Is it limerence or are my feelings valid?

[Anonymous]

I think I deal with limerence a lot and I don’t know if I’m feeling limerence now or if I actually formed a connection with the last guy. It’s only been a year but the guy before him I hadn’t talked to in Yeaarrs. But I lasts found myself holding o not that little time that we had together. I feel embarrassed to think that I may be doing it again and I don’t want to. Granted though this time I was dating this guy Andy ad relations but he was also mean to me at times and in a sense didn’t like me as much as I liked him I don’t think. I’ve only ever felt like this twice. The guy from grade school and the guy I lost my virginity to. I don’t talk to either of them anymore but now I’m kind of still stuck on guy I lost v card to. I want to talk to him. I think about us reconnecting after so much time. But I don’t know if that’s because I’m lacking in love or if I just truly feel that way. And I have talked to other guys since the v card guy. I’ve slept with other guys since the vCard guy but I only crave him. I only want to rekindle something with him. What does it sound like? Should I bring it up to my therapist?

[BasedBaeBecca]

Hey, girl. So it sounds like you're having a lot of feelings of longing and nostalgia for the guy you lost your virginity to. But you're not sure if you're truly in love with him or if it's just a passing crush. And you're hesitant to reach out and contact him or reconnect after all this time.

If you're feeling confused and unsure about these feelings, it might be beneficial to discuss them with your therapist, especially if you have a history of becoming infatuated or obsessed with someone and that may be affecting you now in a similar way.

[Ironic_Method]

It's not uncommon to feel a particular attraction towards someone that borderline obsession. Therapy is always a good option to find out why you feel that way.