I am the eldest daughter. I have one younger sister. I was raised by divorced parents. Throughout my life, my mother was never satisfied with all my achievements and whatever I did in my life from when I was at school until I was finally able to support myself. I wasn't the genius type, I wasn't the kid who always got straight A's, but I wasn't the stupid kid either, I was definitely the kid who got lots of B's and B+'s. However, I was not active in class and I was never interested in participating in competitions or Olympics held by my school.
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Unfortunately, this makes my mother very embarrassed because I am not as smart and as skilled as other children my age, especially the children of my mother's friends. So my mother thought I was a stupid and embarrassing child. And what's even worse, this stupid and embarrassing assumption didn't stop until I was over 21 years old. She often compares me with her friends' children whose lives are more successful than mine and who have better lives than me. She hates the way that I live paycheck to paycheck, I don’t own a house and a car, and I’m not rich like her friends’ children. Well I’m not gonna lie, it hurts, but over the years, I don’t really think about it and just live my life. My personal life isn’t fucked anyway. But she always has stuff to say about it.
Suddenly, out of nowhere, it stings something in my heart. I got upset for the past few days. My mood went downhill so bad. On top of that, my sister told me that mom talked shit behind my back AGAIN. Mom said, I am an embarrassment because I’m over 23 and I’m not married yet, meanwhile her friends children are way better and they have babies n get it all together, while I’m not. In our culture, females who are not married by the age of 23-25 is considered UNWANTED. She doesn’t know that I don’t wanna rush it, I prefer working and saving up money, I do wanna get married when I’m ready and everything. I just don’t want to have children that’s it.
Please help
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I can relate to this so much. After my dad died it was just my mother and older sister I always knew my mother really didn't like that I was born a boy but I always had my dad around he and I were really close. After he died my sister started abusing me she beat me up everyday and my mother never said anything except that I must have done something to deserve what she was doing. She would drag me around like a dog slapping me accusing me of stealing her stuff which I never did in fact she accused me of stealing something once and she found it in her room and never apologized or anything. My mother bought new clothes for my sister mine came from the goodwill. The last time before I ran away I was 12 and she came in my room and started beating me up she had me on the floor and stepped on my belly I thought I was going to die, then she pulled me up and I managed to get to my bedroom window she had hold of my shirt which she ripped completely off me and then she grabbed my hair I went out the window but she didn't let go of my hair and pulled it out of my head. I ran to my uncles house and a year later he adopted me. My sister went to prison she's out now and I'm always afraid she'll find me. When she got sentenced she told me she would kill me. I hate her and my mother I don't know where she is now and I don't care.
This made me cry 😢 Does she treat your younger sister like this? I'm sorry you're having to go through this. Does your sister support you emotionally?
I'm sorry for making you cry. Yes she treats us almost the same, except I'm slightly worse because I'm older than my sister (she's 19). My sister does not support me in any way you can imagine, because she knows that she is my mom's favorite. Tbh, my sister likes to make things worse and stir the pot when she noticed that my mom upsets me, so I bear in mind that she actually likes it when me and mom clashed. It's hard to cut them off my life because I have nobody in my life except both of them.
If I was u I would have cut her out my life all she does is negatively effect u so why keep her as a part of your life