Life is going bad, will it ever get better?

[Anonymous]

I have a whole lot of family issues, my nephew has been staying with us and his mom (my sister) is mad. He’s 15, she’s homeless now living out of her car. And she’s sending vile messages about the whole family about how we ruined her life and making up lies about the whole family. My mom splashed water on her face and she got arrested, and now I lost my job.

I have an interview Monday but I’m so anxious about this sister situation and what she’s saying about the family. She won’t stop, she’s making Facebook posts about it and having everyone feel sorry for her.

Will this get better? Will this ever stop?

[Anonymous]

I don't know. I don't know your family's history. My family is very tight knit. But it's not without problems completely.

If somebody is too toxic in your life at some point you have to cut them off like a gangrenous limb. It's best for you, and some times can be beneficial for them.

As much as I love my family I know I'm not responsible for them. As they know they're not responsible for me. So while I'll try to help them in almost any situation. That is not conditionless. They know they have to be willing to help themselves as well. Because I have no quams about cutting them odd if need be. Because I care about them. And if tough love is what they need. Tough love is what I'll give them.

[Staximus]

Why is your sister living in her car? Is she a drug addict?

[Asker]

I think she’s on drugs tbh, abusing prescription drugs especially. But I think she’s on street drugs as well, we tried to get her help but she just doesn’t want to, she appears normal when you first meet her but once you get talking to her you can tell she’s not all there. She’s smart, but she’s making dumb decisions.

[rosemilk]

maybe, but it will take a long time. and once that's resolved, something else will pop up. it's life.

[LonerInLife]

I’m going through something similar. Will it get better. It will. It will just take time.