Should a 22 year old still depend on their parents financially?

[Alwayreckles93]

This morning I got very annoyed with my little sister asking me if I could give her some money both of my parents still support her financially. She called me this morning asking me if I could give her some money now I a the bad giy for being th truth teller. Normally a 22 year old wuld work two jobs to support them selfs. My oldest sister she was working full time pay for ger own expenses at that time whe she was that young. I work nonstop save as much to pay my bills. Once I was 17 my mom said well you are no longer my problem you a week to find a place to live since in Texas your an adult at th age of 17. Now my sister being 22 yet here are hoth of my parents handing out money. While she shops at Sephora buying expensive crap , out partying hard. I dont know my oldest sister and my brother we gad to grow up had to grow up fast because we didn't had a choice.

[Exterminatore]

Probably not. I can assure you none of the children in my house will be. They will be expected to start paying their own way in the world before that.


My son will be 21 in 2 months. He has been told at 22 he is moving out or paying 1/3rd of all the household bills as he’s the 3rd adult living here. I gave him from when he graduated until he was 22 to save up money or go to school or figure out a plan. So far he’s been spending all his money and accomplishing almost nothing besides his menial job. He has been aware he will not be allowed to be a dead beat. Hope he gets it together because whether he lives in a mansion or card board box, it’s entirely his choice and neither my wife or I will be bailing him out. Time for him to do some adulting.

[Alwayreckles93]

Has your son look for career opportunities? He can work as an insurance consultant, I hear they offer good health insurance benefits. Your son could at least pay for the utility bills. I mean his been spending his money on what? At his age he has no mortgage or school loans to pay off. I must say you been really nice and generous to your son his had a long time to save up al that money. My mom only gave me a week and never gave me a warning I was 17 at that time in Texas 17 is considered an adult stupid law anyway it was short notice lucky I had $8,000 save up a friend of my offer me to stay while I was able to pay $300 monthly for a room. Yeah your son is a very lucky kid I hope he appreciates all the things you and your wife get to do for him.

[Exterminatore]

He would actually be my step son as I have no children of my own but I call him my son.

He is profoundly irresponsible, manages money poorly as he wants instant gratification, he’s very lazy and does not know how to face adversity.

This is because my wife babied him and spoiled him to no end. He was never once punished for anything or held to any standards.

Since he graduated from high school he has bought 3 cars, all of them good cars and barely used. He’s bought football season tickets, he spends every minute of his free time hanging with his friends rather than preparing for the future. I have continually advised him not to do these things, but he knows everything and wants to do as he damn well pleases.

There are consequences for ignoring me. I will let him fail, because he undoubtedly will and will not rescue him, since he counted my advice as so little. So, if he runs on hard times I guess he’ll be in a homeless shelter because I will not bail him out. He will never learn otherwise except the hard way.

He ought to be working as much as he can and saving up for an apartment and furniture or a house. Instead he worried about having cool cars and trucks. Fine then. He’ll learn the hard way which I repeatedly tried to save him from.

I let him be rent free so he can save his money. If he chooses not to, he better not ever tell me I didn’t give him a chance or try to set him up for success. I did. He just chose not to use the opportunity wisely. Oh well. Live an learn. He really has no real concept how hard it is to make it or how expensive things are. He also not only disregards my advice but does so with an arrogant attitude. Fine. Life will be his teacher and life can be very hard and cruel.

As for me, I moved out when I was 18 and have been fending for myself with God’s help ever since.

As for my son, I told him repeatedly I want him to be successful and not have a hard life like I did. ThatI want the best for him so he can be financially independent

[Exterminatore]

Not only this I provide him with dental insurance and medical insurance and a prescription drug plan and vision plan. A PPO none the less for both, which is part of wages. I have a union job and literally have the best medical and dental money could by. My cancer surgery only cost me $100 out of pocket. The rest was paid for. He will have that insurance until he’s 26.

However, cancer runs in his family. It took his dad and nearly took his grandma in her youth.

Despite this he will not get a check up or go to the dentist. All dental expenses, I mean ALL are covered 100%. A doctor visit will cost him $30, and blood work or other diagnostics will cost him $0.

Does he go and get a check up? Nope. Why? Lazy and irresponsible. It will cost him almost nothing to do so.

Sometimes they gotta learn the hard way.

