Let’s say you have a friend, what should (s) he do?

[Anonymous]

Let’s say you have a friend. This friend has an adult daughter (18) who lives at home, still. The friend goes in his daughter’s room, and notices her writing in a notebook. The daughter immediately hides the notebook when her parent comes in.

Naturally, it appears she’s writing something private in a journal. The daughter leaves, and the curious parent - knowing it is a violation of her privacy - reads it anyway.

There is an entry that describes how the daughter’s boyfriend is being mean to her, causing her to “self harm”.

The friend certainly acknowledges the violation of privacy. But the friend also has an obligation to protect his child.

What would you do at that point?

[Anonymous]

It's important for the friend to respect their daughter's privacy and acknowledge that reading her journal without permission was a violation of trust. However, the friend also has a responsibility to ensure their daughter's safety and well-being, particularly if she is experiencing self-harm or abuse.

One option could be to approach the daughter and express concern for her well-being, without necessarily mentioning the journal entry directly. The friend could offer support and resources, such as counseling or therapy, and encourage the daughter to talk about her experiences and feelings.

If the friend believes that the daughter's safety is at risk, they may need to take more immediate action, such as involving a trusted family member or friend, or contacting a professional or authority figure, such as a therapist or the police.

It's important for the friend to prioritize their daughter's safety and well-being, while also recognizing the importance of trust and privacy in their relationship. Open and honest communication, empathy, and support can help to facilitate a positive and healthy relationship between the friend and their daughter.

[Maybehislady67]

You don't do shit.
The "friend " needs to own up to their actions and calmly let their daughter know they will protect them. This so called friend should be prepared to feel attacked because they crossed boundaries and seem to be snooping into her privacy which is NOT okay. So OWNING up to that fault and some how some way then making sure the daughter is okay they can proceed to then how or why she's being abused, how she feels about it. And literally fucking communicate how this isn't okay for her to self harm then tell her she's loved. Not invalidate her feelings or what have you. Build her up and go kill the mf after. Hope I helped

[Maybehislady67]

Not how or why she's being abused but mention to her and bring it up. Let her know its not her fault and she is strong and beautiful etc******