- 1 y
Does the bare minimum? *clownworld emoji*
However, it could have something to do with the fact that it's assumed by feminazis that men never do any work at all. And a single dad flies directly in the face of that assumption. Therefore, making him a noble being by default due to defying the bigotry of low expectations.
Single moms have a bad rap more often than not, because a lot of them are single due to being cheaters with zero morals, whose cheating antics often result in their kids being endangered by strangers, because the mother has zero common sense and is way too selfish to ever even slow down from how much dick she gets, not even for the safety of her kids.
And because she is seen as trashy for that reason - which she will betray with her words and attitude long before she gets in bed with anyone - then it goes without saying that if she's a bitch, she's more likely than not going to attract dogs.
And if one of those dogs ends up being a wolf, the kids could get hurt when she's too busy smoking Newports on the front porch and cussing her cousin out on the phone to notice.
By contrast, single dads are usually a lot more willing to make sacrifices for their kids. They live by the motto: "do the 'crime', do the time," and are willing to accept responsibility. If they can't be letting just any woman in the house due to the kids needing to be safe, they'll cut down on their nookie time. Or even cut it out completely and go borderline celibate.
If they do meet a woman, and they lose the will to resist the urge to scratch that itch, they'll go to her house, and get the kids a babysitter. That way, if she turns out to be a psycho, he only puts himself in immediate danger. And can usually get out in time, and ditch the psycho. (Or get the police involved if she won't take the hint.)
Statistically, however, single moms aren't that patient. They get a new boyfriend, they still barely know him, but they already slept with him on the first date, she immediately moves him in to her place and tells to kids to shut up and adjust.
And in so doing, puts the entire family in danger.
I've seen this play out too many times for you to convince me otherwise.
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Because women have been from the dawn of time regarded as the "gatekeepers of sex" so if a woman is a single mother naturally many people assume that she has poor judgement, made bad decisions, etc. ... and unfortunately this is all too often supported by the simple fact that it's far more common to find a single mother on welfare with alcoholism or drug issues than it is to find a single mother with a job, even part time.
Take my rental property that I sold a few years ago. I sold it after my renters bought themselves a house. The person who bought it from me rented it top & bottom.
Both to single mothers, both with multiple children, both on welfare. Both unsavory in conduct one having trashed one of the units and the other illegally has her "boyfriend" there.
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On the reverse not only do single fathers very often have a job but they are far less likely to have alcoholism & drug issues simply because of the fact that the courts widely favour women in child care. So for a single father to earn complete custody means that he's not a slouch.
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Interesting. For the longest time, the typical thinking was that women were praised because it was such a hard job to raise children alone, and the men were scorned for being deadbeat dads.
Men are usually quick to shame single moms because they usually think of the amount of sex she must have had to have to get pregnant, and why the father isn't around anymore, often thinking she was loose and irresponsible and used goods as so many men want fresh women who basically haven't had sex with anyone yet.
Women are also quick to shame men who leave their partners who have children not understanding the entire story, and how painful it actually is to have their children kept from them if the woman was vindictive after the break up. There are two people in the breakup, and usually a man who had an established career is going to keep it to carry on to help pay for the children.
We just simply don't know a couple's situation. But I do know that children put pressure on a couple even after a break up, and it is always a challenge for people to get their lives in order when they always have to consider the children first. The issues lie in the parents who put their children last just to get some cheap thrills or selfish satisfaction in life and both men and women have been known to do it.
41 Reply- 1 y
I recall a cashier I had to work with that was the epitome of this. She and her hubby were both really bad about the whole fidelity thing. But she was way worse. And paid a heavy price for it.
1.5K opinions shared on Family & Friends topic. This isn't even just single dads and moms being viewed in these ways. It's also just dads and moms in general
For example. Dad changes diapers and gets up at night all of a sudden to society he's a amazing dad and deserves a medal. Mom does those things plus goes through pregnancy and childbirth it's normal and looked over.
Seriously fucked up. I will never ever view a father single or not as better than a mother single or not just because moms will always do more due to nature making us be the ones to go through pregnancy and childbirth. Dads are truly only ever doing the bare minimum.
52 Reply- 1 y
I agree, but there's context to everything. I did all the diaper changes (when I was not at work), bathes my kids, staying up late formula feeding, cooked dinners... while working a full career and being married to a housewife.