[Alwayreckles93]

Your son could go take his basics at a community college and get transfer to a four year University. I remeber you told me you had it hard. No family support. Let him learn his lesson I guess he will learn the hard way. Wow way to many cars that's a lot of expensive three car insurance and payments. Looks like he does notcare about the finances. Is you son truing to impress a girl or something? I just can't wrap my mind. Your son could work a full time job and go to school at night or take online course. Is he even attending colleges? Sir you are way to nice and generous to your son he is living rent free at your home. He is very lucky by now he should had enough to get an apparyment. Why does he want to live in debt?

[Exterminatore]

He knows this, yet doesn’t act on what he knows.

He is foolish. He thinks he knows it all when in fact he knows very little.

He needs life to be a cattle prod for him to propel him forward because he will not motivate himself.

[Alwayreckles93]

Wow he doesn't even have to pay for medical expenses. What world is he living in. I'm sorry but looks like he needs a wake up call. At his age he should know better.

[Alwayreckles93]

I mean he should look up to you your a great rolemodel. He has it alleasy on his shoulders. At his age he should be working full time.

[Exterminatore]

He does need a wake up call. If he doesn’t wake up on his own he’s gonna get woken by life knocking on his door and it ain’t gonna be pretty.

I wanted to give him every chance I could to succeed. If he won’t that’s on him.

At his age I was already in a combat zone, involved in armed combat against Iraq. Meanwhile he still lives at mommies and daddies and takes little care for the furrier. I’ve warned him repeatedly and tried to guide him. He’s not listening so he’s gonna find out the hard way.

[EmmaMary]

@Exterminatore

Whilst I fully applaud your determination for your forthcoming actions, I feel I must ask whether your wife is fully supportive of this, remembering that in legai terms this is her son and not yours.

[Exterminatore]

@Emma-

That’s a very good question. I strenuously abject to her spoiling them and holding them to no accountability. Ever.

Therefore, the agreement is I stay out of it and at 22 they fend for themselves. I don’t take it to be a small matter…children thinking they can ignore me. So they can ignore me all they like, and do as they please…. at 22, they fend for themselves no matter what good or bad comes.

My wife is a widow. She was cut down mid life by her ex husbands cancer. It took all her savings, as for me my ex wife took all mine in a divorce. We are not in a position to insure we don’t die at our desks…. all the while bailing out spoiled children who never learned responsibility. That are lazy and arrogant. One day we will be too sick and old to work and must have financial preparedness. That money will not be going to support lazy and spoiled children who refuse to listen. They can do as they please and live and die on their choices. It is not as though they weren’t given a chance. With my stepson, he’s merely living out the undisciplined ways his mother allowed him to live out all his life. Where will a child learn discipline from at 22, 25, 30? This is a lesson for youth, it really can’t be learned as an adult. I’ve repeatedly given him direction, but he knows better then me apparently. Fine, he can do as he pleases, I’ll say not one word, but then he makes or breaks on this own.

There are consequences for ignoring me while being a spoiled brat and arrogant.

His grandparents and all his extended family also counsel him on his foolishness but he listens to no one. Fine then, do as you please and suffer the consecutively yourself. That’s my response to him.

[Exterminatore]

@Emma-

So that’s how we worked out the solution. She can spoil them, never set standards for them, never punish them, never challenge them…. all to my very fervent disagreement. And keep me from doing likewise. It is understood then that there will be no mamma bear crying for her cubs when they fail miserably in life, which they will. She can raise them as she sees fit. This was in part to calm the many heated arguments we’ve had over this subject since even her son was still in HS. I take great exception to her parenting style.

However he children do not regard me as a father figure. They don’t want me involved because both know my wife is weak and they can just ignore her or bully her into submission. He daughter outright hates me because I am here and her father is not.

Fine then. If I’m not stepdad to either, then after 22 ask nothing from me. I’m not dad. Find your dad and get him to help, I will not. They don’t get to ignore me and treat me like crap without consequence.

So that’s the agreement we came to. I only agreed to this because her children don’t accept me. They essentially disowned me, and I did in kind to them. I expect nothing of them and they better know they can expect noting of me after they are 22. No apology in the future will be excepted by me. Can’t ignore me to the point of wrath and gaf me off and bully their mother to get around my rules and expect I’m gonna be ok with this.

