Am I justified for feeling this way?

[Anonymous]

Something has felt off and I know I shouldn't have but I looked at boyfriend's phone during a rare moment that it was unlocked. I saw explicit texts between him and a gay guy friend of his that made it clear that they had something sexual happen between them. My boyfriend claims that he's straight and that it was just an experiment, meant nothing, and that he didn't enjoy it. Ok, then why did boyfriend text that he loved the feeling of the guy finishing in his backside? From the texts it was obvious that my boyfriend was the one who had initiated the conversation. boyfriend tried to say that it wasn't what I think and that what happened between them happened before me. He's still friends with the guy and keeps in contact even though I've told him that it makes me feel uncomfortable. I asked him if he would like it if I was contacting an ex lover to reminisce on old sexual encounters and hanging out with him. Of course he said he wouldn't be ok with it. So why does he expect me to be ok with it? I'm having a hard time trusting him anymore. I know the obvious answer is to break up with him but right now I can't afford to live on my own with kids.

[sawno]

You are justified, not so much because he has gay tendencies but because he is being dishonest about it. If he had been openly bisexual the entire relationship and you knew about his past encounters (or he did current encounters with men with your permission) I don't think there would have been an issue. But the fact he is dishonest about both himself and what he is up to means you indeed have little reason to trust him.

[Anonymous]

Finance should never be a reason to stay with someone. It's a bad reason. Guy sounds like he's in denial. Its fair to be worried there.

[Roxilicious]

He’s clearly lying about it, and isn’t proud about the fact that he’s like gay or bi, and on top of that he’s just a cheater. I was just leave this man alone he’s a mess.

[Roxilicious]

Would just *

[LazerBean]

That is gross. Find any other living arrangement necessary and dispose of that boyfriend ASAP

[boggboss]

If u know what the answer is here then what are u asking sorry their is so many levels to ehy this is not OK