Why do people with children most often focus so much on being a “Good “ or “Perfect” parent rather than just being a parent in general?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

I don't focus on being a good or a perfect parent. Sometimes I Iegit ignore my baby's cries. Why? Because those cries are just her wanting me to pick her up and stand with her. My arms are constantly sore from having to hold her so much. She has a bunch of toys, but she has very little interest in playing with them.

I will honestly say, the infant stage I hate so much.

[Asker]

My son is almost one and for the most part he’s so chill and calm but he’s going through the phase of where his top teeth are coming in so he gets a bit frustrated and cries and I get flustered and frustrated but I calm myself and remind myself where he’s coming from. So, I soothe him with all the things they provide us with that we can give our children when they’re teething. Things like cooling teething gel, they have dissolvable pills as well. My point is, although we are mothers, we’re still human. We were individuals before we were their moms. So we’re not all perfect or all good but we do have hearts that can love and feel that’s genuinely all a child needs.

[Jkgordon]

That’s your perception when you are a parent you just do parent things

[EricSummer]

It's a good idea to aim a bit higher and try to be a good parent. If it does not always work out you can still be ok.

By contrast, wanting to be a perfect parent can make you insecure and stifle your natural energy.

[Anonymous]

Isn't that what parents are suppose to do?

[Asker]

I wouldn’t necessarily say so. I believe parents are just suppose to love, provide, care, comfort, discipline etc and I don’t think any of those qualities need for you to be good or perfect in order to naturally have them.

[Asker]

Those qualities comes from a committed parent rather than a good or perfect one.

[Asker]

Or parent’s