So now I stay out of it all, let them be as undisciplined and lazy as they want and they can fend for themselves and fall flat on their faces. They have no strength of heart, or discipline or determination and are lazy and weak. To make matters worse neither one is very intelligent as far as I can see.

[Alwayreckles93]

Exterminator In this case your wife should put you first. At the end of the day her kids will eventually either get married and have their own family. If theycwere toddlers then it would of been a it more easyer to raised them the correct way but since their older with a mind of their own it hard. They sound dumb they seriously think life is easy in the real world. Its a dangerous world out there. Their day dreaming in lala land while they're time is wasting gone by fast. I bet once your wif egets old their not going to care they will put her in a nursing home. What I see your step-kids are ungreatful spoiled brats. They should be greatful that you took the whole packages someone else would have said no I dont need one else kids.

[Alwayreckles93]

Exterminator Who teach these kids to be ungrateful spoiled brats? Isnthisnwhat their grandparents orntheirnside of rhe family teach them? This kids will have a hard time living on their own. Your wife should have teach then budget from an early age.

[Exterminatore]

What should happen is that according to the Bible she is to submit to her husband, which is me and do what I’m saying regarding the matter.

Instead to calm the fighting over this I just took my hands off both of her kids. They can fend for themselves.

They are dumb. They’ve been given everything they wanted. They think that will continue forever. They have no clue how hard it is.

We live in a wealthy area. My son is busy trying to keep up with the Jones’ while he lives with mommy and daddy and makes little money. This is frigging stupid. He also makes no real moves for his future. He will find out $20 an hour and crap benefits isn’t going to cut it.

They are both spoiled ungrateful brats.

You’re right. They should. That’s my point here. My other point being I will not play second fiddle to children in my house. Since they manipulate my wife and bully her into what they want, they will still get their punishment, just in a different way. That it is a deadly serious offense in my eyes to tell her or I “no.” Children don’t ever get to tell me no. Since they both think it’s cute and know very well what they’re doing.. to be clear, it’s not like they don’t know better, I’m not letting it go. I will look at them both with contempt when their arms are extended and palms up asking for help. I will remind them they didn’t care and it was big fun to be the big shot in the house. I swear I will close my heart to pity no matter how much they beg. I am in charge here, not them, and they will learn that the hard way.

[Exterminatore]

That was my wife’s fault. You see their dad had cancer for about 7 years. He was in the hospital most of the time. So they took advantage and she felt bad because of their dad. Her and I have been together for 4 years now. Life moves on. There is no longer an excuse.

[Exterminatore]

No, they will have an impossible time living on their own and I won’t show them the slightest care. That’s the consequences of trying to usurp my authority and attempting to place themselves above me in the home. I have now become embittered and will be harsh as a result which they deserve nothing less.

[Exterminatore]

See, she lets her kids do whatever they want because she’s afraid her kids won’t love her anymore, and with good reason. She’s exactly right. They won’t. Because they are both exceedingly hard hearted, and selfish. They care about no one but themselves. They want what they want and will do anything to get it. I’ve even seen her daughter physically shove her and wrestle with her when my wife tried to take her phone away once.

But I will have the last laugh because the punishment for their vile behavior will be delayed into adulthood. Just as soon as they can’t pay a bill or don’t know how to fix their car or house, or whatever. They will find out how uncaring I truly can be. They will get no help from me or my wife and will promptly be reminded they are the big shots and should get out of my face and go do big shot stuff.

Not one word or cruel gesture will be forgotten. Sounds like I want vengeance right? That’s exactly right. Playing these little games with me is a very bad idea. I have no tolerance or mercy for spoiled narcissistic people who care only for themselves and deal with them accordingly.

[Exterminatore]

Always remember this. Not giving a man the respect he is due, most especially in his own home can be ugly, dangerous and sometimes deadly.

Men are created to care about honor and respect and a lack of due respect is like sandpaper across our faces. It’s asking for a problem.

Where I pay bills I have a right to say what will and will not go on, and when that right is transgressed it will not be a small matter.

When they eat the food I put on the table and enjoy the AC I and my wife pay for, they can do as we say or pay their own bills and do what they want.

So I have left them enough rope to hang themselves with. They both have 4 years upon graduation from HS to get it together. If their undisciplined and foolish way prevent them from that. I care not.

