Any tips on processing and dealing with parental death?

[UmbrusNightshade]

I just lost my dad on Friday evening and I don’t really know how to process my emotions. I’m an INFJ and very likely also a HSP so I feel things more intensely in addition to absorbing others’ emotions. Right now I feel emotionally exhausted and a part of me wants to just withdraw and sleep constantly. Does anyone have tips on how to deal with this loss? My mom is still alive but I lost the oldest of my younger sisters in 2020 so this hurts quite a bit.

[Anonymous]

Sneding my condolences. I lost my mum very unexpectedly a few years ago. I remember I slept a lot and I also cried a lot. Losing a parent is not easy but with time you will start to see signs from your dad letting you know he is always with you. For me I started to see a lot of butterflies and particular clouds in the sky that I just instantly knew was a sign from my mum.

Just know there is no right or wrong way to grieve, grieve however you feel is best

[UmbrusNightshade]

Thank you. It’s not easy, especially being the eldest child. I feel like I shouldn’t be emotional for my sibling’s sakes but right now I feel like, in addition to my own feelings, I’m soaking up everyone else’s as well, and I’m afraid a mental breakdown may be coming.

I was already dealing with some things on my own before his sudden passing. My mind is all over the place and it makes me feel selfish and weak because sometimes intrusive thoughts creep in (like the idea that maybe my dad was disappointed in me, etc.).

[jennifer_bloom]

When I was younger, the guy I liked asked me out and than changed his mind and dated the most popular girl in the school. For a short while, I would constantly sleep during the day whenever I was home from school, it is your minds way of healing. If you need to sleep, sleep. You can eat instant oatmeal and salad if you don’t have time to cook. I know women who cope with cheating and divorce by sleeping it off.

[Blackcupcake]

if you feel too exhausted emotionally and want to sleep then you should do that…

[Anonymous]

Take your time and give yourself lots of time to grieve.