Guys vs girls, which one makes friends faster and easy and lasts longer? Why?

[Elena_Stewart]

[HawkPerception]

Guys are definitely more loyal when it comes to friendships. I feel like most girls just come and go, even when it's girls trying to be friends with girls. It's interesting because girls are said to place higher emphasis on emotional intimacy and communication, so you'd think they'd be better with friendships, but that's not what I've observed in life.

[HawkPerception]

Men also tend to take jokes more easily and aren't as easily offended as girls.

[Elena_Stewart]

Agree with you, also, I believe the woman’s age affects her actions toward too many things including friendships

[HawkPerception]

I feel like women are just gone like the wind at a whim. As soon as they're offended by something or irked by some trait someone has or something they've done, they leave.

[Elena_Stewart]

Yeah, some girls do that

[Squatting_Slav]

Hmm, us men are quite welcoming and brotherly to he honest I'm making friends weekly with my line of work and hobbies and very giving. But women are very diplomatic and good at intrigue and tend to remain grounded/on guard. From what I've seen so it would need to be men

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I've always had an easier time forming the deepest friendships with women. I might have a bit of a feminine side that way.

My wife teases me and says I tell stories like a girl since they're so long-winded, filled with tangents and metaphorical footnotes (and sub-footnotes within footnotes), and often absent a point at the end. For me it's about the journey of the story, not the destination! 😂

I also like really deep, "soul-sharing" types of conversations where we really open up to each other and share our deepest vulnerabilities, hopes, and dreams. That seems to be a common thing among ENFPs (I'm one of those, apparently) but women are usually much more open to these deep, soulful conversations than guys.

With guys I gotta keep it cool when we're talking like, "Watched the game last night?" "Yep." "Yeah, she's hot." "Yep." "Cheers!" "How's the job?" "Gotcha." Otherwise I'll make them all uncomfortable wanting to soul-share.

So with guys I usually mainly connect and make friends through sports and games, like playing darts or billiards with each other, arm wrestling, things like that. Sometimes having loads of fun together like that results in a very deep and lasting friendship. But I find it easier to form those in general with girls.

[Elena_Stewart]

I enjoy your stories🙂

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I just realized that I completely misinterpreted your question though! I thought you were asking if it's faster and easier for us to form long-lasting friends with guys vs. girls, not whether guys or girls have an easier time making such friendships.

Sorry about that! I actually think girls still in that case, since they get to have those "soul-connecting" conversations more easily with each other that I think is often key to the deepest friendships short of like two guys watching each other's backs in a brawl. I noticed some people point out jealousy and gossip and things like that but I think that is not quite as prevalent here among Japanese women. They're relatively quite mature. A tiny bit gossipy sometimes but never in a malicious way.

[Elena_Stewart]

I know, I didn’t want to correct you🙂
And maybe you are the first one to say girls not boys😁

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I might be biased by the way I think about it all.

For example, I think when guys make the best buds, like my closest male friend, it's based more on a sense of mutual respect rather than the deepest mutual understanding. We loyally have each other's backs and we're brothers for life. But we don't deeply understand what makes each other tick; we keep most of that hidden from each other. The bond and loyalty is strong but somewhat absent mutual understanding.

With women, I think they are more likely to form friendships with each other based on deeper mutual understanding since they tend to share much more freely. And at least among Japan women, mutual respect and loyalty tends to be accompanied.

[Elena_Stewart]

That’s right, women are emotional creatures more than men to some extent

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I sometimes wonder if that's true, since I see my male friends get angry often much quicker than my female friends. They cry much less but they get angry much more.

I never understood why opening up to each other deeply is considered in the emotional realm. For example, I have a deep fear of growing senile and not being able to take care of myself before I die (the idea is scarier to me than dying). Is sharing that more emotional than not sharing it? Isn't it the more emotional person who is afraid of being judged that keeps it to himself/herself? Or is it that men are supposed to have no fears and therefore nothing to share in this context?

[Elena_Stewart]

Very valid question actually

[Elena_Stewart]

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[Valdemort]

From what I know, men are more welcoming to other men, they don't necessarily become friends, but they are more approachable and openminded to accepting other men in their circle.
The women I hang out with usually are less inviting to other women than the guys I hang out with are to other men.
It does also depend on where you meet these people however.
Depending on how comfortable I feel in the situation I'm in, I am either very approachable or completely closed off and it rarely has anything to do with me not knowing the person.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Competition among women maybe 🤔

[libsaretards]

Women make friends faster and make more friends. But men make better quality friendships that last for life.

I have the same 2 best friends from high school. We all live in different parts of the country but still maintain our friendship. I can trust these 2 more than ANYBODY in my family. Also, if some bullshit goes down with one, the other 2 are on the next flight available.

When some jackasses threatened to break into my place and kill me, those 2 came to my place and stayed a week. One took leave from his Corrections job to do so.

[AlexEfron]

I would say girls. People often see girls as being kind, caring and easy going so tend to socialize with girls a lot. A guy on the other hand is often seen with skepticism.

I don't know... it's just my observation. Back when we were younger, it was rather easier to make friends. Once you grow older, people often judge you for having ulterior motives or as a threat (not in the criminal sense... more like a threat to authority).

That being said, I think, when it comes to lasting bonds, it's the guys who have it better. Most girls x girl or girl x guy relationships that I have seen are very weak and easily shaken. Guy x guy bonds are more long lasting and unshaken (generalization from what I have seen and experienced)

[ManOnFire]

Girls make friends faster because they have a need to be surrounded and loved by others, but many times their friendships don't last. Guys often have fewer friends because they want what's real, and we can usually see who's real or not. Even if a guy only has one friend he takes that friendship seriously, holds it close, and builds it for a long time to come.