This is exactly what God does to the individual who will not obey him. He turns them over to their sinful desires to allow sin to crush them both in this life and the next and it’s what I do with the selfish and hard hearted and narcissistic. I let them drink the full measure of the cup they fill and won’t rescue them.

[Alwayreckles93]

Exterminator Exactly they owe you respect. Who pays the bills? You , Who makes sure theyre needs are met? You. Do these kids even call say yes Sir or No Sir when you ask them a question? Growing up Of I said yeah to an adult I would get slap.

[Alwayreckles93]

You have every rigjt later what theyre going to feel entitled to takenover your house. No you work hard and all the crazyness you had to deal at work. That isnyour house Sir.

[Exterminatore]

Make no mistake either. They will both pay for their 2 person rebellion under my roof for life. Neither one has the self discipline or motivation or wisdom to make much of themselves. Neither one has ever had to face difficulties without being babies.

How will these people fair own their own? The answer is they won’t. They will utterly fail to launch as I already know and can observe with the oldest.

They both better pray my wife dies last. If she dies first I’ll leave them exactly nothing. After all, it was made clear to me I’m not their dad. Good. Then I owe them nothing. Leaving an inheritance ie something a good father does. It has been made clear by them both I’m not their dad and they want no relationship of that type with me. That I am merely their mothers husband.

Very well then. This is why I’ll accept no apology in the future. They need to be taught. They didn’t want to listen to me. Fine. Life will be their teacher and they will lie in the beds they made for themselves and I will not rescue them from any consequences as a result.

[Exterminatore]

To be fair, my wife pays bills too. But I know they bully and manipulate her. She knows it too, but won’t stand up to them.

They tell her “no” flat out when she asks things of them. They have no chores. One was even refusing to go to school to the point CPS got involved because she was skipping school. Her daughter even made a fake suicide attempt when my wife punished her for once and took her phone away.

This is how they both are. I’m sorry. Maybe I’m wrong but I view that type of behavior and not only outrageous but evil. In fact I see it as very evil and for this reason they will pay for their poor behavior. I’m not letting it go.

[Exterminatore]

So, this is why I said 22. This way they will never be able to accuse me of not trying to help them. They will never be able to say I came into their lives and took from them. They will never be able to say I didn’t do as much as I could that they could succeed. Instead, I’ll let them fail by their own hands since they know everything and since they are rebellious and unruly.

[Alwayreckles93]

Exterminator Thats is a lot you have to deal with kids who aren't even yours just kick them out theirnevil and you have no reason to deal woth them or simpy you ca alays sent the step daughter to boot camp. Sir ca I ask you a question?

[Alwayreckles93]

Exterminator it is your wifes fualt. My son is 4 and I am alredy teaching him budgetting. I gave him an evelope $80 he alredy knew how much not to spend. Im teaching my kids budgetting as eat as I can.

[Alwayreckles93]

Have you tough about installing camaras around your home? This kids could be sniky.

[Alwayreckles93]

They need to be put on medication who knows maybe your wife never took them to get tested.

[Exterminatore]

No, they’re just typical spoiled and rebellious children. My son is too old to be punished now. He’s gonna be 21 in a month. There’s nothing wrong with either of them that can’t be corrected with a belt and correction of their thoughts by teaching them the sun doesn’t raise and set with them. That’s what they both think. The world revolves around them.

It is my wife’s fault. She let them get away with too much for too long because she felt bad for them. Her deceased husband was the disciplinarian in the home. Once they realized he wasn’t around and my wife is weak, they took advantage of the situation and sought their will by force. Just ignoring my wife and bullying her into what they wanted.

Her problem is she needs to grow a pair of balls and realize not stomping that vile behavior out of them is to their detriment. She doesn’t listen though. So I simply stepped back and will let them be turds. They in essence are going to punish themselves for the rest of their lives. They knew exactly what they were both doing. They can pay for that little rebellion. I’ll let them go down the path they want without resisting and let them make a mess of themselves and their lives. They don’t have the discipline to deny every little impulse that comes their way. So they will punish themselves for the remainder of their lives. Which is fitting for taking advantage of my wife who essentially was left with 2 children on her own and was very stressed, all while dealing with her deceased husbands illness and death. So her selfish children decided to take the opportunity to have their way in everything. Far be it from me to stop their selfish rampage. I’ll let them become turds and muck up their lives and will not help them when they do, nor will I feel sorry for them.

