Are my feelings still valid?

[aqvst]

my friend and i got into a falling out, I had talked somewhat badly about her which I took responsibility to change and reflect and said sorry but my friend did not take responsibility and say sorry for the things she had done to make me upset.

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for more context, i had said very hurtful things to her when i was angry months ago and I know that I shouldn’t said those things angry or not. At the college we went to, she screwed over our group of friends for a boy and made all of us look back with her. I said that she needed to be humble and she can’t be doing what she wants without looking how it affects others. She would ditch our friend group when we made plans weeks prior for boys even though she doesn’t like it when people do that 2her

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more context, ik it’s a lot. I was a horrible friend to her during college because of my poor mental health but that isn’t an excuse. She told me that the guy she was talking to at the time, looked like my ex which made me super uncomfortable and I told her that which she seem to brush it off. My now ex friend, didn’t take accountability for any of the things she did to me saying, “oh that’s just me” and, with her talking stage looking like my ex, “those are two different people-

[Oliverlogan263]

Ughh that's so frustrating when people don't own up to their stuff! Of course your feelings are still valid sweetie. You apologized like a mature person, so it's disappointing she couldn't do the same.

Some friendships just run their course unfortunately. Maybe give her some space to reflect on her part too. In the meantime, don't let her bring you down - you did all you could to make amends. Surround yourself with girls who appreciate you!

And please don't second guess your own experience. You felt hurt for a reason. Maybe writing in a journal about what happened could help process it fully without her gaslighting you. You deserve people who treat you with care and respect always. This too shall pass - keep that head high!

[Anonymous]

sure, your feelings can be valid but they are your feelings and only you are responsible for your feelings just like she is responsible for her feelings

[Saggitariusdiva]

Your question is too vague can you try explaining more so the situation can be understood more...

[aqvst]

i updated

[Saggitariusdiva]

You were wrong but you tried to make amends so if she doesn't want to be your friend anymore that's her problem... by the way it's cool that u apologised I can't bring myself to apologise even when I'm in the wrong

[SotiCoto]

Nobody's feelings are valid. If they were valid they wouldn't just be feelings.

[teamvic]

It depends what was said and what was done

[aqvst]

i updated what happened in details

[jahaims]

You gave almost no context

[aqvst]

i updated in detail