By all accounts, not saying I deserve an award, but i consider myself a pretty awesome dad who does more than the bare minimum
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- Anonymous(25-29)1 y
Bare minimum? Not so much. Statistically single fathers are better parents than single mothers. Children of single fathers fare better on average than children of single mothers. Google it.
To your question, single mothers usually end up that way due to poor choices. The only exception to that are the ones whose husbands die prematurely.
Women today are very different than women of the past in that they take casual sex lightly and breed with men they aren't confident will be good fathers to their childred, and stay around to be fathers. In the past sex was mostly reserved for marriage, and in marriage the man has essentially committed to stay with the women and take care of her and their kids. Today women breed indiscriminately with shitty men, and that's how most end up as single mothers. Many also divorce their husbands and end up single mothers as a result. Half of marriages end in divorce and women file 80% of them, because today's woman lack a sense of commitment. Whatever the cause, it's a very poor reflection on today's women, and that's why single mothers are judged harshly.
Women hold all the cards in reproduction and parental rights, so when a man ends up as a single father, it usually means the mother was a complete fuckup. With rights come responsibilities, and the fact that women have all the rights in reproduction means they also bear more responsibility. Most single mothers took that responsibility too lightly.
30 Reply - Anonymous(18-24)1 y
My father was a single father. When my shut mother ran off and abandoned us with another man he raised us up on his own. We were surrender by many single parent families most of which were single mom's and most of those women were trashy and most were deliberately keeping their kid's fathers away for maximum child support and alimony to fun their slutty lifestyles. We grew up always having food in our stomach, clothes on our back, shoes on our feet, did well in school, neither his sons or ddaughters ended up in prison or onlyfans. Statistically single fathers are better than single mothers.
60 Reply 2.1K opinions shared on Family & Friends topic. You've made an inaccurate assumption.
Single dads (that is, ones with custody) are viewed negatively as potential partners by most women, which is no different from how single moms are viewed.
Most single moms want guys to help them financially. I don't think single custodial fathers expect to find a woman that will be willing to do that.
53 ReplyNot all single mothers are viewed with contempt, some are widowed or have been divorced because of genunine reason, however that is not the case with most. Yes men view single mothers are recreational use only as they should. Pregnancy and labor is biological and not in your hands if you chose to get pregnant, what is in a woman's hand is if she chooses to get pregnant as women are the gatekeepers of sex. Women also unilaterally get to decide who gets to be born and who does not.
Now coming to single dads, they are praised because they have someone won custody of their children in a situation, at least, in the west where women initiate most of the divorces and are awarded most of the child custody. So the woman had to mess up pretty badly for her children to be take away from her.
Another reason is that children of single fathers turn out much better than single mothers who form the bulk of degenerates in society; criminals, homeless, bums, etc.10 Reply- 1 y
Because a single dad is a real man who chooses to be in his children’s life
a single mother only does so because she got knocked up by a loser and got stuck with the children
33 Reply- Asker1 y
So a dad is a real man and a loser at the same time.. alright then.
- 1 y
No because only losers would allow a woman to be
A single mother in the first place
Stop fucking beta males who run from their responsibilities as a father ladies - 1 y
Idc how good looking he is stop fucking losers ladies
430 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic. Because the opposite is true, in most cases.
Moms who are single as a result of death of spouse, no fault divorce, or estrangement are never called "trashy". But the trashy moms who simply shat out a baby and now want money for their poor choices, are.
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Because people are PATRIACHY and do things like worship, praise or respect the male sex even if they don't deserve it.
Sad truth.
They pre-judge, just like racism. They pre-judge someone because of their skin color... or height, or language barrier, etc. People like to make it easier on themselves and put people in undeserved boxes. Lazy thinking really. Lazy and cruel.
00 Reply - 1 y
They should not be. A possible reason why some feel this way is that with a single mother, the father (s) might not even know that about the offspring. A single dad, in general, either won custody in court, which has a bias for the mom, or is a widower.
30 Reply - 1 y
9-and-something months of merely growing something in oneself that grows anyway is:
1stly - natural
and
2ndly: the real parenthood begins AFTER birth; and lasts a lot longer.
On the other hand: I don't generalize with thinking that women being trashy because of raising a kid alone.
WE (parents) should not be judged by populistic opinions, but based on the results we produce...
or breed :)
00 Reply It's not shameful until you're a single mother to 4 kids from 4 baby daddies like I see all to often here in the hood.
