Have you ever been friends with someone who wasn't well liked by others?

[Anonymous]

Yes, I typically gravitate towards people who everyone else isn't a fan of

Yes, and I saw why they weren't well liked

Yes, and we are still friends today

No

[Anonymous]

This is tough. Because there are unpopular and weird people that yearn to connect with other people. But they lack social skills and it’s often because they either have a mental condition and/or had an abusive upbringing. They want to change but they don’t know how to.

You need to treat these people kindly and respectfully. But it takes mental effort to stay patient. It also takes self discipline to control your emotions to avoid them or worse mock/bully them.

I personally belong to a recovery group for an addiction I have. There is one young man who sometimes attends who has been struggling with several addictions. He also has similar personality quirks and insecurities I used to struggle with when I was younger (and have worked hard to overcome).

I understand he thinks. He believes he’s got no bright future and no woman will ever find him dateable/attractive. So he’s given up and pursues thrills to get his mind off his depression/loniliness which only makes everything worse

But to be honest I really struggle to hear him give therapy. Because he keeps reminding me of my personality quirks I used to have and it’s very uncomfortable hearing him speak. He also looks up to me and I can tell he wants to be my buddy. I am friendly with him but I have to keep a boundary.

But again this is tough. Because I feel like such a hypocrite because I know how he feels.

[MinMinBabe]

same here man.. i have made a bunch of friends over the period of my life while trying to help them; i saw them struggling coz i have been there once so i wanted them to get better, but at the same time not talk to them as it triggers anxiety

[RingOfFire]

Yes. When I was in elementary school I used to feel really sorry for a boy that all the other guys picked on and always stood up for him and became his friend. The poor guy had a deformity in one of his legs and walked funny and you know how kids are, they have no filter. They were brutal towards this poor kid. I couldn't stand it. One time a group of guys surrounded him and were taunting him and pushing him around. I punched one of them right in the face and they all ran. I was FURIOUS! Still feel sorry for that guy to this day. Don't know what happened to him.

[Dinklex3]

Plenty of times.
One of my best friends is a total sweet heart and is super sensitive. Other people assume she’s stuck up and a bitch. She’s literally all talk though and never really says what she means. She says she doesn’t care what others thinks, but she always tries her best and will cry about it to me later.

Another friend who was a former coworker. People just thought she was annoying and weird. I was annoyed with her one time, the first time we took her out. After that I got used to her and found she had a good heart, she’s just a bit awkward.

Guys love my boyfriend, but a lot of girls think he’s a grump even before we started dating. Yet he’s a total goof and super sweet. A big ol softie at heart.

[Anonymous]

Yes, in middle school. I was actually bullied so badly that I had to transfer to another school where things 100% got better for me, but there were still a few kids at my new school who were bullied. I remember this one guy, pretty chill dude, just kind of stuck to himself, but some of the boys were always going after him. Having been through hell myself with bullies, whenever I saw it, I would be like, hey you want to hang out at lunch, or can you walk me to this teachers class, or we can go to the commons later so the boys would stop or get bored and leave. I don't think there was anything he was doing, he was just a quiet guy and I guess that alpha jock male personality didn't like that.

[IslaTheWitch]

some of my friends are "specific," and they don't have many other friends than me... but I don't care... our friendship works for us, and it's what counts

[TommyMountainFigure]

Yep.. I don't care how popular or unpopular someone is, if I get on well with them, other people's opinions of them mean nothing to me.

[Anonymous]

Yes me and I was even bullied in high school. People didn’t like me because I wasn’t like them or just didn’t fit in. People however follow suit

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Yes. She was one of the kindest person I've ever met. 🫶

[LiamJHayden]

I judge people as individuals, not based upon what others think. Of course, there could be good reasons for others to reject a person so...

[goebenbreslau]

yes. he was disabled and nobody would want to be friends with him at high school. i was always with him.

[handsomelad70]

One of my high school friends is generally regarded a jerk by most, plus my boy Jamie Logsdon is one of the crabbiest people I've ever ment

[Peridot25]

Absolutely! Then years later I saw their true colors myself.

[RedInnocent69]

Yeah. Although I take friendship seriously , it’s also not a popularity contest.

[Anonymous]

Yeah a few people... usually it's people that speak their mind. Most people don't like being told the truth

[MemeSupreme]

yeah and i got why but idc

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yes, of course.

[laly520]

yes n we r still friends

[Asker]

Do you know why they aren't well liked by others, not that you care?

[laly520]

she wasn't liked cuz she was autistic n they failed to accept her