot more selective about and demanding of who they give it up to. Otherwise you get men with dead end jobs able to knock someone up they aren't married to and can't support, let alone support a kid. From the description, they mentally are still children themselves.

[Sixgunsound]

Thanks for MHO

[Summeroflove]

Abortion is murder. She should keep it. But she also doesn’t seem like a responsible person.

Most of the time not responsible people use abortion as birth control for reasons such as this.

At least she’s taking that responsibility. Maybe she didn’t make the best choices in life. But killing the child ain’t the right option.

The same as you wouldn’t kill a born child because he/she is in a bad situation.

[Asker]

The fetus doesn’t even have thoughts wtf you mean

[Summeroflove]

Neither does someone in a coma. A fetus is still alive and a stage of development. You’re the one trying to control another person.

Seems you come from a long line of narcissistic people

[Asker]

It’s narcissistic and entitled to bring forth a life that’ll suffer. I would never! In fact, seeing how impulsive and immature my sister is…
ID WANT TO BE ABORTED! PLEASE PLEASE ABORT ME!!!

[Summeroflove]

Okay. So she should kill her child.

[Summeroflove]

Stop asking questions you don’t want answers to

[lightbulb27]

I'd say dad needs to know, since he is involved or will be and mom should tell him.

ugh...

I think your sister needs to be fixed no matter what. It can be a good motivator to grow up, but you know these people. Peolpe can rise up through the ranks at MCD's, open businesses, etc.. But will they?

ugh...

[Anonymous]

You want people to vote on what your sister should do with her own unborn child? Come on now. Maybe they aren’t in the best situation but they can change it. Also it’s not your news to share with your dad and the only reason why you’d do it is so you can sit back and watch him lash out at your sister because clearly you hate her guts.

[Asker]

SHE
WILL
DUMP
THE
CHILD
ON
MY
OLD ASS
FATHER

[Asker]

MY FATHER IS THE BREADWINNER OWNER OF THE HOUSE YOU NUMBSKULL.

You’re probably narcissistic like my sister. It’s my Dads house her deserves the truth!!!

YOU KNOW WHAT, THANKS FOR GIVING ME THE PUSH I NEEDED TO TELL MY DAD OF MY VILE SISTERS DECISION ON THE FAMILY AND THE LIFE OF AN UNBORN CHILD!

[Opinion Owner]

All that yelling and name calling is so childish, it just shows what a hateful woman you are and that’s such a sad life. Go ahead and tell your dad, it’s only a slap in the face to your mom who confided in you and will destroy the little bit of relationship you have left with your sister. It won’t make her abort the baby, and it’s not your choice anyway. Please grow up and learn to mind your own business rather than be such a vile human being.

[Asker]

THATS SUCH AN EVIL THING TO DO TO A CHILD.
The bitch doesn’t even clean her own room.
She doesn’t feed water to her pet lizard.
Her boyfriend is an inexperienced virgin mommas boy.
That child will suffer.

It’s sad and absurd that you’re the only idiot saying shit like this. Everyone else says HELL NO
You’re a Goddam fool, probably just as mentally I’ll as my demonic sister

[Opinion Owner]

Sigh, please consider professional help because the way you talk is so erratic, combative and just flat out angry for no good reason. Unless your sister has been pregnant before or has a kid then how do you know how she will be as a parent? You have no clue. What’s evil is that you have so much deep hatred for your own sister that you’d rather she abort the baby than give it a chance at life. It doesn’t matter what the fuck everyone else says and votes on your selfish little shitty poll, it’s HER body, HER choice, and not yours. Grow up.

[Opinion Owner]

And if you decide to expose your sister then why not slap your mom in the face while your at it? She will never trust you again and your sister will hate you. That will suck.

[Asker]

Lol if I were the baby I’d WANT to be aborted!
PLEASE PLEASE ABORT ME WITH YOUR ENTITLED BRAIND-DEAD ASS!!
Can’t even clean her cat litter.
Pyramid of clothes in her room..
Lizard doesn’t have water to drink…
PLEASE PLEASE ABORT ME!!!
PLEASEEEEEEE!!!

[Opinion Owner]

You are a baby, throwing a big fat temper tantrum. Disgusting behavior.

[Asker]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
You’re probably one of these demonic beings that birth a child into pure poverty and suck welfare money 👹👹

[Opinion Owner]

Nope, don’t have any kids☺️ you know it’s so weird how rather than protect your sister you invite strangers to laugh with you and talk shit about her, yet I’m the demonic being lol please don’t project. I’d be devastated every day to have someone so hateful like you as a sister.

[Opinion Owner]

Isn’t your side supposed to be pro-life anyway? Abortion is wrong for everyone else except when it’s your family that could potentially have to suffer, now you’re pushing your sister to one of the planned parenthoods you want banned! You’re ridiculous.

[Asker]

I’m not hating. I’m disappointed and disgusted.
I think a baby is a blessing in the right conditions. But she’s immature. Doesn’t clean her room. Her man is inexperienced with women outside of my sister, and a video gamer.
IM REALISTIC. IM A REALIST.

My sister is the vanity narcissistic type who are usually full of themselves. And likely she’s gonna dump the child on my parents while she goes party with her SIMP MOMMAS BOY.

