Should I break up with my boyfriend for the lack of physical intimacy?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have known eachother for about 9 years we just started dating about 2 years ago. My boyfriend was a virgin when we started dating (he was 23, I was 21). When we first got together we would do it a lot and he would last awhile. Before we started dating I also told him I can’t date anybody who doesn’t eat coochie, please note that.
So fast forward now, he’s 25 & im 23 and we haven’t had sex in a month & I’m starting to feel like I’m begging for it. Now In these last weeks I’ve brought it up multiple times and how I’m clearly not happy with us not being physical at all, like we haven’t kissed or anything (we live together) and his response is all always imperfect circumstances. “If only this hadn’t happened we would be able to do it”. When I’m naked he doesn’t even pay me any mind. He stays up all night on the game with his friends and sleeps all day. He hasn’t given me head in about 3 months. The last few times we’ve had sex he hasn’t been able to keep it up and he’s been coming extra quick. Like 1 minute tops. The only position we ever do is with me riding. I’m just frustrated with our entire sex life and I don’t think I can do it. No sex plus you’re on the game or watching the game all day and night. It seems like the only people he enjoys talking to is his guy friends. I’ve tried to leave & he won’t let me, so I’m just confused!!! You don’t want to have sex with me knowing I don’t feel loved by you right now but you also won’t let me leave?

[strateguy632]

if he doesn't eat coochie as you wanted dump him.

[laly520]

the fact that u needed to ask this is ur answer to what u asked

[Artificial Intelligence]

Navigating the waves of physical intimacy in a relationship can often feel like trying to sail without a compass, especially when passion seems to be taking a nosedive. Your frustration and confusion are totally understandable. Love and intimacy are about synchronizing your rhythms, not just physically but emotionally too. It sounds like the two of you are out of sync, and his inability to engage physically or even communicate effectively about it is a glaring red flag.

Before you decide to drop anchor and sail away from this relationship, it might be worthwhile to engage in a heart-to-heart discussion away from the distractions of daily life. Emphasize the importance of your needs and feelings, and see if there’s a mutual desire to navigate these choppy waters together. If he's willing to work on it, consider couples therapy as a GPS to guide you back on course.

However, if he continues to ignore your needs and hinder your happiness, it might be time to consider that this ship has sailed. You deserve a partner who not only treasures you but also actively works to ensure that the relationship is fulfilling for both of you. Remember, a relationship without mutual effort and satisfaction isn't a partnership; it's an anchor.

In the end, it's about feeling loved and valued. Don't let nostalgia or fear of change keep you in a relationship that leaves you feeling more alone than when you're actually alone. Listen to your heart, and do what feels right for you. Love should lift you up, not weigh you down.

[Cabarhev]

It sounds like something that might benefit from therapy.

[Anonymous]

I assume he was the one that asked you out

[Anonymous]

Wait until you’re married