Is spending too much time alone really NOT good for you?

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Or are people who say that just nuts? 🤨

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

You know I have meet all these women recently that have told me they fine being single and are more than happy to be alone.

But at the same time, they are on dating websites and out there meeting and dating me like me. So honestly when I hear that shit from women it means one of two things to me.

1. They are used to playing g the feild. They love honey moon phase of dating but when get hard they bail because they know they can just find another guy later. Because honestly, if has the sex thing figured out, a better than average looking woman will never have a problem finding meeting or dating men.

2. They are undateable. Its means they lack some degree of emotional maturity or elevated degree of insecure or trust issues. They would rather live alone and do things alone then risk making themselves vulnerable in a real relationship.

So like all things there a healthy piont of being along and healthy level if all things. It's only a problem when you know deep down even though you're out doing things alone, you seriously don't want to be... you'd rather have some to share things with. But you can't help yourself from stop from playing or open yourself to be vulnerable to another person inorder to build a long lasting emotional bond. This because you fear getting hurt so much, that choose to be alone when really don't want to be or have to be.

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

Only you can determine what works for you. Never let others cause you to question what works for you. Extroverts tend to be more social than introverts, yet that doesn't mean introverts have problems being alone out of choice. Even introverts appreciate contact with others, but they're more likely to value one-on-one or small group interactions. Introverts are unlikely to judge extroverts, telling them they should spend more time alone, yet extroverts are constantly judging introverts, telling them they should be more social. Telling others what they should or shouldn't do is totally disrespectful and inconsiderate, yet these people who attempt to control others feel entitled to be be shown respect and consideration. Attempting to control others is just announcing their own insecurities, as they believe anything different from them is a negative judgement of them, so all must conform to help them feel OK with themselves. That's the reason we tend to hang out with others who are similar to us or have the same vices as us, as we don't want to be judged by others. Since no one likes being judged, how can people feel it is OK for them to judge others?

Marie-Meh · Accepted Answer

I vote for another. Most people who see spending time alone negatively are extroverts, but if we do emphasize on  too much , anything excessive isn't healthy. You can spend alone time and not feel lonely as those are two different things. But if someone is spending alone time and is feeling lonely, it doesn't sound like a good situation to be in. For me, that would trigger my self doubting.

petitedollbabee · Accepted Answer

Being alone and being lonely are completely different things, people who say that it’s not good for you to be alone are possibly extroverted people and feel lonely when they’re alone. But as an introvert, I find being alone really comforting most days. Its unhealthy for me to spend too much time around people, as I start to get overstimulated.

MaazHussain · Answer

Spending too much time alone can have both positive and negative effects on a person's well-being. Some people may find that solitude and self-reflection are beneficial, while others may feel isolated and lonely.

Research suggests that social isolation and loneliness can have negative effects on physical and mental health, including increased risk of depression, anxiety, and other mental health disorders, as well as cardiovascular disease, weakened immune system, and cognitive decline. In contrast, social support and interaction have been shown to have positive effects on health and well-being, such as lower levels of stress, increased happiness, and better cognitive function.

It is important to find a balance between alone time and social interaction that works for each individual. Some people may need more alone time than others, and some may thrive in social situations. It is important to listen to your own needs and take care of your mental and physical health by seeking out social support when needed and engaging in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment.

Pegases · Answer

We are social creatures, and there have been plenty of studies done on how isolation negativety affects over all well being. It's the same concept behind solitary confinement. It literally restructures your brain and causes you to go insane. Today however, we have so many outlets to be social, that we don't experience true isolation. Even being on here is a form of social interaction, so you're not truly isolated, so you can remain "isolated" for a longer period of time before it starts to affect your well being.

earthcitizen7 · Answer

Introverts will want to spend more time alone, extroverts, the opposite. ALL of us are on a spectrum, so most people can spend some time alone, or with groups, and function well. The more you are of one or the other, the more you will want to spend more time either alone, or with others.

