Why do so many people think they know me so well when they don’t?

[Anonymous]

I’ve got a pretty face and I present as bubbly and gregarious. I make friends easily. What I’ve realised is that nearly everyone underestimates my intelligence and my kindness, probably because I allow people to see the bright, playful side of my nature, but I’m actually quite a private person.

Many people, friends included, pride themselves on being close friends who know me well. In reality, the only people who really know me fully are one friend, my boyfriend and my parents. I’ve come to understand that I come across a bubbly, not too bright, arrogant and out for myself type. In reality, in secret, I have done and still do all kinds of good stuff for others that only my mum knows about. Because I don’t feel the need to prove myself to others or be boastful.

[sawno]

Its hidden in your post, you keep the real you guarded and reserved. So the other people think they have seen everything there is to know since you never truly opened up to them and are apparently good at hiding it. Mix that with an otherwise outgoing personality and they'd think you told them everything.

[moneymagnet24]

I wanna know you 🙃

[Asker]

Well, thanks 😊. I guess I’m doing some soul searching.

[moneymagnet24]

I like private person they are pure gem 💎

[Asker]

I only just realised how private I actually am.

[moneymagnet24]

Aw ma'am would be my pleasure if I get opportunity to know you more ♥️

[Asker]

I sent you a follow request

[moneymagnet24]

Thank you maam 😘♥️

[Asker]

You’re welcome

[moneymagnet24]

Gorgeous would you allow me to pm you? 😘

[Asker]

Sure

[Asker]

I just added you again. You can feel free to private message me.

[moneymagnet24]

Thanks maam you're such a wonderful person 😘

[bobalife]

I’m the same way in every word you just described, but what matters is that you’re at peace with your humility and let people get to know you for you when the opportunity permits and comfortable doing so. It’s funny I actually made this an ice breaker question a week ago for a meeting I was facilitating “what is a positive affirmation we wanna hear that we don’t often received”, lots of interesting answers. I identified that I wanted to be more recognize for my intelligence and that plays in different areas. And to also answer your question, people see what we let them see and allow them to know that part of us. But there’s always more to an individual of course.

[Account]

The answer is pretty simple.
People don't think about you. They are more preoccupied thinking about themselves or about how other people view them, hence the post you made.
Therefore, they won't assume anything apart from what you show them.

[SotiCoto]

We don't know you, so why do you believe we'd be able to answer that question?

[thisAppIsGarbage]

Why donyou care? What they eat doesn't make you shit

[ThaMaskedMarvel]

In a word... Hubris.