Has anyone ever felt trapped to keep texting with a clingy person 24/7?

[Anonymous]

[JoePro_]

Sounds like a boundaries issue. You need to set some. That's not to cast blame at you. If the other person is the clingy one, they clearly have an issue of some kind, maybe even a trauma that hasn't been resolved yet. But for your own mental well-being, you need to establish that you can't be doing this all day, every day. I would just say it, even if it's in the text itself. "Look, it's been great talking to you. But I have a life that happens around me and we're just texting way too much for me to be able to properly pay attention to the things I need to be doing. If you want to chat, my best time is (blank). Outside of that time, I need to be doing things outside of my phone."

[Asker]

I’ve started to really hate talking to this friend always talking about her drama about people I don’t know and why she is still single. I’m happier when we don’t talk at all

[JoePro_]

Totally get it. I hate talking to people who always focus on negative stuff. I get it that some people need to vent, even I need a time to vent about things on occasion, but for a few people in the world, "venting" seems like it's their normal way of "talking", like it's all-day-long...

[D_Bone_Steak]

Me! Oh fuck Me! Fucking bitch won't get off me in any social setting. If it isn't that she keeps me trapped to the phone. I've had to make up rules like I don't answer the phone if I'm working out or doing dishes. (those of you that actually do dishes will know what I'm talking about with wet hands trying to work a smart phone)

I need a female brain to tell me why her ass wants to talk constantly on that fucking phone while I'm trying to do shit but then wants nothing to do with me outside of sexual stuff when she's home. WTF is even going on there?

[velvetheart]

When I was younger, yes. I had some troubles with setting boundaries and I didn't want to make anyone upset 😅

It led to situations where I had to text some people pretty much non stop because they got mad at me for not responding quickly. It didn't last more than a couple days max, cause eventually I was getting anxious and fed up and just straight up blocked them lol

Very healthy, I know. But what can you do, we all do stupid things as teenagers.

Nowadays I'm not much of a texter, I think the only person I text with regularly and don't feel awkward doing it is my boyfriend.

[midnightmoon05]

You have to set boundaries.
my ex mother in law used to do that to my poor daughter (she was a kid and just got her cell phone from her dad)

I had to teach her to not allow grandma to manipulate her to become her text buddy. By saying…I’ll call u… talk for 2-5 m. Then say you have HW/work…etc… and not interested in texting.
if you don’t… they will take over your sanity.
so stand up for yourself.
no one can control you. So stop saying how this make you feel… but do something.

[BoopBoopBeep]

No I just stop texting. Especially if I have stuff to do.

[Asker]

I’m currently trying that but she’s sending messages like “hello” trying to get my attention

[Asker]

None of her texts were ever important it’s always like “off for a walk” or “I’m off to do laundry”

[BoopBoopBeep]

That does not make me beholden to respond.

[BoopBoopBeep]

I mean... block or ignore seems like a pretty fast solution

[Glideess]

No, I don't really like texting anyways. It's important to set boundaries and expectations early on so you don't feel trapped as you say. You could have a compromise like talking on the phone or voice chat for an hour or so each night, but I wouldn't like texting all day with anyone tbh. They might be offended, but if you make sure to tell them you just don't like texting as opposed to not liking them it will soften the blow, besides if you let this continue you'll only grow to resent them which will cause problems of its own

[Asker]

I don’t think everyday would be great either as we live in different time zones

[electromagnetic]

I think these are boundaries that need to be talked about when first dating.
When I started dating my partner, I told him my schedule was busy and texting or being on my phone a lot was not gonna be possible. He was in school at the time and had all the time in the world.

if you know you don’t have the time, you need to communicate that. Clingy or not.

[Fireguy17]

No, I was never into someone that was clingy.
I need to be with someone who is independent.
I just don't have time to deal with it.

[boggboss]

No lol I'm good at setting boundaries and not breaking them

[boggboss]

Its not hard to say u was busy or couldn't respond and if u don't u are busy lol

[Asker]

I know but she will send texts anyway so I can read later it’s never ending and thinks there is always something wrong when I don’t want to text

[boggboss]

So tell her to relax and that u can't sit on your phone 24/7 and u will respond when u can

[Asker]

She sent a letter when her other friend stopped talking to her on the phone this is the level of madness I’m dealing with lol

[boggboss]

U are dealing with it because u are choosing to do so lol

[Asker]

I know you are so right. I put myself in this nonsense

[boggboss]

So if your not happy change the situation because it won't change itself

[Nikki1989]

Disable messaging on your phone. Problem solved.

[laly520]

happened when I was a teen

never again

[AngryCarl]

I don't text but I've had people phone me that I didn't want to talk to. That stuff gets old quickly. Like that other guy said you need to set boundaries.

[EyesOnly09]

I like texting and will text back in forth and I enjoy it better than talking to someone in person, less anxiety and stress. I don't double or triple text someone. I say what I need to say and wait until they reply back.

[sheikalana]

No, I don't have conversations through text message.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I prefer talking over texting most of the time, but no I prefer clingy women.

[MemeSupreme]

yeah it's why you gotta end the convo

[Dinklex3]

Nope.

I just don’t text.

[Anonymous]

I hope no one feels that way with me 😬

[BarryLiverstone]

What do you mean

[Asker]

Like I’m stuck texting with someone as they just keep sending me texts all day long and if I don’t she will ask me why I went quiet and ask what I’m doing like all the time

[BarryLiverstone]

Ohhh

[Dongie]

Yep.

[DagonbroughtMehere]

Not Me.