i am kind of annoyed because my mom keeps saying Im wrong to have guys for my friends. I have 4 friends and 3 are guys. They are not my boyfriend or anything. Then she lets my brother be rude to me about it. He said they just want to take my virginity. What do you think?
If you set clear boundaries and adhere to them, then there is no problem having male friends. The problem is however if those men view you the same as you do and if they are willing to adhere to your boundaries.
While it is perfectly possible to have male/female friendships, a lot of those friendships tend, unfortunately, to be more than just platonic because the one or the other party is unable or unwilling to keep the friendship on a strictly platonic basis.
This is mostly true in the age group 16-35 (give or take a few years) where hormones tend to play crazy and where some assume that being friends with someone of the opposite gender is automatically leading to more.
If you are strict about your friends and make them understand your point of view, there is absolutely no issue. However, if you notice that they want more, you have to abort that friendship immediately.
s There’s nothing wrong with having platonic friendships with the opposite sex. Aslong as clear boundaries have been set, and they know that nothing else will come from the friendship (to avoid their possible ulterior motives). I have 5 friends and 3 of them are guys. Another thing, someone else in the comments said that guys will steer clear of you due to you having guy friends… that’s not true. The WRONG guys will steer clear of you 🙂 a true, respectful man wouldn’t get his knickers in a twist over what gender your friends are, because that’s just insecure and pathetic.
My advice is once you are in a relationship, don't make NEW opposite gender friends, don't be friends with any ex, don't hang out one on one with them when you are in a relationship, don't be too physical with them/too friendly, and never go to them when having disagreements or conflict in your relationship.
If any guy friends do want more from you, they will always side with you in any conflict or disagreements with a boyfriend and always try to make him look like a bad guy in order to ruin relationships.
If you can follow the advice I gave, you probably will be fine having those friends. Whatever you do, don't follow the advice of other women on this because they are frequently wrong.
I used to think it was possible to have opposite sex friendships. When you live a socially outgoing life- sure, having "surface friends" of the opposite sex is indeed possible. These are people who are fun to hang out, party, and chill with.
But to truly have a close friend of the opposite sex? As in, someone who knows you intimately, cares about you and your well being? Someone who holds you when you cry or finds ways to make you smile? Someone you always feel you must have around because they make you happy?
No, that person is NOT your friend.
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Facts: Gender is just a social trait, and to many people who prefer to be cisgendered, genetic trait. It’s better to be outgoing (not necessarily going out with) and socialise with a more diverse people. Like, many very very nice Earthlings are women, so not socialising with them is like breaking the friendship with them. Not necessarily bad, but definitely not a good thing. My imām allowed me to have women as comrades and friends. Those guys that are Your friends have no effing right to break your virginity without Your consent. You’re 18, You’re an adult, You’ve the right to be social and outgoing, have fun! You ain’t a slave to Your mum or brother.
I have very small hopes about opposite sex friends because it's rare, there's always a form of physical attraction when it comes to opposite gender friends and it always ends up raining the friendship somehow, they would have to not be attracted to each other and for friends you might as well stick to your own gender when it comes to friends as I'm almost positive that if you give them the opportunity they won't let it slip
Having guys as friends isn't bad. I've been friends with guys & like it. Only thing I wish wouldn't happen is that people tend to think something more will happen when it won't.
Just know that many guys will steer clear of you because of your guy 'friends'. Your mom and brother are right, listen to them.
It's fine to have a lot of guy friends but if they are gay it's mostly fine.
If they are straight, they want to shag you but are too polite to tell you straight up maybe cos they've known you for so long
It's totally fine! Spend time with the people you're comfortable with and who value you and build you up.
*grumble grumble* my mom is the same way. and other girls are too. UGH. it's not slutty or bad or anything like that, we're all just humans
I grew up among boys and my amount of female and male friends is disproportionate by boys. In opinion of others I'm manipulative, but in reality having as friend a girl other men desire grants boys plus points. For other girls I'm often just in their way, in 99% of cases even unintentionally.
Let's be real... Why would a girl mostly have guy friends? 1- she's a tomboy, has masculine energy... 2- she seeks validation through male attention... That's why people look down on it...
It definitely looks bad. As for it actually being bad... lemme put it to you like this; most of the women I've known who primarily hangout with men have been lunatics. Does that mean anything about you personally? Of course not. But that thought would be in the back of my mind in dealing with you.
No, but any potential boyfriend might be concerned about it
Nothing wrong with it. For a while I had mostly female friends. It was nothing I planned but it just worked out that way.
I am assuming you are straight and the friends you are getting to be friends with are straight. Everybody needs friends. Just as long as you keep it on a just friendly basis. Make sure that is established from the beginning of each relationship.
Your mom may not be wrong about them wanting to fuck you though. A lot of guys are only friends with girls for that reason, especially around your age.
Yes it is bad.
All these guys want to get with you and you have friend - zoned them.
Some say only turgid penis in a wet vagina takes away your virginity. So just do buttsex and mouth stuff with those boys and tell your brother and mom to eff the hell off. :)
It's not a problem at all. That was a very rude comment from your brother.
At your age, they probably DO want you sexually more so than just as a platonic friend.
Her: all my friends are guys
Yes i don't wanna go deep but in mens world we consider it as red flag
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