Do you love and respect your father?

[Chazmatazz269]

Simple enough question. Fathers’ day is coming up. I’ve been thinking about my dad more, as maybe some of you have. Are your thoughts and memories of your dad mostly positive? Or are they mostly negative?
My father was far from perfect. However, it wasn’t until i was an adult, no longer being served my mother’s resentments to taint my own feelings about my father, that i learned he was doing the best he could. One of the few regrets i can’t shake is that i never told him as much. My father, a good man, probably thought i chose my abusive, manipulative and vindictive mother over him. I can only hope that i showed him how important he was to me before he died.

[Tee1997]

Nope don't love him at all. Since being a child he was a workaholic never paid towards the bills nothing (you'd think his working to put a roof over our head wrong), instead he always sent money to his relatives instead. He never spent time with us kids, instead he belittled me. Maybe when I was first young he brought me toys but yeah with time even the phone calls would stop because i stopped talking to him over the phone. I would long for a father, i grew up without a father seeing him only once a week haha and I wanted love so much that I kept seeking for it in men who abused me instead. My own father belittled me making me feel unworthy growing up differentiating between me and my sister saying she's gold and am bronze. My father is a lousy father who is selfish and never spends on himself too and financially abuses my mum too. He takes all her money and expects us, me and my siblings to give him money. Me and my siblings besides my sister have no actual bond with him. He as a father failed us and was never there for us and my mum having a husband she doesn't have a husband because he chooses money over her. My dad instead of being there all my life the only thing he did was get me married to someone in a arrange marriage by pressure. My dad always people pleases people and he argued with me because I don't wanna be like him and he also during a massive argument with my brother decided to not back me when my sis inlaw decided to be horrible with me. My dad betrayed me that day when he had a chance to stood up for me. I hated my father the most during my pregnancy as far as telling him I want him gone from this world. He would verbally insult me. His a terrible father. It's better having no father figure than one like this..

Now his old and none of us besides my sister want nothing to do with him. His a disappointment to us. For my dad life is a profit.

[blueonblack22]

I am sorry you went through this.

[Cutegirl06]

I do love and respect my dad. He's always done the best he can for our family.

[blueonblack22]

Why are you forcing everybody to go public? I would share a lot more if I was anon.

Anyway I was fortunate to have a near perfect father. He selflessly devoted himself to his family and wife. He always put himself second.

I do not however feel this way at all about my mother. She was born beautiful and unfortunately this gave her a lot of power which she shamelessly abused. She was far more selfish then my father and she got away with it for a very long time.

[mobiusforniner]

My dad chronically put me down and frequently beat me when I was a child, simply because it “felt good to see someone suffer”. He threatens to beat my kids because “that’s how kids are supposed to learn”. In our last conversation, he was upset I’m a self sufficient career individual and I “make myself look better than him.” He yelled “YOU DONT RESPECT ME!!” I replied “You’re right, dad. I don’t respect you. I’m ashamed of you”…

So, no…..

[exitseven]

Yes He has been dead a long time and we were on the outs for a while but we sorted it all out. He was the son of immigrants and joined the army before he graduated from high school. I think he lied about his age. This was in WW2. He spent most of the war in a German POW camp. He was a small business owner and worked hard to provide for his family. He really was one of the heroes of this country.

[bobby_bush_eater]

Yes I do. He came here a peasant child who didn't speak English. He graduated college, got a good job, raised a family who never knew the poverty that he and my grandparents endured.

He embodies the American dream to me and I will always remember that

[SaltyBeaches]

Yes I do. My dad is the best human being I know. He has always made me and my siblings the center of his universe. The older I get, the more I recognize and appreciate the sacrifices he has made for us. Love ya Dad!

[HelpfulWoman]

I feel affection towards him but I'm not sure i'd actually classify it as love.
he's just not been in my life for a lot of it so we're rebuilding the relationship. but he's trying and he's a great grandad to my kids so i have no resentment for him

[OfMiceandMen]

I sure do, he taught me good life lessons that I will carry through the rest of my life and teach my daughter.

[Juxtapose]

No! He's a prick, is always so negative and so damn pushy. I don't talk to him.

And if somebody tries to use this information to try & make me feel bad or whatnot? You are only letting me realize how rotten you are and I will never forget it.

I say that in advance because people have done that and I know they will, all the while hiding behind avatars like cowards.

[northerngal]

Always have always will. My father has always been there for me and a fantastic role model.

[Blueeyes81]

Very much so. He's the most stand up individual I have ever encountered. Right is right and wrong is wrong and he will never compromise on those even if it means a detriment to himself.

[SotiCoto]

He has been dead for 22 years, and I was never all that close with him in the first place because my parents split when I was 2.

[DJB72]

My dad was my best friend. He passed in 1999 and there's not a day I don't miss his presence

[bolverk]

Yes I loved and respected my Father, and I still do even if its some time since he died.

[LiamJHayden]

He was my hero.

[ICanSmellTheCosmos]

Yes, I do! A better man than I.

[impalabill77]

Yes I do.