Be honest, is it okay to live in your parents house after you've 25 years old?

[Anonymous]

[OfMiceandMen]

Depends on the circumstances, but if the person is healthy and can work, they should be out of the house and at least attempting to make it on their own. There is no succeed if you don't try.

This whole saving to get a down payment on a house these days so they can maintain the life style to which they've become accustomed at home, is a joke.

Part of budgeting and realizing what it takes to survive on your own is making concessions, it's called being an adult. I see some young adults working their ass off holding down 2 or 3 jobs that have no support system, doing better than those staying home with their parents. If they can do it, the young adults with parents should be able to no problem.

Parents who allow their kids to stay home, work part time and maintain a fun lifestyle are simply enabling them and the parents need to wake up. I know several parents like this, one of their sons was given a farm property (literally a 2 million dollar farm) and the farm does not even make enough to pay the taxes or earn enough to support himself, after three years. When his parents come up on weekends, he says how am I suppose to become a man with them here every weekend. The parents bought the farm and pay the taxes. He's 30 years old!!!

[Malwi93]

well i bad the situation doesn't suck for him so whats wrong with that

[OfMiceandMen]

@Malwi93 Sorry, can you reword your comment?

If you are saying it doesn't suck for him, then what's wrong with that... the point is he's not growing up and he'll never be a man as long as he's taking advantage of his parents hard work. 20 years from now when his parents pass, he'll lose the farm because he's never learned what it takes to run one.

[Malwi93]

yeah, why does he have to be a MAN? lol. how does it affect u

[OfMiceandMen]

@Malwi93 Because his parents raised him to be a man and work towards something. He's 30 years old and not a child anymore. He's the one that told them he would work the farm if they bought it. It affects me because the parents ask me what to do, even they're frustrated with him.

[Malwi93]

lol well lets hope it will not get overgrown with grass
in my opinion its whatever. there r worse things than underachieivng or being supported by parents

[Malwi93]

im NOT being supported by the way.. before u ask

[OfMiceandMen]

@Malwi93 That's all they're worried about is that it was about a 2 million dollar mistake. I just feel sorry for the parents as they bought it at the peak of the market and if they sell today, they'd lose quite a bit of money.

I just know it could impact their family if they decide to pull the plug on it.

[OfMiceandMen]

Good for you not being supported, and I wasn't planning on asking. As I said above whether someone's parents help or they don't, I respect anyone that makes an effort. Even if they fail trying, at least they tried.

[exitseven]

The way things are today it is okay. Covid and Biden has really screwed up the whole country. Housing prices are sky high and wages have been stagnant.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[Anonymous]

It's OK as long as it isn't hampering you. I remember when I was younger my parents always said I could live with them as long as I was either 1. Going to school or 2. Working full time. If I had been them I would have set more stipulations on me though luckily i was always self driven. I think a lot of parents just want to know thier kid can stand on thier own two feet. Now that I'm older I can look back on it and say I feel for kids now-a-days. Tuition has tripled since I went to school. Cost of living has risen dramatically while wages has stayed relatively stagnant. I've been fairly successful. But I'll also be first to say a lot of things have fell my way in life. So I do think I'm a little compassionate in this area. I lived at home through college and into my mid twenties. And it allowed me to get a considerable early jump on many things that benefit me now like my retirement plan.

I guess my response is this should be case by case. I don't think there's anything wrong with a young adult living at home so long as they're making good use of that advantage, not just using it.

[Mamaliv]

I used to think, no not okay. But with the cost of living going up so much I couldn’t just kick my kid out. As long as they’re working and taking care of their needs and helping around the house, I’d be agreeable. I’ll be expecting them and encouraging them to make smart moves towards a beneficial future.

[Flatmanlewis]

I don’t see this as a yes or no answer. It’s too complex. Living at home at 25 playing video games all day and mooching off Moms cooking and laundry service? Yeah. That’s a loser look for sure.


Living at home to save money for your own home, college, or some goal? Helping around the house and enjoying the time you can spend with family by doing so? Contributing to their happiness and your future success…hell yeah. That’s a good plan. Rock on.

[DextroShade]

For women it is, and a few years ago I would say it wasn't for men, but in today's age of Bidenomics where it is nearly impossible for someone that age to buy a house and the rent keeps increasing I can't blame a guy for staying with his parents at that age. He will still have a hard time finding a woman as they won't be nearly as understanding.

[Anonymous]

You cannot compare yourself to someone else. Fuck with everybody else says. Their shit stinks too. As long as you are trying to get yourself together that is fine. It's smarter to stay longer until you are truly ready instead of being an ego driven person who cares what others think and make life harder for you to get to a place you are stable

[HelpfulWoman]

hell nah. house prices are dumb, rentings a scam frankly and as long as you contribute to bills and do your part in the household, whats the difference?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Only if you can leave at any moment.

But the way the economy is going, I really don't blame people who are stuck with their parents. It's kinda stupid for anyone making less than 70k a year to do it if we're being honest.

[sheikalana]

Only if you contribute to the bills and house chores. Parents house is not a hotel and at 25 you're grown enough to have a job and assume your responsibilities even if your parents say it's okay it's not okay.

[TalkWithoutSpeaking]

Depends on what country you live in. If you live in Denmark, where the economy is pretty good, then it's not. If you live in the US, where inequality is high and there's instability, then yes.

[Drumlin2001]

Depends. By choice or necessity? I'd be disappointed if my kids were still at home through choice at that age. I'd hope they would be saving for their own place at least

[Curmudgeon]

Given the current Bidenflationary economy, nothing wrong with it at all. (Your foreign country may vary).

[Sasha0426]

In America, it’s not ok. It’s heavily frowned upon in our country if you’re not moved out by the age of 18. Society has practically made that into a rule. But, if you were in a different country, it’s ok.

[Still-alive]

How do you feel about that?

[kylee2437]

Anyone that says no is projecting their parents bad parenting

[jb2622]

Its looked down on by society but in reality it makes a lot of sence and is the smart thing to do if you have the option. I would suggest you contribute to the house hold thought.

[BigBlueEyes343]

Yes. It’s fine if you can’t get a job or can’t afford to move out.

[WhitneySnow]

I guess if you have to, but it’s probably better to get your own place by then

[kylee2437]

When you hit 25 you will realize that’s a pretty unrealistic expectation unless if you want to live paycheck to paycheck

[DarkWinterNights]

It’s either your parents or you roll the dice with friends or strangers as roommates. Most people can’t afford a place on a single income.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Depends on the situation of that person, it's only logical to know that not everyone gets the same hand of cards in life

[provokeesmokee]

It's not ideal, but in today's market it's a reality

[zagor]

Sure. I did; I had a job traveling 6-8 months of the year and was living in hotels most of the time and it didn't make sense to pay rent or leave a house empty so I moved into my old room.