ShiftingMonke · Answer

I spend- on the low end- 12 hours a day alone. 16 on the high end. I can most definitely assure you it sucks, and this loneliness is why I made an account here. When your brain runs out of things to process, it starts to eat itself. That is an extremely unpleasant feeling.

Fireguy17 · Answer

No, it can be healthy.
It can give you time to sort things out.
Having a good friend base is also a good thing.
It can be different for everyone.
some people like and need solitude, others are very gregarious and really enjoy the company of others.

top-J · Answer

Spending time alone ahhh my biggest passion to improve myself. Even though I can go blow up a conversation with a random dude I saw in public and socialize I see it a waste of energy to have small talk indeed it's necessary but I'd rather talk about deep opinions and test my arguments and ideas during conversation. So I mostly stay alone untill I see someone who is worth my time and energy to socialize

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

It's not good at all for a extended period of time.

Your mind and emotions need to connect with other people otherwise you will veer into delusions in thoughts and self speech, but not to a large extent but eventually the problem will grow bigger.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Isolation can be very traumatic and problematic for the human mind. It's generally not healthy.

Spending time with yourself is good, the question of when it becomes unhealthy is depending on the individual, and when it becomes too much.

melanieeeB · Answer

I would say only when you start feeling lonely or other negative emotions. Humans are social people and here and there talking to family or good friends can be great but I also totally understand the wish to be alone and that's okay

DubiousIntentions · Answer

I would only say that it aloneness/loneliness, would not be a good idea. You may get to like it.

Flower7 · Answer

Spending time alone is less stressful than spending time with people, so I don’t see the problem with it. And being alone lessens the chances of having a traumatic or embarrassing experience.

spartan55 · Answer

BeeBella 🐝 how much is too much. Of course this will differ between different types of people. I like to think everyone knows their 'social mendoza line' but that's probably jaded thinking.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Im feeling at my best and on my best behavior when im alone. I need to be alone for the majority of the day. At night is when i like a little company

Friendlybro79 · Answer

It depends on the person how bad it is for that individual. Some people can do ok being alone better than others. It's probably not good for anyone to be alone for too long. That time span will vary.

SnowedIn · Answer

I think it's not great to spend too much time alone. Here's the nuance: "too much" is defined by each person, not someone else.

Degenerate · Answer

Spending too much time alone is only not good when you start to feel alone

Fuentes · Answer

They gotta be nuts but if u can go with human interaction forever me and u need to link up were gonna John Dillinger a bank and u gonna take the case for me hahaha and u can do the time and then imma cut u in when u get out hahaha

exitseven · Answer

Sometimes being alone is good but you have to be carefull, you can get a little too used to being alone.

warsevf · Answer

Yeah, I spent so much time alone, thinking I will limit myself to the knowledge i get online, cheaping out you can say not willing to pay the price. Now age is kicking my butt to be out there

dolemite89 · Answer

do you mean alone as in like not in a relationship or literally alone? 🤔

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Depends on the person and their overall mental health. Personally, I would groove to being a light house keeper in a remote area... as long as I had internet.

Anonymous · Answer

"Too much" is subjective. I think we should all spend time alone in our thoughts with no distractions, but what is optimal for one can be too much for others.

Still-alive · Answer

only when during that time you start to feel 'lonely' i would say.

serious · Answer

Spending too much time alone is fine. I see nothing wrong in that.

NathanDavis · Answer

how much time is too much time?

Nikki1989 · Answer

Loneliness kills people.

Anonymous · Answer

The people who say that generally don't know how to be alone. Pity them. The might NEVER learn self reliance.

ZenoZoldyck · Answer

I've spent and still spending time alone more than anybody here, and I guarantee you 100% it's truly not good.

sheenagwapa · Answer

i am happy alone i think they are just jealous

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Probably both

Jennz6 · Answer

I don’t like to be alone

LemiaOfThunder · Answer

It depends on the person

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Depends what you do during that period of time

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Not if you can say “all of me”

PainusNdeeAnus · Answer

Not for women

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

I am asexual

Anonymous · Answer

better to be alone then hurt by anyone

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