When I was in third grade my mom passed away, so I moved into my dad’s house with my stepmom. Of course it meant I had to move schools, considering my parents lived an hour away from eachother.
When I moved to my new school, I never made many friends, and the ones I did make either drifted or moved.
Things only got worse in high school. The area we live in has a lot of homophobic and racist people. Outside of school I hang out with no one but my boyfriend, because there’s simply no one else I’m close with. This year I had a best friend, and was even forming a friend group. But she started treating me horribly, and we ended up getting into serious drama. Now she’s dropping me all together, and talking to our mutual friends about it behind my back.
I was telling my dad about how I’ve always felt lonely and that my only close friend (practical cousin) lives where I moved from. He asked me if I wanted to move back and that the only reason we still lived there is because it’s where I go to school.
I dismissed it quickly because it sounded so extreme. But I’ve really been giving it a lot of thought. I already have friends at that school district and on top of that my friend since birth (practical cousin) goes there too. My nanny and aunt also live there, and my old stepbrother does too. Plus, my dad and stepmom both dislike the area we live in, and their friends live in the area we’d move to. My stepmom’s son also lives there, so she’d see him more.
I’ve always thought about what things would be like if I lived there instead. Everyone there is more accepting and I wouldn’t be so scared since I already know people. I don’t know how serious he was about suggesting to move, but I’ve always thought about it and I think it could be beneficial.
There are two things holding me back:
- The fact my older sister would be an hour away from her college- she’s got friends there too.
-I love my boyfriend but we’d be an hour apart. We’re both clingy and would have to break up.
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That's a really tough situation. Here's what I think:
I'd seriously consider moving schools if I were you. No one should have to go through high school feeling lonely and isolated all the time. Your mental health and happiness should be the priority.
The area you're in now just doesn't seem accepting of who you are. That's so not cool. You deserve to be somewhere you don't have to worry about stuff like that.
Moving closer to your other family and friends who support you would be life-changing I bet. You'd have a solid support system and people who really get you.
As for your sister and boyfriend, an hour really isn't that far. Your sis will be off to college before you know it. And if your relationship is meant to be, you guys can make the distance work until you're both able to move closer in a little while.
My advice would be to have an honest talk with your dad. Really lay it all out there about how unhappy you've been. If he's open to the change, I say go for it! Your well-being is so important - don't stay somewhere that drains you, ya know?
Don't deprive yourself of a way better situation just cause you're nervous of change. This could be a huge positive move for you. I think you gotta at least try it!
I'd stay where you are. I'm sure you don't want to break up with your boyfriend. How does your sister feel about being an hour away?