40 Reply- Anonymous(30-35)1 y
Women have always held the keys to reproduction, which is a blessing and a curse for them. It is MUCH easier for women to find a man willing to have sex with them, but the potential consequences of sex for women are greater than for men. Women also have far more rights and privileges related to reproduction than men do. Simply put, a single mother has most likely abused those rights and privileges, and there is not much honor in that.
00 Reply - 1 y
Single dads are definitely not considered amazing, but to extent they're viewed better than single moms, it's because they're rarer.
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Who's calling them trashy? I don't think well regarded members of society are calling them trashy. There are so many single mothers out there that I don't think most people really care tbh
00 Reply Single dads are trashy if they never marred the woman
10 Reply1.2K opinions shared on Family & Friends topic. I guess because people like you think that child care involves the bare minimum. You obviously have not taken care of a child. If you were willing to write something, this ridiculous.
10 Reply- Anonymous(25-29)1 y
I don't see anyone calling single mothers trashy. Men just don't want to date them and they get mad. if you're a single mother, focus on your kid and when they are 18, if you haven't completely let yourself go, then try to find someone.
00 Reply - 1 y
Because women are viewed as objects. Single mom's are seen as rejected goods. I don't agree with this but that's what I assume is happening.
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Same reason why single dads are considered trashy, while single moms are considered amazing.
08 Reply- 1 y
Then single dads are not amazing unless they are not divorced which most wives would file for divorce anyways.
- Asker1 y
Aiko, who hurt you? I see your comments on the site a lot, and they always seem so hateful and anti-women. I’m not sure what’s happened, but I’m sorry you’re so hurt. I hope that throughout your life, you heal and recover from what ever has caused this hatred ❤️
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Maybe it seems that way to you because you yourself are just hurt. I'm if you look at the question, she's talking about single dads being seen as amazing while single moms are seen as trashy. So why can't i say thesame about the other side of the story? Why is it that question about men being privileged, misogynistic, being assholes, etc. are ok but when i do thesame in response, it's "hateful". Are you trying to prove double standards?
- 1 y
I actually respect women. Or i can just say i respect anyone in general. But there are just people who don't deserve it.
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Who deserves your respect? Every comment I’ve ever seen you post, on women’s questions or in response to women’s comments, you’re always trying to flip their words back onto them, or just being really argumentative or hateful for no reason? Maybe it’s just me that views it that way, who knows… my bad!
- 1 y
Flip? More like trying to even out the story because why not? Are you trying to justify yourself being one sided? Anyways, despite how you look at my responses, it still makes a lot of sense however. "Same reason why" and any English teacher knows that's grammatically correct. "Every comment I’ve ever seen you post, on women’s questions" Maybe what you meant is in every Feminist-esque question you see me post or that's what you only focus on me. So if why i said is "hateful" why isn't your question considered hateful then? Again hypocrisy?
- 1 y
In other words, you don't want anyone to argue at your own level because you don't want your own logic to backfire you
- Anonymous(45 Plus)1 y
Common sense. Do the math and you'll figure it out.
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I did the math and it makes no sense. It’s a ridiculous double standard. Why shame the person who put in all of the hard work? Why praise the person who did the absolute bare minimum?
- Opinion Owner1 y
That's because your math is wrong.
- Asker1 y
Yet you’re not telling me the correct “math”, so I don’t think you know what you’re talking about.
- Opinion Owner1 y
No. I'm just not wasting my time going into a long explanation that you'll not accept anyhow. So just accept that, we know why, it makes complete logical sense, and that's all you need to know
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Aka “just trust me bro”. Lol, okay 😂
- Opinion Owner1 y
No, I could care less if you trust me. I expect you wouldn't doesn't change the fact it's still reality.
Because single dads dont raise kids who become degenerates for the most part
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Neither is trashy and anyone that thinks it is needs their head checked
00 Reply I guess I never knew they were considered "trashy". That's a new one on me.
00 Reply- Anonymous(18-24)1 y
@Disha10 Please unblock me.. You are mistaken me.. I am not a guy I am virgin girl..
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I’m not someone called Disha10?
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cuz people are judgmental.
00 Reply Never heard such claims, till now from you.
00 ReplyNothing wrong with single mothers
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That’s not accurate
00 Reply Don't overthink
00 Reply858 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic. I know it's wrong
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