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They’re not disabled and you pay for all of your own things. They’re constant sending money abroad to their family members. Yet, they’re always complaining about how they’re struggling and money is low. They even get upset when you don’t give them money sometimes when they ask.
Oof, this is incredibly culture oriented and very specific to individual families. I dated a Mexican where our values clashed over this. In his family, all of the money is given upwards to the parents. I dated a Syrian whose family worked similarly. In my opinion, that stunts the financial development of those children. They can never move out, be independent, or build wealth.
This practice only makes sense when the entire family is incredibly poor and codependent for survival with no other options or when the parents are financially savvy and investing their children's money to build wealth for the family. For example, my children hand me money and I invest it in stock and property. Even when invested in houses under my name, they will still be inheriting it all one day. It's protected from any divorce they make ever go through as well as any legal issues. I would never expect my children to take care of me with their own money.
As you say, you did not ask to be born. Your parents owe you more than you owe them. If you CHOOSE on your own that you are so close with your parents that you want to do this voluntarily, then that would be very different. My own mother wastes all of her money and expects me to care for her when she is old. I won't. The hundreds of dollars she threw away every month should have been invested for her future. I sacrificed and made frugal choices for MY future when she did not. Why would I do for her whats her would not do for herself? Your parents are doing the same.
There's also a saying, take care of yourself so you can take care of others. If you aren't wealthy, how can you be expected to care for anyone else?
What? No! It's their responsibility to look after them and your responsibility to look after yourself once you're an adult.
Aside from responsibility, the kind thing to do is help eachother out. Them help you when you need it and you help them when they need it.
They sound like leaches to me. But that's from a western point of view. I think in some cultures the kids are expected to take care of the parents as they age. However 50 is not old. So unless they have some health problems, they should be able to support themselves for a good long time yet.
Here in the US it's almost the opposite. Most parents do NOT want to be a burden on their kids and will refuse help.
You should not feel obligated to give them money simply because they want it. It's your money. Most people your age don't have the finances to support anyone else.
I used to give my mother fifty bucks a week when I was living with her. I continued this after I got married and moved out. When my son was born we decided my wife would stay hone and we would live on my shitty paycheck. I told her I could not give her the money anymore. She was pissed at me.
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No but some families struggle and should work together if they can. Especially if they did good job these years helping you along
They supported and provided for you a good chunk of your life, it’s the least you could do
Nah see I was the family bank because I had the cash on hand but I got paid back as soon as possible
If someone can't financially balance out at 40 they should be capped like old yeller
Absolutely not.
Financial issues are entirely their doing.
Hunger is a great motivator.
In such case the parents are being irresponsible financially.
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