Do you do passive rejection if somebody makes you angry?

[jennifer_bloom]

Like your not rude but you go from talking every week to talking a few times a year. My friend said my standards are too high and I need to expect that people have flaws or I will never have any friends. I just think I deserve a drama free friend that does not make me angry.

[Jltakk]

I emotionally door slam people that annoy me. Ain't got time for that drama.

[Wise4myage]

I agree with your friend.

[Juneberry91]

Stating the obvious I don’t know you nor your friend. I don’t know your habits or temperaments. I can tell you as the years go by people change. Their preferences, Tolerance, & interest. Some people mature and some people say stuck in the past.

I had a friend that said I missed you several times a week and that was overwhelming and excessive to me. Although I know she meant to be sweet It’s my responsibility to communicate to her that I am uncomfortable with that. I told her that as much as I like talking with friends I don’t need to excessively speak over the phone or see them in person to feel validated in our friendship because I am confident. Real friendships that are not governed by anxiety I like stars they’re there all the time you just don’t see them during the day. It’s so nice to have friends that don’t have unreasonable expectations but are able to tell you what bothers them.

It’s also very clear In your question that you deserve drama free friends that don’t make you angry. I think it’s very important to gauge how you feel & that’s Where your answer lies if you feel this way all the time then it’s evident that you need to get rid of this friend.

Do make room if you see growth, In the true reality of things our family we most love makes us angry, Friends we grow up with have done things that made us angry, A healthy marriage will have times of anger. It’s how we handle our anger and upset with others determines whether we stick around or not.

Talking every week to every so often a year Is the taper off of fact. Some people do this to help others gently transition out from closeness to love from a distance. This happens sometimes, When I have done this this way it was to put space between friends that I grew up with that I find precious but don’t have the heart to cut them off immediately. It was with friends that I found was over bearing & demand things to be a certain way when I was going through a hard time. I also encountered a friend that I haven’t spoke to for two years maybe three times. I got to the point where we were clashing and I tapered off Because it was just not worth my energy, Especially when you’re running a career have a husband and have children. People tend to be more reserved also if someone’s going through state of depression they will not be able to give so generously.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

No, if someone makes me angry enough, I usually just reject them completely. Anger doesn’t come easily to me, so if I get angry at someone it’s usually for a good reason and I take steps to keep them out of my life. If it’s over something petty somehow, and I know it’s something petty, I usually just ask for space until I’m able to reach out to them and talk about why that thing made me upset, usually when I’m calmer.

[FreyaRed]

I'm generous in forgiving especially if I don't lose anything due their steady mistakes. People are like children who fall down permanently, put their fingers into 240V sockets and they have never ending desire to prove if fire is really hot, I stay above that all. In one hand lack of emotions is a disadvantage but in other hand it's a gift.

[Elozaa]

Yes, i do as long as it is possible