Are you still friends with anyone from your childhood?

[dustybiker2]

[Lliam]

Just one person from childhood. A kid my age who lived across the street. We were best friends from the time I could walk.
We are still sorta friends at this point. Our lives have diverged quite a bit. I live hundreds of miles away now and only speak to him on the phone every year or so.

I'm still pretty good friends with one guy from high school. We were best buds back in the day. We speak on the phone fairly regularly. We've been talking a lot lately because we heard that another really good friend named Tom from back in the day is in the hospital with aggressive brain cancer. Tom was extremely healthy before this happened and I was in touch with him quite a bit. His prognosis is very bleak.

And I'm Facebook friends with my first girlfriend from when I was 16. She's really good people and a happy grandma now.

That's about it.

[LordMadara]

My first girlfriend dead
My first kiss , she dead too
My close friend dead
My mom dead
My first and last favorite pet dog dead 😭

The one for my dog hit me the hardest following my mom
Welp there goes my childhood portfolio

[dustybiker2]

@Lliam I'm sorry about your friend. I hope he's able to shock his doctors. It can happen.
Those are impressive friends to stay in touch. They do sound like good people.

[dustybiker2]

@LordMadara Losing pets is often hard. It is just about love no mixed emotions. I'm sorry for your losses.

[Lliam]

Thanks for the MHO, Dusty.

[dustybiker2]

You are most welcome.

[exitseven]

My best friend since the second grade died last November. I am really shook.

[dustybiker2]

I'm so sorry.

[Wiredone]

Sorry for your loss

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I wish. I had so many I really grew close with in Japan, Singapore, Hong Kong, and various parts of the US. Yet I lost touch with all of them.

When I moved from Shizuoka to Yokohama and later Singapore, I remained pen pals with some of my best friends writing handwritten letters and also thinking I could return to my hometown one day not too far into the future.

It started to quickly grow apparent over the years that it was a pipe dream. After moving several times this way, I just ceased to keep in touch, even losing my friends' former addresses and letters in the process of moving and bouncing back and forth between staying with my mother in various parts of the US vs. father in various parts of Asia.

I started to think friends are just something we make for a year or three and say goodbye to forever after that. So I got decent at adapting to brand new places, even brand new cultures, and make friends among strangers. Yet I always expected to say goodbye to them forever at some point and never see them again.

The longest friends I've ever had were ones I made in my 20s in Tokyo. Many of those I've known now for over 15 years, some almost 20 years. Yet I'm no longer in touch with a single friend from before that, and sometimes wonder where they are now and how they're doing.

[dustybiker2]

It's a shame we didn't have the internet when really young. It makes it a bit easier if people check their old email addresses.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

That would have made things so much easier! Back then I only had handwritten letters and long-distance phone calls which were extremely expensive.

[dustybiker2]

I can imagine.
I still (will always ) have this "lucky" postcard that a distant penpal friend mailed me as a teen. He had given it up thinking I needed it more. It was one of the truly kind things someone I really hardly knew ever did for me. I hope half the luck stayed with him for the incredibly kind gesture.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

That's an amazing gift! It's about the best kind of gift I could ever imagine with such deep meaning and sentiment behind it.

Something I learned recently from a kind man on this site who pointed it out to me is that I score really high on the "Sensation Seeking Scale". Sensation seekers are people who tend to be very susceptible to boredom and therefore tend to require bigger sensations to stimulate them like very thrilling and risky activities. That explains my love of extreme sports snice childhood and it might resonate with you on some level with your love of motorcycles. There's a test for it here:
www.mdapp.co/.../

I score like this:


A pro in my case is that I can sometimes do some really noble acts in the face of danger if only because I don't really register the danger so much. Yet those opportune moments are few and far between. 99% of the time, I'm just engaging in reckless behavior for the sheer thrill of it. Impulse control and careful risk vs. reward assessment have never been my strong points. 😅

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Actually I totally mixed up the subject in the comments thinking we were on the topic of risk-taking behaviors. Apologies for that! Multitasking error on my part.

[dustybiker2]

I agree on the gift, thank you.

Interesting. Very. I will check the test out tomorrow. Will be fun.

No worries. It was fitting to one of my other current questions.

[nightdrot]

Actually, yes, I am really lucky that way. Although we obviously don't talk every day, I am still in touch with friends going all the way back to my junior high school days. In fact, I am still in touch with teachers I had in high school - and even have lunch with them when I am in my home town.

Also, I have no less than 5 godchildren - all, with one exception the sons or daughters of friends dating back to my high school years. (The one exception is my brother's eldest daughter.) To me, that is quite an honor.

Not sure why, but I have been lucky like that. My friends mean a lot to me and I am happy to have them in my life.

[dustybiker2]

That's impressive:
There are a couple of teachers I would have liked to keep in touch with like that. Good for you.

[nightdrot]

Thanks so much. Yes, it is a lot of fun being with people who once taught me. Both were English teachers - my best subject. Also, I was friends with a history teacher, however, sadly, he has since passed away.

Frankly, I loved my high school and college years and those teachers were fantastic. I even recognized it back then as a student. I appreciate them even more now.

