Why do I always self sabotage and talk myself out of good things, people and opportunities in my life?

[Anonymous]

[Anemone978]

Fix yourself.. you don't want to waste your life throwing things away because you don't think you are good enough.. You can always change but try and change while you are young..

[smashleyy]

self sabotage allows one to “predict” what is going to happen and that creates an illusion of control

[smashleyy]

self sabotage is really just control issues, defence mechanism to self protect. Got to find out where that stems from and let yourself know you’re not in that place anymore

[Anonymous]

You don't want it or you take it for granted. It may not even be a self image thing like others think it is.

[BarryLiverstone]

Because you haven’t fully committed to self work. You could feel scared to try

[BarryLiverstone]

What is it in your past that you mostly fear?

[Asker]

Long term toxic relationship. I feel it’s the root of my lower self esteem/confidence issues. Trying to dig myself out of that hole I chose for quite a while. It’s a slow but sure process.

[BarryLiverstone]

Good luck. That’s not easy. I’d ask you to share what made it toxic but that’s beyond the scope of your q

[Asker]

I can sum up best I can. Manipulation, unfaithfulness, gaslighting, emotional/verbal abuse. Those things wear on you over time & if you’re not careful, will turn you into someone you’re not, with all of this baggage, if you let it.

[BarryLiverstone]

Abuse hurts deeply. You feel responsible for some of it?

[Asker]

For choosing to stay when I knew things weren’t going to change, yes.

[BarryLiverstone]

And have you forgiven yourself for that choice? Everyone makes mistakes

[Anonymous]

because you're afraid of the unknown outcomes.

[Opinion Owner]

and you have no control over those outcomes.

[Hinaaaaa]

Low self esteem & Confidence Issues

[DarkWinterNights]

Because deep down you don’t think you deserve it.