Is it okay to have guy friends in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

So I have been dating this guy for maybe a month and I post on my Snapchat story “ who wants to hangout” and he will message me and tell me “no guys just girls okay” I have guy friends that just want to be friends. I have told him this and he tells me he doesn’t want me hanging with them because he doesn’t know them enough to trust them he has to meet them first. He has a girl friend that has been his friend all through school and he told me they have even kissed and thought about dating but they decided they had to strong of a friendship to do that. I told him “ well you have a girl friend that you hangout with and I haven’t met her first” he said “well that’s different because I’ve known her for a long time” Is this wrong or controlling or is it wrong on my part to want to have guy friends?

[RemoErdosain]

I don't see the "no guy friend" rule as a bad rule in a relationship, really, as long as he's willing to obey it himself. Now, that "we've known each other for longer" excuse is utter bullshit. Since he feeds you that, while at the same time worrying about your guy friends, that shows that he's not to be trusted, and probably would cheat on you with his own friends

[Marcuslrh]

Very controlling he just sees it as 1 rule for him and another for you clearly cheeky that. And you have been dating what a month and this is happening you probably want to get rid of him think what he will be trying to control in 6 months, a year, 2 years you will have no life get rid

[Mars24]

Way too controlling. Don't let him tell you who to be friends with. That is 100% your choice, and he can dislike them as much as he wants, but you are doing absolutely nothing wrong. He is definitely in the wrong on this and is clearly jealous and untrusting. That is not a good sign.

[iminhell]

That's way too controlling. There is nothing wrong with setting certain boundaries, but if he is expecting you to follow certain rules then he absolutely has to hold himself to that exact same standard.

[nodnol32]

Its completely ok. You and your boyfriend should trust each other. Just because you started dating a guy doesn't mean you stop interacting with guys and cut off all ties with them. My girlfriend has male friends and I have female friends, we trust each other. We've been together long enough to have been introduced to each other's friends.

[TeeSquare]

If he stipulates no guys he's got serious jealousy issues. Like really, girls can have guy friends same as the other way around. If he can't figure that out you need a different guy. Early signs of a control freak. Get out while you can.

[chriscdi]

my girlfriend won't, i won't have female friends, i believe i should be her friend when she needs one, what can i say, im selfish

[bush123]

He's controlling u he ain't the 1 sis red flag in a relationship you shouldn't be talking with ur ex or someone that liked u or both of u had a thing in the past. He ain't the 1 Mark my words 💯

[Wise4myage]

Its not really any different and he's a hypocrite. He can't force you to not have male friends, and yes, It is controlling.

[In_Trance]

Guys and girls can't be friends

[Twalli]

It's controlling it also makes him sound insecure