[Alwayreckles93]

I'm surprised normally christian teenagers don't act this way. Were they born in Christianity? That is way way to much. Lets say your doesn't want to clean his room he should loose his privileges of having his own room have him sleep in the family room or whatever forbhim to teach him a lesson.

[Alwayreckles93]

Sir you alredy warm them so in this case they kick themselfs out ofnyour home at 22 . They choose not to followed the rulers. They choose not to be responsible. In this case by their actions this kids are choosing to kick them selfs out the moment the disobeyed you.

[Alwayreckles93]

Did this kids acted like this with you when you and your wife wet out on dates?

[Exterminatore]

I think they are atheists. I don’t even know if they believe in God.

Yes. They were the same.

[Alwayreckles93]

Oh my gosh what a head heck. Did you ever tough about marriage with a childless virgin lady? I mean I don't mean it in a rude way but save yourself the headeck.

[Alwayreckles93]

Atheists no wonder they must have an evil spirit. Satan is using them to maken you angry since your a choosen Christian of the Lord. Your story is sad. I don't think its fair now you have to deal with your wife's demons.

[Exterminatore]

Well my wife is fine, she’s a Christian.

She just thinks my ways are too stern, but everyone tells her her ways of raising children are too laxed.

[Exterminatore]

She’s just weak is the problem and her kids are very selfish. It doesn’t make for a good combo.

[Drumlin2001]

Nope. Whilst it can be difficult to move out and afford rent, they should at least be able to cover their own bills and pay housekeeping/rent at the family home. Parents are responsible for raising kids to the age of 18. Beyond that you should stand in your own two feet

[Alwayreckles93]

Thank you I agree.

[zeitgeist057]

Sounds like your parents were tougher on you, now they are being soft with their (last?) youngest kid. I know I've seen that with other parents as well. The first is kind of a golden child in a way, they put so much energy and effort into them. The last can be a bit spoiled, they are the youngest so they have to learn to live by their wits rather than brawn, making them a little more manipulative sometimes.

" What Your Sibling Birth Order Reveals About Your Personality Traits (Even If You’re an Only Child)"

Also sounds like you might be a little jealous or hurt, and maybe that's a conversation to have with your parents "Why was I given the boot at 17, and (sis) is given room, board, and Sephora gift cards? I feel treated unfairly."

I think it's fine if your parents want to give her money, 22 isn't that old, and if she's their last they want to do that. Maybe their finances have changed and they're older now and less worried about making their retirement? I don't know the deets, but it's also fine for you to have a healthy boundary with her about money and looking out for her so she doesn't get too spoiled or think everyone is her ATM.

What I'm saying is make your own relationship with her, but don't try to control the relationship she has with your/her parents, that's out of your jurisdiction.

[sunflower00]

That’s very strange to me. I’ve been working since I was 15 and since then I’ve bought my own food, used my own money for clothes and activities I want to do (such as if I wanted to go out drinking, go on holidays, go get lunch, a coffee, etc.). I did live with my parents until I was 21 and luckily I didn’t have to pay rent which I’m grateful for but they never gave me money and I moved out over a year ago.


Most of my friends my age have been at university so during the holidays they live with their parents but they all have jobs to support themselves. My friend who didn’t go to uni has a mortgage and is engaged.

[Alwayreckles93]

I have no probken with that as ling as the adult daughter is paying forbhrown things.

[midnightmoon05]

I am answering based on what you shared…

in this case, do not “support” you younger sisters entitle behavior.
tell her - “I am saving up to buy an apt., want to help? I already saved up 20%…my goal is to save 50%…every penny count”. You saving up?
That will help her think abut her own financial situations and set a goal for yourself.
she will leave you alone after that conversation.

sonce your mom didn’t teach yiu all about fininacusl responsibilities (not saying you are not)…now you can be the one to take control of your own finances…when your family/siblings hear this…they will rethink their own financial responsibilities.
good luck.

[provokeesmokee]

Nah, but I'm biased. My parents weren't really ever able to support me financially - well, correction, they never really wanted to.

They'd buy shit for my mother or my male cousins, not me.

I had to pay my own way through uni AND my mother stole $5k from me and put me in debt.

in my opinion, no, a 22yo shouldn't depend on their parents. It's cool if it's an occasional, rare thing. But depending? Nah. She needs to get a job and work.

