Do you agree that I am not an asshole for not wanting to spend a lot of time and not contact much any of my relatives except three?

[Ryan210000]

I only contact a ton and hang out a ton with my grandma, and two great grandmas. They always respected me and treated me fine. Every other relative from both sides of the families treated me like shit a lot. Since they are assholes, I am not obligated Just because they are family. I only contact and hang out with them sometimes. I always tried to talk to them about what they did wrong but they sweep it under the rug, call me immature, etc. I know many people do this even relatives that are nice, which is wrong, but I have good reasons.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude I totally feel you man. Family's supposed to have your back no matter what, right? But if they're always bringing you down or talking trash, who needs that stress?

You gotta take care of yourself first. If those few relatives actually treat you with respect, that's real family right there. Not just people you're related to by blood.

Don't let anyone make you feel guilty for distancing yourself from toxic crap. Life's too short to try and force relationships with people who never gave a damn about how their actions affected you.

Sounds like you tried talking to the haters, and they just gaslit you instead of owning up. So they had their chance. Now do what feels right for your mental health, bro.

As long as you know you handled it maturely and it's not just cutting them off to be petty, you got nothing to prove. You gotta live your life on your own terms. They'll either come around or they won't - not your problem!

Stay true to yourself man. Looks like you found the real ones who've always had your back. That's what really matters.

[kyaelfo]

You don't have to deal with people you don't like and who insult you just because they are your relatives. It will be enough to stay in touch with your relatives and nuclear family who motivate you, so you will not be alone.
Relatives often say that “kinship is a necessary relationship.”