I remember crying about my mother when I was a teenager and wanting to live with her and for her to come back but everyone got tired of me talking about her and bluntly told me she wants nothing to do with me and move on. My dad insulted my mother right in front of my face by calling her a “bitch” for abandoning me and him. He gets angry when I bring it up and got in my face and told me to quit talking about that flaky woman. He bluntly said he doesn’t give a rats ass about my mother and he wanted me to quit talking about it and refused to let me sulk. He never lets me sulk when he calls me out. He got in my face and told me mom isn’t a strong woman. She is a weak, cowardly woman that refuses to be a mother and told me to stay the hell away from him with all that crying about her and he’s the one that should be upset because she was the one that broke his heart after the love and devotion he gave her and he had to file for divorce but I don’t hear him moping and crying about it all the time so back off and lay off the subject. He holds NOTHING back. He says the ugly truth in your face, even if it’s painful, he will tell you the truth and refuse to tell you what you wanna hear. He isn’t nice. That’s why I can’t express my feelings to him but I do to the other relatives.
I haven’t seen my mom since I was very little. My dad never apologized for getting in my face and yelling at me to quit talking about my mother. Even my older brothers are tired of hearing it and told me she’s a lousy mother and stop telling people she is a great mother when she isn’t. Enough. Men are so rude to emotional women and girls.
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While I sympathise with you being so young and not having your mum around. It's not easy, especially when you need her the most. However, I can also understand your dad and where he is coming from. Your dad has been there from day 1, he has been the one who has been raising you, but he is not the one you want. Instead, you want something who abandoned you and wants nothing to do with you. I don't think your dad is necessarily being rude to you. Maybe Deep down it must be hurting your dad knowing this you want someone who left you and wasn't around because in a way she was selfish to not step up and be a mum and be there for you kids.
In a way I side with your dad here. Having said that. If you are 18 as you mentioned. Have you thought about writing to your mum and seeing if you can meet up?
I do want my dad and I do appreciate what he’s done but he doesn’t have to be so aggressive and hard on me. He didn’t have to insult my mother in front of my face. He didn’t do that when I was a child and now I’m 18 he’s saying more brutal things and he said I an old enough to hear it he doesn’t have to mince his worst anymore. Even my brothers said dad has every right to be upset because I should consider his feelings because me chasing after the woman that dumped us instead of appreciating what dad has done for us and our aunt that stepped in to help us, especially me since I needed a female role model and I have so many.
My sister and I aren’t close but she also stepped in to help me since mom is useless (she’s our half sister I forgot to mention her). She was upset with me for not appreciating her and me chasing after the woman that didn’t give a rats ass about me for 12-13 years.
I'm sure you do appreciate your dad, but maybe for your dad, he doesn't feel like you do appreciate him. I'm sorry your dad was so brutal in the way he told you what he did. Remember he is likely fed up and just snapped. He was with that woman for years and he knew her better than you. You don't know everything that was said or everything that happened between them either. Obviously he won't do that when you are a kid, as you were just a kid and he was probably trying to protect you from the truth since you were just a kid, but now you are older, he is probably fed up. I'm sure deep down your dad is hurting and he has probably even broken down and cried at times when he has been on his own.
You have 2 choices here. Stop bringing up your mum around the family who are clearly wanting you to stop. Or you can try and reach out to her and see if you can reconnect with her.
you're just a dumbass. the men are right to call you stupid.
Excuse me? That’s all you got to say?
yes. dumbass.
You’re such a brute! Can’t you see I’m a young teen girl that needs her mother? Why they hell did you call me a dumbass?
because you keep whining and bitching about someone who left you. grow up.
Why are you such an asshole? So you agree with my dad for yelling at me? I’m 18 and you’re cussing out a teenager? You should be ashamed of yourself!!! If you have kids, I feel bad for them. As a girl, I need my mom!!
of course I agree with your dad and brothers. you're such a baby
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You’re an asshole! You’re so mean to teenagers!