[Alwayreckles93]

You deserve better. Your mom is a monster. I just can't. Is there a way you can take her to court?

[provokeesmokee]

Even if I did, she'd have no money to give, lol. It'd end up harming my father - who, while neglectful and an enabler, is just another victim of my mother's.

[Dan_cColt]

Depends, in more traditional or non American households, it's not that uncommon for young adults to still live with their parents, but they have to have a means of providing for themselves because they are still an adult. Most American households, children move out or live somewhere else, and you should at least have a means of income incase you have to find your own place. As long as you aren't still a real "burden" to your parent's then it's fine, but you also shouldn't just be piggy backing off of your own parents without a clear goal of becoming your own autonomous person.

[SnowedIn]

You're right. I can't put it any better than that.

The only caveat I add (and not necessarily in the case of you and your family) is that family situations do change. My oldest son (almost 21) asked mom and me why we did X for his little sister (11). And the answer is that we couldn't do that ten years ago. Things change.

Again, doesn't sound like that's what happened in your case and, regardless, you're still right. 🙂

[rm_llort]

Its different now. When I was 17 you could actually afford to live with unskilled jobs. Your sister would have to pay a significantly larger amount of her income to support herself than we did. For perspective, I'm in the top 5% of earners and had a hard enough time buying a house this year while paying bills.

I suggest you're jealous of her, when in reality you're the lucky one for being born into a time when living was actually affordable and supporting yourself was still a smart choice.

[Alwayreckles93]

Im not jelous at all. I can say I did great for a 30 year old. Im debt free. The issues I believe is people like toive above their means. I mean my sister buys $60 foundation I don't see the need when she ca get it at the dollar store. She's put clubing her focus right now should be making money earn a degree.

[rm_llort]

Then support your younger sister, she has completely different circumstances, opportunities and values. Not everyone has to go to college. Personally I accept and support my younger family members as much as possible, those with the broadest shoulders should carry more.

[Alwayreckles93]

Wait so lets say if you had a 25 year old little sister yiy would actually suport her?

[Alwayreckles93]

Well my father got remarried when he divorce my mother. He was two little ones ages 12 ,9 ,7 . they are children whostill need to depend on my dad. Not my sister she can get two jobs or clean peoples homes.

[Alwayreckles93]

*Three not two

[Alwayreckles93]

Sorry this thing goesof like crazy when I type.

[AmeerX]

It's perfectly normal to support your children till they are grown. I don't see what's the point of life if your parents are just going to throw you to the wolves when you turn 18.

Look at yourselves and look at the Asian parents. The difference is uncanny indeed. Your life is spend trying to make money and pay off rents while your parents house is sold once they are dead. How will you accumulate wealth if you can't cut corners and make room in your hearts for family members. Yes they can be lousy.

PS. My Grandparents supported there brothers and sisters and worked there asses off for them. Especially once they had become orphans. It's a shame my cousins were not like them.

[Starlove4]

She’s still young so what do u expect? She’s a baby and was just a teenager only a few years ago. Everybody isn’t gonna become what they are meant to be at the time u expect them to. Everyone is different! Stop putting timelines on ppl’s lives. Lots of people are millionaires at YOUR age. Why aren’t u a millionaire too? Point is everyone is different and people grow at different paces. STOP JUDGING …

[Alwayreckles93]

Yes I am andyou want to know why because I knew better to mot waste my tiem and money. You want to k ow how many , family gatherings, funerals, weddings , brithdays I had to mist in oder for me to get at the top? I am starting toagree with 45 year olds my generation are nothing but a bunch of lazy people who don't want to work. I own a paid of house my vehicle are paid off I'm debt free. Why because I knew better to not waste money like a crazy. If I have the lifestyle it's thanks to my gard work. At 22 I would wake up at 4 am and work a whole whole day. I would the people I went to highschool with were drinking hìttng the clubs doing NOTHING PRODUCTIVE. If their asses are broke its their own dam fault.

[Starlove4]

Right but u keep missing the point. Everyone is different! Tables could always turn and She may become something greater than you’ve ever been later on at an older age. She is still young and most likely doesn’t know who she wants to be yet. It’s too early for you to be speaking down on her life. Vera wang didn’t get her start until she was 40. You have a condescending attitude and it’s sad.