That’s just what’s gonna happen.
At 14 she was sneaking a boy into the house putting everyone in danger to loose her virginity at 14 years old. She could’ve caught std and a baby at 14.

People like you are a danger to society. You’re part of the problem. You’re part of the problem in the entire nation.

[Opinion Owner]

So what if she’s immature right now, she’s just found out she’s pregnant and it takes time to turn shit around, not just the snap of your fingers. Rather than be such a hateful person you could try to do some good in your life and help her out rather than sit around and spread your gross negativity to anyone who has the unfortunate displeasure of encountering you. But no, I’m sure you have far more fun saying every bad thing about her you can and hoping she fails. You’re miserable.

[Opinion Owner]

Like I said, I’d mourn every day to wake up knowing you’re the dark cloud of a sister I’m cursed with.

[Asker]

Lmaoo you’re an idiot. Who tf raised you? A single mom? Are you mixed? Did your Black Daddy leave? Are you infertile? You’re probably one of those sluts that went around spreading the legs all the way open, with your stank FISH-SKANK ASS , and now that you’re 30+ you’re infertile and with no man. 🖕🏼

I’m speaking facts. You not being able to handle facts. Is not my fault. 🖕🏼

I’m not about to birth an entire human into poor conditions with my 9-5 McDonald’s job.
🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡

You lost your f-king mind lmaoooo!!!
Please! Please don’t adopt and stay infertile. Don’t work in no school or child care. 🤡

[Asker]

I’m not about to help her and get poor broke simp boy to care for the smelly brat. I have my own 9-5 and going to school for a career, and pay off my car. I have my shit going on.
I’m not gonna allow this narcissistic demon to dump the brat on my old parents who also work a 9-5. This is insane, and she’s planning it under my Dads house. My Dad don’t even allow a big Husky Dog into our house. Can you imagine a smelly baby. The narcissist princess would have to quit her 9-5.

you're MENTALLY ILL.
AND IM TELLING MY DAD FOR THE GOOD OF EVERYONE IN MY FAMILY.
IF THE PRINCESS WANTS A SMELLY BRAT, she's GONNA HAVE TO LEAVE THE HOUSE.
IDGF IF MY BRAINDEAD ASS MOM AND SISTER HATE ME AFTERWARDS. MY DAD THE BRRADWINNER AND OWNER OF THE HOUSE DESERVES RESPECT 🫡.

[Opinion Owner]

Wow, the fact that you took the time to create a whole storyline for me, use racial slurs and slander your sister online shows that you’re trying to project how poorly your parents raised you. I feel bad for you really, to lash out like this you are clearly unhinged and must have some undiagnosed mental illness. Go take care of yourself and ask your mom for a big hug. You’re so miserable, I’m sure you need it.

[Opinion Owner]

Why do you keep declaring to me that you’re gonna tell your dad? Lol do what you want it’s your personal relationships to destroy, not mine. Sorry to your mom though.

[Asker]

LMAOO MY MOM WILL THANK ME 😂😂

[Opinion Owner]

Emy, you specifically stated that your mom wants her to keep the baby and asked you not to tell, so why would she thank you? Your hatred is so blinding.

[Opinion Owner]

On top of ruining the trust, what would you gain? If your parents are religious then they won’t encourage an abortion, your mom already told you she’s against it. They are not going to disown her either, so even if he kicked her out she can “dump” the baby on your parents at time and you can’t dictate whether or not they accept it. You can’t force her to get an abortion, she isn’t going to get one anyway, so what’s your point? You have absolutely no say in any single aspect of this situation. Except if you move out, you do have control of that.

[Asker]

So you’re saying that I should just let my demon sister torment my parents and also her own child?
THATS A VERY SMART IDEA. NOT RETARDED AT ALL. THANKYOU I LEARNED SO MUCH 👍 VERY INSIGHTFUL AND INTELLIGENT

[Opinion Owner]

It’s not your choice, so what else can you do? Lol you can’t drag her to the clinic and force an abortion, can’t make your parents disown her, can’t tell your dad without destroying your moms trust, you can’t do shit that works in your favor. It’s “retarded” to sit there and abandon logic how you are right now.

[Aerissa_Jade]

The best option would be to give the baby up for adoption, so it can have the best chance at a good life. There is a very long waiting list of people waiting to adopt newborns.

[Animallover3742]

She should give it up for adoption not abort it but adopt. She clearly can't take care of herself or pets.

[Apple1996]

She should keep the baby. People change and grow into better people once they have kids. It's probably what they need to get their lives on track. Tbh I was much worse off then this when I had my 1st and everything worked out fine

[Guardian45]

I think your sister should give the child up for adoption to some infertile couple, who would love and care for the child as their own.

[RavVid]

Your Dad has right to know. fro that point on it is up to the family.

[Drumlin2001]

I'd have advised sgsibst getting pregnant. But now she is I'd say step up and do their best by the baby. Atleastbthey are both working, albeit entry level jobs. Maybe they could find a route to promotions and better prospects. Still young.

[Anonymous]

If they are both working dead end jobs they will likely be forever. Life happens and if not now when?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

KEEP THE BABY