Am I hopeless or not?

[Tomisworthless]

29yr old virgin thinning balding on crown, unattractive, no personality, bad dental hygiene, uneducated, poor, 6'0 maybe 61 but 145lbs. Bad skin during winter face gets red and flaky, no confidence or self esteem, no style hair looks bland and not cool like blacks hispanics or arabs. Gets insulted and laughed anytime im in public, poor posture and underbite forward neck and rounded shoulders. If i dont look in the mirror i forget how gross i am - but women dont refrain from making their judgements of me known in public. I get most women want seem nice and be friendly but it seems the less attractive and respected you are then their true nature shows itself. Im always looking down when i walk even at home. Im quiet and Never talk plus i might be gay too.

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My mom tells me i need to put in effort but she's my mom and doesn't want to damage me more than the world already has since HS

[OddBeMe]

Firstly, your physical hygiene sounds like line by line attributes of depressive disorder. I get the same urges to not take care of myself. Lots of solutions, like meds, or therapy, your choice, your burden.

On the other side, you’re a virgin because you’re focusing on sex instead of meeting people and just gaining a “black book” of friends and aquantainces. Know how my busesiness is run? From who I know. Why should romance be any different?

[Tomisworthless]

Possibly true but people want nothing to do with me and thats God honest truth

[OddBeMe]

Well your hygiene and shyness is probably the issue. Like I said solving those could be the first stepl

[Tomisworthless]

well i typically get dismissed upon first sight women are very cruel to me

[OddBeMe]

That sounds more like first impressions. Your hygiene prob not that much unless you smell of fish guts.

But I keep saying this over and over to young men and women in your spot: Get to know the other gender. Obviously you are too shy to speak to them.

So just go out and network at hobbies or events like Toastmasters. That would train you to talk in public AND to the other gender as well.

Take sex out of it and just gain friends.

[Tomisworthless]

i dont even talk to guys nor do they talk to me

[OddBeMe]

QED. Asked and demonstrated.

[SotiCoto]

Yup. Complete write-off.

[Tomisworthless]

God bless you. Thankfully I never tried before so giving up isn't an issue, just the bullying would stop I wish i was invisible

[SotiCoto]

It is popular to try and tell everyone they have a chance to pressure them to keep trying, but people don't seem to understand that living on false hope is painful. Not everyone is made for pairing off. And you never know how much of yourself you're holding back in the hopes of appealing to others until you let it go. Some paths are just going to be closed off, but that shouldn't get in the way of trying to find other things you enjoy.
It is okay to give up.

[Tomisworthless]

how can i make others stop bullying me for being gross and gay only comes from women regardless of their age

[SotiCoto]

Speaking personally, I wear long leather coats (some of which have metal spikes), sunglasses, and can go from zero to hostile in seconds if a stranger antagonises me. I'm not strong, much like a cat raising its hackles, I do what I can to make myself look bigger and scarier so people don't want to mess with me. It works... somewhat.

[Tomisworthless]

You probably look badass and people respect you have your own personal look

[SotiCoto]

There is no respect in their eyes. They look weirded out. Disturbed. But it works in my favour, so I'm fine with it. They probably think I'm blind because of the sunglasses, but it is the opposite: I need them to see at all.

[IslaTheWitch]

You are ahead of most men. You already know your areas of improvement.

Good luck!

[bros26]

Love your answer 🙏

[IslaTheWitch]

@bros26 thank you :)

[Tomisworthless]

so i am hopeless well shit hey some just aren't created to be loved or reproduce thank you for the only female response

[IslaTheWitch]

You see, everything is in your hands. It's your decision, and you will be the only one who will bear the consequences.

[bros26]

Isla is the real gem person
Love your positivity...

[gorydetails]

lol. get your life together.

[Tomisworthless]

Hey i was born this way

[bededazzle]

good with standing up for yourself. now tell all of these negative things about yourself to shut the fuck up

[gorydetails]

@tomisworthlessyeah you were born shitting yourself, also. You managed to stop doing that.

[Tomisworthless]

I dont shit on myself others tell me how gross or disgusting i am

[gorydetails]

So take a shower and buy a bidet.

[Tomisworthless]

I do shower i dont brush my teeth tho, but nobody notices that. Its my face which is gross + my hair bland no style just looks even on all sides and makes me look bad but haven't ever found a cut that is flattering for me and going bald would terrible id then look like a cancer patient who can't grow facial hair

[gorydetails]

so go to a stylist and a dermatologist.

[Tomisworthless]

Why do i have to jump through hoops to be moderately attractive enough to date? Most people put hardly 0 effort and can date and not be judged or called gross\disgusting even if they are dressing bummy

[gorydetails]

lol, then go fuck hookers. all you need is money.

[Tomisworthless]

Rather watch porn

[gorydetails]

ok, well be a loser.. no skin off my teeth.

[TiaNour]

Gotta start looksmaxxing fr

[Tomisworthless]

What even is that

[TiaNour]

Look it up

[Tomisworthless]

Or you explain it

[TiaNour]

Me explaining it won’t be as good as looking it up

[Tomisworthless]

Guess ill never know

[TiaNour]

I guess so

[bededazzle]

nope.

[Tomisworthless]

im ugly and balding who still gets bullied at 29 and carry myself terribly what are you smoking

[bededazzle]

who gives a shit? while you breathe there is hope

[Tomisworthless]

What if i was just looking for confirmation and not some virtue signaling

[bededazzle]

then you should ask the only person whose opinion matters: yourself instead of me and others here