[Alwayreckles93]

Really my sister the over spender who does not care about finances. Yeah right. I've alredy built my wealth thanks to my hard work. She's lazy doesn't want to work and believes money grows on trees reality is no one will be giving out free money.

[Starlove4]

You’re toxic and I’m glad you aren’t my sister. You’re judgmental and condescending. I hope your sister fires you from being her sis.

[BoopBoopBeep]

And that's why the infantilization of society occurred, and resulted in everybody being butthurt all the time about everything. I depended on my mom only for home and utilities once i became 16. Food/car/gas was on me. at 18 everything was on me.

[Mansearching]

When I was in college, they let me stay at home and feed me for free. Somethings they helped me with but not all. I worked but most of it went to school. I paid for all my school.

So it depends on the circumstances. But just out right paying for everything then no.

[Alwayreckles93]

Okay during thentime when your generation was 22 year of age you giys attend to act more mature , respecful and responsible. I bet 22 year old yourself wasn't nocking on people's doors and taking off running or goofing off.

[Mansearching]

Nope.

[WhiteBoyChill]

She’s a spoiled princess. Unbelievable. I would hope also she hasn’t had sex with a million guys yet either. Since partying and sex usually go together

[Alwayreckles93]

Oh she has , I went off on her about that how important it was for her to save herself. Back in my day if a guy nocked a girl up they would move in together and got married. In my opinion if a girl hassex with her boyfriend they should be discussing marriage no acceptions. You are so mature for your age.

[Alwayreckles93]

I am super shocked to see how much things had changed over the past decade. A woman your age see a guy flirting with her or following her they're all like oh hey baby give up sex so easily. Back in my younger days that never happened if a guy followed us we would called the police we were scare to walk alone in the parking lot.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Yeah I agree its really bad. She could’ve saved herself and taken the time to form a good relationship and get a good husband, but at this point I don’t think any sensible man would want her

[Alwayreckles93]

At thisnpoint she should remain single forever in order to avoid hurting a guy.

[WhiteBoyChill]

That’s very true. But its so unfortunate though. Did she just not listen to you?

[Alwayreckles93]

I feel like I am her mom instead of th older sibling I even chaged her daipers.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Unbelievable. So she can’t even look after herself to this day?

[Alwayreckles93]

No not at all.

[Iron_Man]

That’s not a problem because most 22-year-olds cannot afford everything on their own they’re in college especially at these expensive times. If you were to get an apartment in Miami the average one in a nice neighborhood will cost you $2000 a month not to mention first second and last payment to get going. I’m glad I have a house.

[jeffend888]

Absolutely not. That is the worst thing you could possibly do at 22 years old. Then you get yourself into a perpetual rent cycle and never get out of it.

Live at home and save money until you're at least 25 or 26. Then buy a house.

You'll thank me in 20 years.

[LiamJHayden]

I am unsure that I can fairly answer it. Although I lost both parents by the time I was 19, I was their only child and they were both only children, so I was sole heir to two families and was not left destitute or homeless. Still, in an area where the average two-bedroom apartment is close to $3000 per month I can understand a lot of people that age and even my age (28) still living at home.

[Kaneki05]

Parents shouldn't have kids if they can't. Get abortions if you can't handle the idea of your kid not been a perfect example of a hard worker.
Real parents don't let their kids become homeless whether they are 22 or 30.

[Anemone978]

Yeah I don't see it as that big of an issue unless they are not trying in life at all, just going out and doing whatever. I had to get a job at 18 but my parents still baby me and would always help me out.

[zagor]

If she is buying expensive shit and partying she should be doing it on her own dime.

[dragoblack]

Nope. Living with parents is fine (society is super unstable), but you should be paying your parents rent at that point to help with utilities and living expenses. Working class isn't paid enough to support another adult.

[Alwayreckles93]

Thank you. My little sister thinks she is entitled to my dads money considering my dad still has a kids, 12 years old and uner that still beed from him.

[NYCQuestions1976]

Every kid is different, but it's never good when parents are enablers for their bad behavior.

[OlderAndWiser]

The age of majority in Texas is 18, not 17. if your mother told you it is 17, she is either misinformed or she lied.

[Sparkie460]

When my kids got their first jobs we let them slide for the first six months. We paid all their expenses. After the six months we told them they will be responsible for the expenses plus they had to pay rent as long as they lived with us.

