My husband is watching vloggers meet girls in different countries. It is starting to make me feel upset?

[ForeverAngel1233467]

Is it stupid that my husband watching vloggers meet girls around different parts of the world Is starting to bother me? He's been doing it over the last week, at first I was okay with it. But now that I seen it's like everyday based on his search history, it is starting to upset me, the vlog will be titled something like 'hot columbiana invites me to her room' or 'I went to a girls only bar' or 'trapped on the beach with Brazilians' , I mean I've seen him watch just purely travel blogs too. That's how it started off more or less. But now they just seem centered on meeting some sort of girls. I know it's just on YouTube which is why I have not brought it up with him but like don't make me feel that great. by the way , based on his search history it appears that these particular vloggers keep being suggested to him in YouTube so he's not actually searching for their name. But he is still clicking and watching the videos...

I havnt brought it up with him. I don't want to seem jelous and insecure, just want to know if I am justified in feeling upset or if I am overreacting? Can someone please give me some perspective.

[Anonymous]

You have very right to feel jealous and hurt!

Sound snore like just porn at that point! I'd be so hurt if my hubby watched it cause then he is not loving me wanting any one else but me!

Like is he trying to learn things or flirt with someone new! Has he tried to without you and got rejected!

Like so many questions and why so many!

[ForeverAngel1233467]

Exactly. I mean I have tried to come from the standpoint of at the end of the day he is a guy and guys like to watch things about girls / see beautiful girls.. but at the same time everyday. That's just not a nice feeling! I'm going to see if this persists and then bring it up... as calmly as possible! I mean I'm 29, Married with an almost 2 year old son... I do not have time or emotional space for this!

[Opinion Owner]

No you don't and he is emotionally cheating on you! He should be using that time to make you happy meet you romantically and with something special!

Not o look another slut they paid to sleep with the vloger

My ex watched mxr and it was nice funny cute couple but really it is about slutty thumb nails and clips. Even the couple admit to just pandering to horny poeple well guys.

He would not stop so it ended and he got a wife in a week and divorced her right after her baby girl!

Now he just flirts with anything with legs and fails!

[ForeverAngel1233467]

Yeah honestly , like watch other stuff but you should know being married not to watch that stuff. If it persists I will bring it up! I want him to realise by himself not for me to tell him!

[ForeverAngel1233467]

It will mean me saying I've been through his search history though on YouTube.

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry he won't realize it! He will just think he is getting away with it!
My boyfriend doesn’t stay hard during sex? ↗

[Opinion Owner]

Or just say this is suggested constantly why does he watch it!

[ForeverAngel1233467]

Yeah that's my fear with not bringing it up! Knowing him and men I've been with previously , if you don't say if they will just continue. It sucks to have to say it though ! You want them to do things by themselves ! Like on what planet is that ok

[Opinion Owner]

So agree like that is there with we need romance and he has to want to do it not be forced to or told to!

Like you should know it I'm not just there to be a boring wife we have needs!

Has he gotten bored of sex yet?

[ForeverAngel1233467]

No, that's why I havnt got so mad YET as he still comes to me every night wanting to have sex and most mornings. So I've tried to be like oh he's just a guy, he doesn't think too deep watching these things. But naturally if you're exposed to these things everyday it's not good for marriage!

[Opinion Owner]

No it is not good and your lucky!
Does he ever want something new or spicy or just the same?
Usually that is the first to go?

So shoot it is not

[Opinion Owner]

So happy!
How did it get shoot from happy?

[ForeverAngel1233467]

Sorry what do you mean by 'how did it get shoot from happy?'

Well I think every man wants something new and spicey!

[Opinion Owner]

Yes but what does he want? You playing someone he picks up?

My spell check changed that word on me 😔

[ForeverAngel1233467]

I try, but after seeing this it puts me off to be honest.. like just wanna do the same old shit lol and I still don't think that's an excuse to be watching those stuff but yeah

[Opinion Owner]

Then do the stuff you enjoy don't give him anything extra!

[ForeverAngel1233467]

I have no idea as he has never said anything like that to me!

[ForeverAngel1233467]

Yeah but that won't stop him from watching this stuff I guarantee. It's demoralising!

[Opinion Owner]

Nothing will stop him and you don't feel sexy so why bother?
Giving him something great won't help either

[ForeverAngel1233467]

True. So what do I do!!! Lol

[Shamalien]

At the end of the day, if something in a relationship bothers you this much, you can’t sit on it forever. Try to be chill but if the feeling won’t go away then you gotta find some real peaceful and kind way to bring this to his attention

[ForeverAngel1233467]

Yeah I know.. that's what I've been doing. Being chill. But when I saw a video last night he watched titled 'captured by Cuban girls' it made my heart sink. Like how chill can I be lol

[Shamalien]

Chill enough to think it through before you go revealing how insecure you are

[ForeverAngel1233467]

Yeah I really don't want to reveal that!!! That's why I wanted perspective if that's normal to do it everyday.

[Shamalien]

It does sound a bit sus…but so long as it’s just vids who cares. Men enjoy looking at good looking women. It’s not at all emotional. If I have a sexy swimsuit calendar on my wall, will my girlfriend be jealous? Men are different than women…it’s just sexy scenery to us

[ForeverAngel1233467]

The fact you say it's a bit Sus shows you don't think it's completely right.., I mean it ain't terrible but yeah I know the thing about men which is why I'm tryna be cool but like I'm your wife !

[Shamalien]

I mean as a wife you have tools at your disposal. There are so many ways for a woman to capture a man’s sexual attention, it shouldn’t be difficult. Do some research into that. Ultimately these are your insecurities, he’s free to watch whatever he wants. If he was a little more “drained” so to speak, the habit would probably have never formed in the first place

[ForeverAngel1233467]

Yeah I dunno because I never felt like that was lacking nor does he show that section is...

[Shamalien]

Well there’s always room for improvement isn’t there? Couldn’t hurt to try

[ForeverAngel1233467]

What is it gonna resolve exactly.. he will magically stop watching the videos lol nah I think it's just cause I havnt said anything that's why

[Shamalien]

Okay well be warned, trying to control your partner isn’t always the best move

[ImalwaysrightOK]

It's just online. If it upsets you, he shouldn't do it, but unless he actually knows any of these girls or talks to them, it's not too terrible.

[ForeverAngel1233467]

Yeah I know it's not terrible at the day it's just online, but everyday I think is just inappropriate for a married man. Like the odd video okay, I'm not saying he has to be dead in his mind towards women because he's married but like have some boundaries. I know it's online, that's why I havnt brought it up yet but if it persists I guess I'm gonna have too

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Like I said, if it upsets you he should want to not do that anymore. He's supposed to want to make you happy.

[AngryCarl2]

If you've complained to him he shouldn't persist. Otherwise, I wouldn't read too much into what guys watch online. A lot of folks just watch whatever turns up in their feed.

[ForeverAngel1233467]

I havnt complained to him yet to be honest... but I may have too!

[LemiaOfThunder]

Dicuss way it makes you uncomfortable