Am I a Hopeless Cause what should I do?

[Anonymous]

I feel like such a loser, I can't seem to be able to do anything right lately all I do is hurt people's feelings without meaning to, Im so clumsy I screw things up I can't even bake decent sugar cookies! I'm a train wreck :,( I'm a big dork and do nothing but embarrass myself, I'm a true loser. I'm not threatening suicide but I am thinking I should lock myself away from the world and only talk to people when seriously necessary. The world is better without losers like me running around, I'm a fat ugly joke D;

[rosemilk]

stop with the negative talk. it does nothing productive. seriously.

you hurt peoples feelings without meaning to? say sorry and think before doing or speaking next time.

clumsy? mess up a recipe? be more thoughtful. double check yourself.

no reason to lock yourself away from the world. literally no one is perfect. there are far worse people than you running around, like literal murderers. they take up space. so feel free to also take up space.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Worst pep talk ever!

I don't know about hopeless case, but someone has clearly done a number on you to have you believing all that crud up there!!!

[Asker]

My lovely mother you can thank her, making sure I hate myself.

[TommyMountainFigure]

It says you are in the 18 to 24 age bracket. That is still young enough to switch off everything you've allowed her to do to you. The question is, are you secretly happy in accepting she's right about you because it is SO much easier than it would be to gnash your teeth, and say "phuck her, I'm not going to be her whipping post any longer?'

[Asker]

I don't talk to that crazy lady anymore, I'm still recovering from the mental damage.

[TommyMountainFigure]

You may not talk to her, but I can see she's still inside your head!

[Asker]

She is it will take a while before I can truly believe in myself :/

[TommyMountainFigure]

Did you like building jigsaw puzzles as a kid? I ask because you may find it easier to undo the damage caused one piece of the puzzle at a time.

[Asker]

I did sometimes, and yeah that could be a good idea. Little by little, cuz it won't happen over night

[Asker]

I just gotta quit caring what people think and start being easier on myself.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Absolutely.. Also (and this is just something to think about) but if you were to ask these questions without the anonymity, it will go a LONG way towards you not caring about what other people think so much.. Just a thought.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Thank you for picking my answer as MHO.

[Cheapskate]

That voice in your head that is beating yourself up and criticizing yourself, try to replace it with a kind voice that wants to help you.

[Asker]

That's really hard to do sometimes though but good idea.

[Cheapskate]

True

[Staximus]

Just learn from your mistakes. Whatever you did that hurt people's feelings or messed up the cookies, just didn't do that next time. It's as simple as that. don't be so hard on yourself, nobody is perfect.

[Asker]

Thank you