Conservative Christians: how would you want to find out a close friend is trans?

[Anonymous]

I'm going back and forth between various different methods I've heard of (texting, in person, how and how much to bring up etc)...

I like this person. I care about her. We were roommates in college, we have many common interests, and miraculously we're still both in the same city indefinitely. I want this friendship to continue. But I know it... almost definitely... won't. I just don't want to tip the odds any more out of favor than they already are.

If it were you... how would you want to find out? Would you want a text—casual, or formal? Or in person—at one of your homes, or a neutral 3rd location? Over a meal? Between some activity? In one of our cars on the way back home?

I know this is all pointless and that it'll all go to pot no matter how much I try to meet them where they are and answer their questions and not impose anything on them. That's how it's gone with every family member. Every church friend. Every Christian teacher. ... I just hope that, just one person, I won't have to let go. And she's pretty much the only one left now.

[Spongebobssocks]

As a Christian i'd still love the person just like i did before. I would just think he/she needed more help than before. I would want my friend to be happy in the body God made for him/her.

[Asker]

Yes, that's how i fear she will respond, and ignore that I am happy for the first time in my life after I finally accepted how God made me as a trans person.

[Spongebobssocks]

God made you the way you were biologically born. I wish you the best in healing!:)

[Asker]

Yes, and God made all of me, not just my body. I wish you openness and compassion.

[Spongebobssocks]

Thats where free will comes in. Wish you all good!🤗

[Spongebobssocks]

👋🏻

[Asker]

Yes, and free will should not be used to harm ourselves or others. Thank you, I wish you well too.

[Spongebobssocks]

🤗👍🏻...

[strateguy632]

some things don't announce. heteros don't announce when we had sex.

[Asker]

But as a man, wouldn't you let your friend know, if she was under the impression you were a woman?

[Anonymous]

It’s going to hurt her no matter how you do it. Even if she’s initially seemingly accepting of it she’ll find ways to avoid you to try and suppress the pain of seeing you become a different person.

[Asker]

I know it will not be pleasant, that's why I'm wanting to do it in the best way possible. I would honestly be shocked if she even pretended to be accepting! Everyone else has not thought i was becoming a different person, they just think I'm a liar and brainwashed by the "woke." I wish they would even treat me like a different person or be sad about it, instead of pretending nothings changed and treating me like I'm too stupid to know what person I've always been...