[Djaay]

Men... and it's generally a life long friendship based upon an alliance of life struggling and life basic needs and achievements. A bond of behind support.
Women on the other hand generally bond as friends in gossip , female struggles against the irony of being a woman in a man's so called world. A DETRIMENTAL struggle with empowering other women to heights beyond they're own calling to enable the balancing of the playing fields. Men bond unconditionally to one another whereas women hold other women upon conditional ineptitude therefore unhitch with each other rather quickly through envious jealousy.

[Elena_Stewart]

Wow😳

[JacobJordan]

Guys. Because we don't get overly emotional. Guys will argue throw hands and get back to being friends. Women hold life time grudges over the stupidest things and then wonder why they are miserable, have no friends and mad at everyone.

[Elena_Stewart]

Ok😁

[Yannae]

Guys. I've been in a women only team besides me. Damn the cat fights, I thought it was just a rumor, but it's real. You also backstab. We have drama in the open and for the most part we move on. Yes we fight more, physically. But once that's done, it's done. We also don't over think as much. We also don't beat around the bush, we're direct with what we say and do.

[Cody2004]

I don't have issues with making friends, there is one issue I do have though is a lot of my friends are female. This pisses off their boyfriends lol

[Elena_Stewart]

But, my question is different from your answer

[Cody2004]

making female friends is a easier faster and longer. Or did you mean like the being a male or being a female cuz I can't answer that then it's physically impossible because I'm a male

[Elena_Stewart]

In my question I am asking which friendship is better, is it the one among men or the one among women? Not asking about male- female friendships

[Cody2004]

Okay that makes more sense now and also that's literally impossible to answer lol I can only answer from my gender I can't answer for your gender for obvious reasons

[Anonymous]

There isn't a clear-cut answer to this question as making friends and the longevity of those friendships can depend on various factors like individual personalities, social skills, cultural norms, and personal circumstances rather than gender. Both guys and girls can make friends quickly and form lasting bonds based on mutual interests, shared experiences, and genuine connections. It's more about the individual rather than a gender-based trait.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t say one or the other makes friends quicker. I think it depends on the person’s personality. If you’re outgoing, you’re more likely to make friends quicker than a person who is shy and a little more anti social. And because a man and woman can have those personality traits- I think it wouldn’t be accurate to just choose which gender makes friends quicker.

[Summeroflove]

It’s not as much of a sex thing. It’s more just depending on the person. Some people just shut everyone out. While others allow anyone in and aren’t careful. Which can lead to them being hurt so many times they shut everyone out.

[Drew-1990]

I think guys make friends slower but I think we keep the friends me make longer. My two best friends I have known since elementary.

[blueonblack22]

Men generally have a much deeper definition of the word “friend”.

We won’t call anybody a “friend”. There needs to be some trust built up and mutual respect first.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I feel like when it's a girls only friendship or bros only friendship it's about equal. But as for girl & guy friendships, I have no clue if it's harder to maintain.

[whoisvolkan]

in my opinion "guys" because we don't do gossip.. Girls always talking behind each other😅

[Elena_Stewart]

Good point, but not all of them🙂

[whoisvolkan]

yes but most of girls😂

[Elena_Stewart]

We have a bad reputation🙂

[SoJust]

I think girls make friends quicker , no one can say no to a girl.

[Elena_Stewart]

My question is different from your answer

[SoJust]

Then I'm sorry I didn't understand the problem

[Elena_Stewart]

That’s fine👍🏻

[SoJust]

✝️👍

[Ms_Facesitter]

The boys. I don't mean this as an insult, but they're just so simple. Easy to get along with and understand.

[itsclearlynicholas]

That's right lady 😉

[moneymagnet24]

Ofc guys it's no brainer...
We don't have time for drama n headache.

[Elena_Stewart]

Lmao

[Nikki1989]

I have always had more male friends than female. Women come and go in my life.

[whistlingwh0res]

Wolves do. They travel in pack and hunt games.

[Elena_Stewart]

What😁

[whistlingwh0res]

Men.

[Elena_Stewart]

Ok😁

[CuriousMufuxka]

Girls but those "friends" come and go a whole lot faster. Most of em want to hit it and a lot of others usually end in some petty jealousy.

[itsclearlynicholas]

I'm a guy and I've had loyal guy friends for about almost 20 years now 🙂😊

[Anonymous]

In general, men. Women have issues with each other that men tend not to have.

[Anonymous]

Guys do. Common interests easily become the bond created.

[DreamLife7]

Girls are too envious and gossip. Men

[Elena_Stewart]

Betrayal
No, just joking😁
You are right some girls are

[Enginn]

Girls. Because they talk a lot

[Elena_Stewart]

A valid point🙂

[Radiate143]

Men, for sure.

[Jennz6]

Girls do but the guys really try

[Djaay]

Lmao... try again

[Jennz6]

@Djaay lmao you try again

[IDoNotConsent]

Excuse me, I would like to try making an input but I first need your consent.

[Djaay]

Sure... ask away

[litty736]

Guys. its not even close.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Unless the chick is friendly and Meets fellow friendly chicks 😁😉 I don't mean it rudely it's like, some airy fairy kind soul chicks seem to easily gel with other such chicks. Or, they keep to themselves smoothly 🙂🙂😁

[elizamichale1]

Its girls

[Sameone]

100% guys

[jahaims]

Guys hands down