Why do everyone keeps asking the same question once my grandpa died?

[Anonymous]

Ever since my grandpa died last week, I’ve been getting the same questions, “How are you holding up?” Or “How you doing?”
LIKE HOW DO YOU THINK IM DOING? I just lost my grandpa and people expect to me to be happy and okay! Can I just have a day to myself and LEAVE ME ALONE?
One of my friends said our old friend wants to talk to us, the one that used to have a crush on me. Be better not ask me out.
Just leave me alone!

[jennifer_bloom]

Yes some people don't like having others remind them over and over again that something undesirable happened. The way to do this is to make a post on your status either through phone or Facebook that you want to be left alone because discussing what happened hurts too painful, and that you prefer privacy during your grieving period rather than attention, but you appreciate the effort people put in to make you understand your cared for, just please give you space and not overwhelm you with their conversation right now. You want to sleep and get past what happened.

[Asker]

That’s a good suggestion. I appreciate it so much.

[jennifer_bloom]

Yes. Posting this will save you stress. I wish you peace and recovery during this time.

[Oliverlogan263]

Luv that really sucks, I can't imagine how you must be feeling. Losing family is the worst.

Don't blame ya for being over everyone asking how ya are - of course you're not okay! They should just leave you be to grieve in your own way.

As for your old friend wanting to chat, I'd avoid him for now if I was you. No way you're in the right headspace to deal with any crush drama.

Maybe you could message a few close mates, tell them you need space but will hit them up when you're ready. At least that way they're not all bombarding you.

Other than that, just do what you need to - cry, shout, sleep, whatever. Your grandpa would want you to take care of yourself. It'll get easier to handle the questions eventually, but for now do you! We're all here if you do wanna talk too luv.

[rosemilk]

i understand that. i just think they don't know what else to say or how to approach the situation so they end up saying that. they are showing they care about your wellbeing.

i'd just nicely tell them that you wish to be left alone, don't want to talk about it, and will talk to them later.

[Jessica405]

Fellow GAGers are just concerned about you.

[Asker]

I appreciate it but I just wanna be left alone

[Anonymous]

If you want people to leave you alone, you wouldn't be posting this right now.

[Asker]

And you’re very insensitive. Rude! My grandpa just died and you’re rude! Bye 👋🏻

[serenalovesramen]

i feel you lol