[dustybiker2]

I'm sorry for your loss. I wish good and important people could live the longest. I can understand the appreciation too. We take them with us through life. Remembering them in blips.

[LordMadara]

No , fuck em all

I keep some as facebook friends to ghost them again online

But one friend died back in 2021 I was ready to troll him just as I do with others on any given day then ghost them out for a good 2 or 3 years no responses no likes no bullshyt,

But the news did kinda break my heart we had a fall out and fixed our friendship over and over , I'm really hurt by and shook by his death

Damn since we were 11yrs young

[dustybiker2]

That's tough. I'm sorry.

[lil_will_12]

yes

but this is why i dont care too much for having friends in school rn, because i know that when i get older ill lose touch with the majority of them. also college too (you usually find new friends there)

i do have one friend who is interested in many of the same things i am, and i feel like im the only one who really understands him (he's a bit of an introvert), he's a guy i hope to remain friends with for life

[TadCurious]

I don't keep in touch with people from my young childhood anymore. But if it counts for your question I met my best friend when I was 12.

[dustybiker2]

Absolutely counts. Were they from school or lived near you?

[TadCurious]

We were at the same school but got to know each other from football practice.

[dustybiker2]

Oh okay. What position did you play?

[TadCurious]

End on offense

[dustybiker2]

One of my buddies played that too. You must be fast.

[TadCurious]

It would have helpful if I were faster. Lol.
🤣🏈

[dustybiker2]

@TadCurious lol I bet you had some wins.

[Staximus]

Not from my original neighborhood. I moved to the city in in now when I was 11 and am still friends with about 10 people from before 1990. I am still friends with a lot of people from about 7th to 12th grade.

[dustybiker2]

Those people from that age know us. It's what triggered the question. How much they mean.

[Finchie40]

Yes , I am still close to a few childhood friends, I still see them on occasion and we stay in touch as much as we can

[dustybiker2]

Hold them tight.

[Finchie40]

We don’t get to see each other as much anymore because we now live in other states , but we still stay in touch as much as possible and when we do finally get
Together it’s like we were never apart , we just continue to hang out like the old days. One of us always mentions that when we do get together lol , It just goes to show life is a journey and you eventually realize who your true friends really are when life takes us on different paths , some stay and some disappear

[dustybiker2]

That is wonderful and oh so true.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Like 2, the rest are dead but these 2 have kinda seperated, I still keep up with them every once in a while.

[dustybiker2]

😯 I'm sorry.

[ChicoFromThe305]

It's all good

[Wiredone]

Yes I am. I have probably 8 or 9 friends from my childhood that I still talk to and hang out with. They are male and female friends

[dustybiker2]

Nice. Same here.

[ab2shifty]

Almost all of them, so whenever I talk about them I just say me and my homies 🤣

[dustybiker2]

Awesome 😎 hang on tight

[ab2shifty]

What about you though? 🤣

[dustybiker2]

I am still close with my neighborhood childhood friends, yes. None from schools though.

[ab2shifty]

Ay, childhood friends are more important 😎

[dustybiker2]

I agree with that. They know all our stories. Hurts. All the core stuff.

[ab2shifty]

Definitely, and growing up with them is wonderful

[dustybiker2]

Agreed 😎

[jennifer_bloom]

I value my old friends but I do not talk to most of them. I cannot guarantee it’s mutual but it’s hard to forget somebody who was in your life every week for over ten years.

[Miah04]

Yes. 4 people.

One of them i started a romantic relationship with this weekend

[dustybiker2]

Love is in the air.

[Miah04]

🫣🤭

[JoahZ10nT]

No I’m not! Just keep in touch with my friends from high school

[HaveNoName]

We have a WhatsApp group of less than 10 very close friends who have known each other from school when we were 7 to 10 yra old. We still try to meet up if we meet each other's country.

[HaveNoName]

Typo: ... if we visit each other's country.

[XXblack88]

yeah, know her since I was 7, she's 2 years older then me.

[katiesmuff]

Yes I still have a handful of friends from school days.

[sirderpsalot123]

Only one from early childhood, but I met my main group of friends in high school

[worldscolide]

Just one person. I've known him since i was 11.

[douride2]

Yes I still see a few of my childhood friends.

[MemeSupreme]

nah i text one sometimes but that's kinda just it

[Fuentes]

Not really lol

[dustybiker2]

I would have thought you would. Huh.

[Fuentes]

Lol nah ingot them as friends but dinner talk not at all really

[dustybiker2]

Okay

[DryGermanGuy]

Yes, two or three people from school.

[BLP11520]

None of all no clue where they’re at.

[dustybiker2]

🙁 It happens.

[BLP11520]

Yes,
US Air Force for four years then things changed

[dustybiker2]

I can only imagine.

[Ms_Facesitter]

I am and I love them very much :)

[laly520]

yes

many childhood friends

[Nice222]

Yes many of them.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Nope.

[DJB72]

One or two

[sheikalana]

Not really.

[jahaims]

Yeah

[Kykiono1]

Not really

[eagle1951]

not really