Who would be the dumper?

[Anonymous]

A argument happened and she asks for space and comeback saying she lost feelings but wants to stay friends, but I reply back with not wanting to be friends.

only asking bc apparently she claims it’s me bc she wanted the door open by staying friends so she could decide later, and I wasn’t ok with that especially when our argument was about miss treatment and targeting self worth and me being the only one who even believed it being an issue

we were friends before if that affects anything.

Me

Her

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, from the way I see it, she initiated the breakup by saying she lost feelings and wanted space. Even if she suggested staying friends afterward, that was only because the relationship was already done on her end.

When someone says they lost feelings, that's a clear sign they're the dumper, not the dumpee. They're the one doing the breaking up. Just because she pitched the friends idea doesn't change the fact that she ended things romantically first.

And I think you were right not to want to stay friends right away. After an argument where she attacked your self-worth, of course you'd still be worked up. Trying to jump straight to friendship wouldn't help heal things.

She might say it's you since you didn't accept being friends, but you didn't actually dump her - she dumped you when she said she lost feelings. Don't let her rewrite history just because you enforced a boundary for yourself too. Stick to your truth, man. She called it quits, end of story.

[HelpfulWoman]

Is she.. dumb?
She changed the relationship from dating to "we can stay friends'
If the girl can't understand basics like that (nevermind the girl thought she could string you along as a friend in case she changed her mind) you've dodged a dumb bullet.

[Anonymous]

Hopefully her.

[Imaguyandagirl]

I've been dumped 16 times ):