How do you navigate loss?

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Hey GaG, it's been a minute. Hope y'all are doing good.

So I recently lost both of my parents. My father in February, and then my mom literally 3 weeks later in March. I was pretty much estranged from my father and his passing has brought up a lot of the issues that i thought were healed.

I was very close with my mom so her passing has been a lot more difficult to process. I miss her every single day.

NamerOfStars · Accepted Answer

I'm sorry to hear that. Mine were a few years apart; not quite the same, but I know how it can hurt. What I did was to focus on the good memories. It hurts, true, but eventually, there'll be a smile with the tears. Then one day, more smile than tear.

My nephew was born a little over a year after my mother died; she was deeply disappointed at never getting to meet her grandchildren. But since she couldn't, I stepped up: I taught my niblings to play Canasta and to stick Piroulenes lengthwise out of their mouths like cigars while they did, like my mother taught me. I even got my nephew to refer to me as "Uncle-Grandma", until he got to school and freaked his teacher out, and my sister made him stop.

Share, and revel, in the things about them that you loved. It'll backfire sometimes: there was a point not long after Mom died when I woke up from a dream smirking over a joke I'd heard in it, thinking "Oh, that's great; I'll have to tell Mom"- and then I remembered. I'd been awake less than a second, I hadn't even opened my eyes, and still I was ready to call it a day. Know, too, that it's best to be prepared with a quick exit; the sorrow can hit you without warning, and overpower you, too.

Also: don't stop living. When you meet them in the next life, you'll want to be full of stories to tell.

DJB72 · Accepted Answer

One day at a time. It's the only way to get through it.

I lost my brother when I was 12 and my dad when I was 27. I'm not sure which was harder. What I learned was that the only way through is to keep going. One day, hour or minute at a time. There's no quick way.

I'm sorry you're going through this.

Pink2000 · Accepted Answer

I lost my father last March and we were extremely close. I miss him every day. It’s hard and the only thing you can do is take it one day at a time. The only thing that makes me feel a little better is knowing that he’s not suffering.

Raki016 · Answer

I got through the loss of my grandfather which was really heavy for me because he taught me the most important life lessons.

Be around people you trust and when you feel ready talk and let it out. If they are real friends or somebody else they will listen.

Trust me just knowing that somebody is listening when you are sobbing and talking will lift 500 weights of your chest.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not sure what to say. My wife passed away last October and I'm still struggling every day to deal with it. They say time heals all wounds... but I don't know if I believe that.

Celticwolf78 · Answer

It takes a while to get over it I lost my mother a year ago and it's still hard for me if you need someone to talk to I'm here for you

vfherman · Answer

I lost my dad to a heart attack and sister to breast cancer in December 2009, both right before Christmas, which was difficult since I was very tight with my little sister. The only suggestion I have, is just to remember the good times you have and pass on the wisdom they taught you. My dad taught me how to be a man, and my little (1 year younger) sister taught me about how to be likeable with women. Just take one day at a time, and cherish the memories you have with them.

handsomelad70 · Answer

I think of the good times with my deceased parents, sisters, other relatives and buddies.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Very sorry for your loss🙏

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Let it out

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