If your spouse is ALWAYS choosing their family or their families wishes over you, do you have any value to them?

[Anonymous]

[Yannae]

That's a good question. Always is a bit too much. Context is needed. But they won't be around for longer than me and they gave her life, so I don't blame her for it. But that 'always' would bother me.

[Asker]

My best friend was in a situation like this. Her husbands parents objected to her because she was of a different religion. They made her into some type of villain in their minds because of this even though she bent over backwards to try and please them, but her husband always chose their side knowing full well, she was no villain. It ended in divorce after a year. At first I tried to see both sides, because family is family, but after a while I told her, it's up to you, but it doesn't seem like he's ever been supportive of you no matter what you do, and how long does that go on?

[TommyMountainFigure]

Nope, none. That's the end of the relationship as far as I'm concerned!

[sheikalana]

He probably fears his family for some reason. I would lose my respect. There's nothing more of a turn off than a man who can't stand up for himself.

[strateguy632]

you still have value but s/he thinks their idea was better.

[Avicenna]

It usually means they are lacking a spine and/or are dependent on their family.

[Jay-_-]

This is very controversial, it depends I need the specific situation for this one.

[Asker]

My best friend was in a situation like this. Her husbands parents objected to her because she was of a different religion. They made her into some type of villain in their minds because of this even though she bent over backwards to try and please them, but her husband always chose their side knowing full well, she was no villain. It ended in divorce after a year. At first I tried to see both sides, because family is family, but after a while I told her, it's up to you, but it doesn't seem like he's ever been supportive of you no matter what you do, and how long does that go on?

[Jay-_-]

Listen I think it was a better choice for them to separate, why? Because he clearly wasn't valuing her enough to stand up for her and tell them how special she is to him, I think it was wrong not standing up for her, if he's just allowing the family to trash her that's incorrect and shows lack of care or lack of being a man if the parents were in the wrong he should've defended her. Yes its family but if she's truly the one you have the right to defend her because she is going to be the one sleeping next to you for the rest of life not your family.

[KrakenAttackin]

Ask yourself, are you constantly putting him between you and his family as a constant shit test?

[jahaims]

That means they don't respect you

[Anonymous]

😆😆😆