[HM313]

You don't have to support her financially for spending the lonely here and there, but you can suggest her buying books on personal finance and business. Robert Kiyosaki's books are my favorite.

[Staximus]

When she asks you for money, tell her "get a job you bum" and give her nothing

[Twalli]

I am 31 and still living with my parents. Before my girlfriend moved in, she was living with her parents at 37. We have reasons, though. Maybe your sister does too.

[Alwayreckles93]

But I mean at least you two help out pay rent.

[Twalli]

Pretty much. My room is my own responsibility, the dog is my responsibility, and my groceries are too. Yet utilities and such are not and anything that is not solely for my foid is bought by my parents.

[Alwayreckles93]

It would be niceif you help out paying for a utility bill at least.

[Twalli]

I do pay rent

[XXblack88]

With rent being so high I think adult children with mom and dad is normal however your sister should get a job and buy her own things.

[4ngelic]

i'm 22 and still get all my money from my parents...😳

[UnWokeDude_OrNot]

I am a 22 year old guy and still depend on my parents for money. I am studying markets and all to start earning money as a side hustle as well. I am studying for PG.

[kakaling]

Everyone life experiences are different, your little sister is being well loved. Maybe try to find a way to guide her and not reprimand her.

[FunkyMonkee]

They probably shouldn't but it's no big deal if they do.

[MrOracle]

Yes, it is, especially when she's spending money like crazy on crap. It's fine if she wants to spend her own money that way when she's out on her own, but it's a terrible lesson to teach a young adult (that they can spend other people's money endlessly and without care).

[FunkyMonkee]

@MrOracle Yeah, if she's just blowing through THEIR money like water! But, if she's got money of her own to live on and is still living with parents, that's not a big deal.

[MrOracle]

If she had her own money, she wouldn't be constantly taking money from her parents and then asking her sister for more.

[FunkyMonkee]

@MrOracle Exactly!

[NYCQuestions1976]

What's that line from the Rodney Dangerfield movie "Old School", when his driver is talking about raising kids, and their individuality? "Every kid is different. Take my 2 boys for example. I put my one son through college, and put my other son through a wall." 😂😂😂

[FunkyMonkee]

@NYCQuestions1976 Sounds like MY dad!

[exitseven]

If they were a full time student I would support them. Other than that they got to contribute.

[elizamichale1]

No i dont think so

[Alwayreckles93]

You're boss girlfriend you rock 😍🥰🥰

[elizamichale1]

😊😊❤️

[Alwayreckles93]

Hugs love ya baby girl🥰🥰🥰😘😘😘😘

[elizamichale1]

N more kisses n titty hugs for u honey ( . Y . )

[gothbxtch]

sure, that’s fine depending on the situation

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nope, she shouldn't be relying on you or her parents. I left my parents house at 18 years old and I've been taking care of myself ever since.

[Kacka]

yes, it should, but doesn't be it must, depends, usualy people who going for universitets, abd so on depends on parents for way way longer, people who instead school go to work ofc at 22 be on them own.

[Alwayreckles93]

Well I went to fashion school and stull mannaged to live on my own to pay rent. This gen z people get baby to much.

[Anonymous]

Men get judged for this more than women do obviously

[Date_a_Snob]

I work two jobs and still are barely scraping by

[Alwayreckles93]

Our generation we were a lot more responsible back during the time we were in our early 20's.

[BigDog1989]

What do you do?

[sheikalana]

22 is old enough to find a job.

[Lokiion]

No plain and simple you fully grown

[muscles_glasses]

your an absolute MILF

[Alwayreckles93]

Excuse me? You are horrible why do you 30 year old men only favor younger woman but not beautiful successful wealthy woman 30-60. A 40 year old successful lawyer woman would be lovely for you.

[muscles_glasses]

a) why is it wrong to wqnt to. date someone the same age as me and b) I would love to date an older woman (40 year lawyer would be heaven)

[muscles_glasses]

forgive me for trying to give you a compliment

[Shy_Steve]

They Shouldn't if they are working.

[jahaims]

No lol

[Anonymous]

Yes, but only if she is in College

[ProbablyClueless]

That's extemely normal at her age, yes.

[Alwayreckles93]

Normal? Thats setting up for failure.

[ProbablyClueless]

It's all a matter of degree, but lots of people her age are at least partially financially dependent on their parents.

[EaterPeter]

Yes and no

[Jmmmfi4]

It happens