My mom mocks and makes fun of me when I cry and have depression and tells me she doesn’t have time for it. Is this abusive?

[Laila2938]

She’s been this way my whole life any time I needed her emotionally.

Updates

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I’m really not sure what to do and what other resources/options I have because she’s been helping me out with rent / some finances as I start my new business and I really don’t have anyone else I can turn to. And I can’t drop her either because I also owe her money from when I lost my job and she helped me out.

[lightbulb27]

Maybe. She may be trying to push you out of it, tough parenting approach. Sometimes ya just have to tell people to "pick yourself up" and keep going. That is life.

But if she's the source of it or you never get emotional support and parenting, then yes, you are the victim of poor parenting.

I hope you get past this malaise to a better mindset soon.

[KC-Sunbeam]

Absolutely! My mother is similar. Being someone's mother shouldn't give you the right to be a piece of shit. Avoid her like the plague.

[KC-Sunbeam]

Since you updated your post, I'll add that, I too am in the strange position of my parents providing me needed financial aid yet being total jerkoffs personality-wise. So, keep in contact with your mother. That is, enough contact to get your needs met & no more. And never discuss anything personal with her!

[Laila2938]

I was having a better evening until she decided to send me a screenshot of my mail that she opened without my permission. It was from a debt collector and now I’m pissed (at both of them)

[KC-Sunbeam]

When I was living with my parents my father would regularly do thigs without my permission. I moved out 4 months ago & have had zero contact with them since. I'm going to try to keep up this zero contact as long as I can.

[Laila2938]

I don’t even feel bad for using my mom for money after she’s treated me all these years.

[KC-Sunbeam]

As for me, I have mental handicaps (something like autism, nerve disorder, etc.) so I'm stuck as a dependent. If I was financially successful, I would have moved thousands of miles away from them decades ago & would have zero contact with them. Although if they were in need of money I would help them financially. But no social contact.

[leahzrc]

sounds like an asshole, ditch her

[Monalisa77]

Mines v similar n unfortunately i can't do that😭

[Laila2938]

she has no compassion. I’m going through a super rough time right now since I started my business and she just doesn’t care to help with anything emotional. And I can’t cut her off cuz she’s been helping me with rent until I make enough.

[Monalisa77]

They suck, I've had the worst cold for like 2 months, dizzy spells amongst other stuff n she never gives me a break. I scratch a lot due to anxiety n its mostly when shez having a go

[Anonymous]

That sounds abusive

[Anonymous]

that is abusive, yes. abusive and toxic.

[slatyb]

Yes, it is.

[John_Cobretti]

Yes it is