Is it reasonable?

[Artandthom]

The woman in my village asked me "Where did you cut your hair, It looks funny/bad"

Sometimes she comes to my house to meet my mom and ask her to do something and bring to the temple.

But I would like to tell mom that I do not want to see her at our home again ( Her son who studied at same primary school with me when I was young always made me cry too)

Is it reasonale if I do not want to see her again?

[Anonymous]

No it’s not reasonable, it’s immature and avoidant. If you have an issue with this woman, why not politely ask her to stop. Then at least she has the opportunity to correct her ways. Asking her not to come around is also selfish because you’re putting your mom in such an awkward position, and that’s not fair.

[The_Naughty_Guy]

Either you take it as a joke. If you feel hurt, it’s better to talk to that woman directly and ask or explain her to stop. It’s not good to bring your mom in between this. You should handle it yourself.

[Artandthom]

In my country it is a little bit hard to talk directly to adult (who we are not close to) for some little thing (I meant in their opinion , it is a little thing to said my haircut is bad/funny)

The main point is that her son used to hurt my feeling during my primary school and I cried everyday , before this I can handle it by thinking that it is not herself it is her son who hurt me so I have the good relationship with her, but after her say bad thing to me ( I consider it as a bad thing cause it is not suggestion. So I respect my feeling that if I feel hurt I should protect myself cause I hold my feeling toward the bad thing his son did to me and I still hurt my feeling for 30 years , if it hurt me for 30 years, I think I should protect myself. So I will told that woman that my mom have health issue (it is the truth) and the doctor told her not to work much , so she can not do that thing that you bring from the temple to her to work on it. I will say it in a nice way and If she realize that we are not comfortable for that, she should stop going to myhome herself.

[Artandthom]

And when she talked about my haircut it was not her joke , from her expression she mademe know that it is not a joke (my haircut is short hair) , In my opinion i can even accept if she said that"why not you cut your hair different style " or "why not you cut your hair at another shop it will be better"

but saying that where did you cut your hair it looks silly, bad. I do not get any suggestion from this words, so I take it as that she hurt my feeling, What her son did to me made me sad for 30 years so I think I will not let his mom hurt me again.

Anyway thanks for your answer , I appreciate it.

[jshm2]

It's a little silly of you. You should make a joke of her instead.